however, if you were dating him, i'm almost sure that you would find something about him that made him attractive, and would no longer think of him as being ugly.

meaning, people become more beautiful as you fall in love with them.

Well yeah I guess, but that's a big if, 'cause he's about the only person I've seen I really don't think I could look at for long. I can usually find something attractive about anyone, it would be hard with him.

Yes and no. But I find people are usually only ugly to me by their attitude and personality.

I was just going to say that people who say "no" are kidding themselves.

Of course... "getting to know their personality" is the most important thing but it seems there has to be something that makes you look twice in the first place.

A beautiful face can become ugly if the person isn't kind - and visa versa if you like them.

they do to me ...

Yes looks do matter. There must be some form of physical attraction in a relationship. However bear in mind the "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", therefore what may be attractive to one will not necessarily hold true for another.
True beauty is what lies in the soul, which is what I am more attracted to in a person.

I have to be honest. If I have to look at you day in and out, you can't be ugly. But, I tell you the good looking ones (men) are normally lacking in other ways because their good looks have gotten them by. He doesn't have to look like Blair Underwood, but he can't look like JJ Evans.

I think they are the first impression of what some assume we are. Then hopefully they aren`t so shallow as to leave it at that.

My ex husband was model perfect,but a jerk.My ex boyfriend was 325 lbs. and bald,but the nicest man you ever met. alot of people called him ugly.No person is ugly unless they`re heart is.

good point

There has to be some kind of attraction there. That being said, what's attractive to me may not be attractive to the next person.

You better believe that looks matter...if they didn't why the Hell did God bother making the Peacock?

That is true...I think there has to be some initial attraction...then for me anyways there has to be more for any kind of relationship to start

i think they matter' because both people' have to be attracted' to each other for them to date' or whatever it can't be just one way you like my look's and i don't like your's it won't work out to good but personality' do count to.

I bet looks don't matter to him

To a point yes they are. No matter what most people say, there has to be a spark of attraction that could be for me anything from his smile lighting up his whole face or something as simple as a way he raises his eyebrow.
I think everyone has a preference to what they want in a mate. The reality is that most of us don't fit into the barbie or ken idealogy so we are left on the curb.
I myself will admit I look at eye candy I usually don't want or touch it since been there once,done that and don't want it again.I want the real thing.
I think physical attraction is one of the hardest things to express. I know it has to be there tho.

Life and Love ...they are all about perspective...
What is attractive to me, may not be attractive to someone else.
What I find most attractive about a woman,is the way the outside reflects the inside.
If you truely look deep you see it in the eyes and the body language.
If she is true to herself, it shows on the outside and highlights the essence of her outward beauty.
JMO

Great Post I think that could be said for either gender.

MOM!!!!! Where ya BEEN....she still has my hat...lol

LOL tina you are funny and fun.. stay cool