Not knowly or willing the second I find out I am, any relationship is over period.

And, it is interesting how there are some men out there that claim to know and agree with this, then continue womanizing. All I can say is, beware of wolves in sheep's clothing.

Sounds like you are territorial.

Although there is nothing wrong with polysexuality or polyamory if all have full knowledge and consent.

On the other hand, ....its not my cup of tea, either. So, I "grok" where you are coming from.

Happy New Year

Some women enjoy being the other woman....
Some women can't let go even after finding out...
Some women may want the man to leave his wife....

And here's the real question for anyone who WOULD knowingly be the 'other woman' - how long before there's ANOTHER 'other woman.'

If he'll cheat for you he'll cheat on you, IMO.

In order to be fair, I have to say that the same goes for women who cheat with "another man."

You either practice fidelity or not and it takes two.

While I admit that there are some women who are just as predatory as these types of men, most of the women you describe are:

either afraid of intimacy....

Or, of abandonment, loss, rejection, loneliness.

Guys who take advantage of women like this are, in my humble opinion, creeps.

Now, pardon me while I go puke.

Well, not sure if its fair to lump all who cheat (as opposed to "all cheats") into the same category.

I think we are talking about habitual or compulsive cheats here.

Everyone is entitled to a mistake, for extreme reasons. Some folks will do it once in their life, but I'm not sure on what the statistics are on how many people do it compulsively. I would hope the numbers might be lower there.

Point taken...I interpreted the decision to be the "other woman" as more of a long-term affair sort of situation.

I think someone could get stuck in a cycle with just one predatory partner in their lives. Like the married women/primary partner who didn't accept/know that their spouse/partner was cheating compulsively and never divorced/ended.

Or, then we have marrieds or primary partners who know, on some level, but tolerate it or accept it and don't end. Aren't they (even if they are the "lawful partner" or primary partner) allowing the cheating to happen on the other women if they know about it and do nothing? its a personal choice whether to get involved in blowing the whistle, and I know many factors come into play. Not an easy decision and everyone is entitled to choose for themselves. No one can live your life for you after the choice is made. It comes down to what a person can tolerate/accept.

Perhaps the other women do or don't know. Hard to say.

Also, I do not believe it matters if the pattern is with several/consecutive partners over the course of a lifetime, or just one. Women tend to stay stuck in a pattern for reasons different than men do - most of the time, but not always.

i did that... he was a coworker... and his wife would call him all the time... and i would always be the one to answer the phone.. the guilt got to me, separated or not, and i couldn't do it anymore...

whoa what did the wife say when you answered the phone?

Some women become the other women later in years after someone else had broken up their marriage....

I couldn't.

Many times the co-worker is the other woman.....

Not even if HE did this.....

NO,,,I can ONLY be one woman at a time.....




People.......lol

What if the other woman was a friend?

I like cheese.

Interesting....

How did you find out?