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Topic: honesty
tusselboy Joined Sat 10/18/08 Posts: 274	Thu 01/01/09 08:00 PM
We all say honesty is the best policy,so where is it in a relationship?

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Thu 01/01/09 08:00 PM
Down there in the fine print.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Thu 01/01/09 08:01 PM
We all say honesty is the best policy,so where is it in a relationship? In the beginning, the middle so there is no end.

willaxtman Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 141	Thu 01/01/09 08:03 PM
ah but is it 100% honesty? ive a friend whos girl recently let him know that he was the worst lay she had ever had. she didnt do it in a mean way, just being honest. it still tho just absoloutley crushed him!

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Thu 01/01/09 08:05 PM
ah but is it 100% honesty? ive a friend whos girl recently let him know that he was the worst lay she had ever had. she didnt do it in a mean way, just being honest. it still tho just absoloutley crushed him! If this is true then it is her fault as much as it is his.

willaxtman Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 141	Thu 01/01/09 08:06 PM
her fault as much as his? hmmm how so? lol guess im a lil naieve :)

tusselboy Joined Sat 10/18/08 Posts: 274	Thu 01/01/09 08:07 PM
I guess there is still some honest ones left.

willaxtman Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 141	Thu 01/01/09 08:10 PM
honest yes, but what im wondering is if sometimes you can be a lil TOO honest when tellin a person somethin like that. i think most men would prefer being lied to and have her tell them "you rocked my world" lol

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 01/01/09 08:13 PM
We all say honesty is the best policy,so where is it in a relationship? no it isn't

tusselboy Joined Sat 10/18/08 Posts: 274	Thu 01/01/09 08:14 PM
honest yes, but what im wondering is if sometimes you can be a lil TOO honest when tellin a person somethin like that. i think most men would prefer being lied to and have her tell them "you rocked my world" lol good question, to which I have no answer.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Thu 01/01/09 08:19 PM
honest yes, but what im wondering is if sometimes you can be a lil TOO honest when tellin a person somethin like that. i think most men would prefer being lied to and have her tell them "you rocked my world" lol I have to stand by honesty..There are ways to say things with out destroying someone. If and when you have to destroy someone by being honest then in my opinion you aren't being honest you are being cruel. I grew up with the lesson of allowing the other person to have their dignity and pride if at all possible. I adhere to this in all that I do. I will not knowing hurt someone by my subjective honesty. I will state how I feel and not lie to him. Most of all I will not lie to myself.

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Thu 01/01/09 08:21 PM
IM actually liein right now

willaxtman Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 141	Thu 01/01/09 08:22 PM
sitka, again i love your view. ive had ex's tear me down with that "cruel honesty" you spoke of before and i know exactly what it is you mean! theres better ways to do things and still keep your integrity

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Thu 01/01/09 08:25 PM
ah but is it 100% honesty? ive a friend whos girl recently let him know that he was the worst lay she had ever had. she didnt do it in a mean way, just being honest. it still tho just absoloutley crushed him! That's not honesty. That's cruelty.

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Thu 01/01/09 08:26 PM Edited by littleredhen on Thu 01/01/09 08:27 PM
honest yes, but what im wondering is if sometimes you can be a lil TOO honest when tellin a person somethin like that. i think most men would prefer being lied to and have her tell them "you rocked my world" lol I have to stand by honesty..There are ways to say things with out destroying someone. If and when you have to destroy someone by being honest then in my opinion you aren't being honest you are being cruel. I grew up with the lesson of allowing the other person to have their dignity and pride if at all possible. I adhere to this in all that I do. I will not knowing hurt someone by my subjective honesty. I will state how I feel and not lie to him. Most of all I will not lie to myself. Ah, I should have kept reading. Well said Sitka!

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Thu 01/01/09 08:27 PM
honest yes, but what im wondering is if sometimes you can be a lil TOO honest when tellin a person somethin like that. i think most men would prefer being lied to and have her tell them "you rocked my world" lol I have to stand by honesty..There are ways to say things with out destroying someone. If and when you have to destroy someone by being honest then in my opinion you aren't being honest you are being cruel. I grew up with the lesson of allowing the other person to have their dignity and pride if at all possible. I adhere to this in all that I do. I will not knowing hurt someone by my subjective honesty. I will state how I feel and not lie to him. Most of all I will not lie to myself. We are not worthy!

Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 2109	Thu 01/01/09 08:29 PM
honest yes, but what im wondering is if sometimes you can be a lil TOO honest when tellin a person somethin like that. i think most men would prefer being lied to and have her tell them "you rocked my world" lol I have to stand by honesty..There are ways to say things with out destroying someone. If and when you have to destroy someone by being honest then in my opinion you aren't being honest you are being cruel. I grew up with the lesson of allowing the other person to have their dignity and pride if at all possible. I adhere to this in all that I do. I will not knowing hurt someone by my subjective honesty. I will state how I feel and not lie to him. Most of all I will not lie to myself. Agree. There are ways to say things and ways not to say things. To honestly express one's point of view should never come at the cost of another person's dignity. That is a goal we should all strive towards.

tusselboy Joined Sat 10/18/08 Posts: 274	Thu 01/01/09 08:32 PM
honest yes, but what im wondering is if sometimes you can be a lil TOO honest when tellin a person somethin like that. i think most men would prefer being lied to and have her tell them "you rocked my world" lol I have to stand by honesty..There are ways to say things with out destroying someone. If and when you have to destroy someone by being honest then in my opinion you aren't being honest you are being cruel. I grew up with the lesson of allowing the other person to have their dignity and pride if at all possible. I adhere to this in all that I do. I will not knowing hurt someone by my subjective honesty. I will state how I feel and not lie to him. Most of all I will not lie to myself. marry me sitkarains,lol

freeonthree Joined Tue 06/19/07 Posts: 2407	Thu 01/01/09 08:32 PM
It should be right there on top, in plain view. But that would be a perfect relationship.

willaxtman Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 141	Thu 01/01/09 08:33 PM
lol no joke tus :)