Why do some people jump from relationship to relationship?

Is that healthy?

Why can’t some people be alone for a bit (at least to get some closure and inward inspections)?

What do you do Mirror?

I wait. It takes me a while.

Because they are lonely

Ummm, no it is not healthy

Because they feel empty if they stay single for awhile

I believe those that do that are either codependent, afraid to be alone, or both.

I knew a guy that did not like being alone. When he went into the military and had to move away from family, he actually met a girl...and before I knew it...he was married! Yeah. But some people aren't satisfied being alone. They need someone to care for them, hang out, etc, etc, etc. Is this healthy? I don't think so. They are not learning to be dependent. How can they take care of themselves? That's the question.

Why not experience the most in life....some of us are at the age that time means everything....why waste a minute of it....I love being alone most of the time....am very comfortable in my life....but would still like to find the one that I am supposed to be with.

Well I definitely take my time and have space between relationships. However, my friend jumps from one to another...she said it helps her get over the last guy she was with. But I can't imagine that being good. :(

I beleve that some jump from person to person is so they are not alone. Also if there are with someone eles they dont have to deal with what they did to cause the last relationship to end. If they are with another person they are not alone were they have nothing to do but think about what went wrong and face the truth of whats wrong with them that makes them go from person to person.

Maybe they are afraid or unable to have a relationship with themselves first - and if you don't like yourself, other relationships are likely to fail.

I've posted and read replies that some people will be over someone in 3 days - tops! I just don't understand - glad I can't and kinda envious simultaneously.

true

Being lonely is very scary, terrifying for some. But it is necessary to heal. I make the choice each day. It is one day at a time, a struggle to sit still with the uncomfortable feelings.

Lets see....I was alone for 4 years out of the last 10 after my divorce. Between 4 major relationships during the other 6 years, there was time alone, but it was not used to mourn properly. Something always got in the way. I was also seeking during 2 of the 4 years alone, although I did not date. So, I guess that doesn't really count as being "truly" alone with my uncomfortable feelings. Its hard.

I have had many more losses of all kinds in my 42 years than most will have in their lifetimes. Its not easy having all of them reactivated every time I experience a loss of some sort. It doesn't have to be a romantic loss. ....I guess that is why.

I agree some people are just very uncomfortable being alone.

I think it takes time to heal and adjust.

Why is it that people make it sometimes seem like individuals made the choice to become codependent or addicted to something? Who knows why one can love or use and not become hooked and another can do the same and get very stuck? It is NOT their fault for testing the waters, especially in the case of survivors.

These are dis-eases of the body and mind.

However, they ARE responsible for becoming aware, learning, and constantly striving, with the help of peers (because this is NOT something a person can do alone and it is NOT a moral failing) to make better choices, the right choices. Sometimes they falter, only to get right back up in the saddle again.

I am weary of people blaming the survivors who fight hard, every day of their lives, to make positive change. Picking on them when they falter only serves to increase their vulnerability to making bad choices again due to the self-blame and shame that it triggers in them. If you want to help them, seek not to shame and blame, but to support without enabling. Let them find their own way, but know that you care and are rooting for them.

Yup, it's like that. No one really does it all on their own, with or without support groups. I do see you being responsible, bouncing back, and it's good to see. Politically correct or not, you go girl!

It's healthy to take some alone time, and focus on yourself once in a while.

I am sorta this way. I guess being in a relationship from 17-22, I never truly learned what it is to be alone. Recently I got divorced. Took six months to get over it, and got a new girlfriend, and she died;It's been four months, and I'm not sure if I'm totally over it yet, but I am gonna start dating again tommorrow(literally, I have a date with the hottest woman I know). I'm hoping that it will give me a new start.

Some don't like being alone... its depressing..

I've waited too long