Never ever settle it will only make you question yourself in the end.Like my sister told me "while you are tied up with the wrong one you are not available to be happy with someone more compatible."
I think it is only natural to compare the one you just met with the one you loved.It is probably because you don't want to make a mistake and esspecially when You thought the person you lost was the best.I agree it's not fair.
A word to those who may be on the other side of this situation please be patient with us while we discover all the wonderful things about you.jmo carol

Yes, even in rough times and there were lots of them, I never had to worry about did he love me. Uncondional love or a love you know you have without guessing and worrying...
Lord let that feeling come back and if it can't guess I'll try to make the people around me happy and glad that they know me...

To better days, times, and years to come. Happy Valentines to us and everyone!

Unconditonal love oh,how I miss that.Happy Valentines Day my friend!

Thanks carolanne,
I hope everyone will survive the "Big Red VD"....

I think of all those men doing the Valentine thing out of shame and pressure and wouldn't want to be in their shoes.

Hoping that everyone feels a little nudge of love....its out there...we just have to pay attention!

Ahhh, thanks I feel better now, I don't even have somebody to do the Valentine thing shamefully with.

Good evening
I am new to this site and to chat lines. Over 50 and widowed 3 years. Just looking for friends to chat/vent with. Thanks

Welcome msfrost I too am a widow of 12 yrs. This is a great place to meet people.Post and have fun.

Hi Von55, I read your post with great interest because I have been a widow since March 2008 and eventhough I go to family things and do some other fun activities I still don't have that feeling that I am special to anyone. I'm special to my Mom, etc but you know what I mean. And bedtime is the pits, huh? About a week after my husband died I did a cry that came from my toenails! It scared me I cried so hard. After that the crying tapered off some and now I just cry at a sentimental movie or something like that or if I'm having a Pity Party. People have often wondered if a divorce or death of a spouse is the worst. Having been through both I would say they are equally hard, just different type pain. Anyway, you are stronger than you can imagine and we will help you be strong.

I am 61 years old and I have been a widower for 20 years on April 12. I have no kids and I have no family living near me so you could say I am very lonely.

I see you just passed that anniversary date. Hope you're doing ok. Glad to see you checked in with us.

I am not so good

Sorry to hear you are feeling lonely kiteman.

I'm out here in the Pacific Ocean and no relatives for lots of miles.

There are times when it just does not seem real, like the years have slipped away and you think to yourself, "this can't be my life".

Sometimes we just have to make the effort to get out there, see and be seen. Easter Sunday, I had the pleasure of getting together with a few people for a brunch....what an odd assortment we were and yet it was like being with your family.....perhaps better, because sometimes family feel as if they can critique you and friends just wish you well!

Hope you find people to be with! Message me to hear about a possible organization that might help.

HERE'S TO DAYS FILLED WITH HOPE AND BETTER TIMES!!

Seems to be lots of widows and widowers on the 50 and over thread. I'm sure they understand what you're going through.

At least you know some nice people. I have no one to talk to or be with.
I do need help but I sold my car so all I do is sit at my computer all day long

I have met one lady through this forum and I wrote her Saturday. I think she is out of town because she always answers me. No answer yet

Yea I know some of my friends are on vacation this week.

I guess I have to go it alone, it will take some time.

I think there are a lot of 30-somethings (40, etc, etc) out there who are lonely too. You can't look for a mate to fill that void. Make friends, take advantage of family you are close with. If you are looking for a mate to fill the void in your life, then you will probably end up "settling" just to have someone in your life. And then , unfortunately, it probably won't last and you will be back here again. Just my opinion. Keep busy, make friends, and hopefully you will find someone to share your life with.

I am not just settling for anyone, I have not had a date in years

Welcome to over 50 msfrost,have fun and enjoy the forums