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Jamie82
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I don't smother but if i love them it shows and i'm not afraid to show it. I know what it's like to be smothered and be neglected so i try not to do either.
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Edited by
Jamie82
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rather love too much than too little  AMEN..
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rather love too much than too little so you smother your partner?  Wooohooooo.... 
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Can you love and care for someone too much? If it is true love and caring, no. If it is the sick dysfunctional love of say...a codependent person, yes. Or the controlling love of a manipulator, yes. If you love and care for them enough to let them go so they can be happy then that is all the love you need. |
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Can you love and care for someone too much? If it is true love and caring, no. If it is the sick dysfunctional love of say...a codependent person, yes. Or the controlling love of a manipulator, yes. If you love and care for them enough to let them go so they can be happy then that is all the love you need.  Well said
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I would say yes.
However I would like to know what it actually feels like for someone to love me "too much". It's a completely foreign concept............ |
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It feels like smothering and you end up resenting the person.
I don't believe the behaviour associated with loving someone too much is actually love. I think it's over compensation. But then, that's just my opinion. Still, there has to be a happy medium. |
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Can you love and care for someone too much? When you forget to love yourself too... |
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Edited by
angelindarkness
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Fri 01/02/09 09:08 PM
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Can you love and care for someone too much? Yes. ....Except (and most will probably not be able to understand or accept this), in the case of an alternate lifestyle relationship, where many of these so called "vanilla" rules do not apply. Or, rather, to a different degree. In a D/s relationship, for example, the "s" cannot smother because they are not permitted manipulation or control. The "D" in the relationship controls everything about it. What distinguishes it from codependency, love/relationship addiction, and unhealthy SM is that it is consensual, safe, and sane. There is an expectation of mutual trust, respect, and genuine liking and affection. Nothing is ever done in anger or passive aggression. Most practitioners would never dream of mixing this sort of play or relationship with mood altering substances. The community also mediates or keeps an eye out, to some extent, to assure safety for all, but particularly the "s" in the relationship. |
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Its like logs on a fire. Too close, and it can't get oxygen and burn. Too far apart and there isn't enough heat. A relationship has to be the right distance apart, and that distances changes with time. Its a like a dance, coming closer then backing away. |
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Can you love and care for someone too much? Yes. ....Except (and most will probably not be able to understand or accept this), in the case of an alternate lifestyle relationship, where many of these so called "vanilla" rules do not apply. Or, rather, to a different degree. In a D/s relationship, for example, the "s" cannot smother because they are not permitted manipulation or control. The "D" in the relationship controls everything about it. What distinguishes it from codependency, love/relationship addiction, and unhealthy SM is that it is consensual, safe, and sane. There is an expectation of mutual trust, respect, and genuine liking and affection. Nothing is ever done in anger or passive aggression. Most practitioners would never dream of mixing this sort of play or relationship with mood altering substances. The community also mediates or keeps an eye out, to some extent, to assure safety for all, but particularly the "s" in the relationship.  Well said
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if you love them too much its not love.
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nah u cant love someone too much. love is a feeling and smothering is an action. you can love someone so much that u know u need to let them go or willing to lay ur life down for that person. its just some people dont want to love like that or arent capable of it. as a wise man said its better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. you have to risk yourself to really love someone its just the way it is. too affectionate yes, unreturned love yes, but if you want that special person in ur life u got to put all your chips in and hope they call you. you can always love again but why regret that you didnt try? Go for it man!
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nah u cant love someone too much. love is a feeling and smothering is an action. you can love someone so much that u know u need to let them go.... its just some people dont want to love like that or arent capable of it. as a wise man said its better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. you have to risk yourself to really love someone its just the way it is. ....you can always love again but why regret that you didnt try? Go for it man! |
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yes i do.....
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I'd call it smothering if the other person finds loving and caring too much from their partner. To each his own.  |
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Can you love and care for someone too much? If it becomes needy and clingy .. absolutely |
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