If you were interested in getting serious with someone and had the opportunity to find out anything you wanted to know, would you do it? If you found out something bad about them or found out they weren't who they said they were, would you tell them how you found them out?

Do you wish you could have had the opportunity to do that with someone in your past, so you wouldn't have had to go through all the heartache you've been through now?

Would you feel it was an invasion of your privacy if someone did this to you?

eeeek. idn. im bad at that.

Bad at which part?

Um not so much. I have googled a few dates. Seen divorce records, personal protection orders, job related issues, found out a woman I know is getting married to a sex offender.

I would want to but wouldn't actually do it! I do feel it's an invasion of privacy. Either you can trust someone or you can't.The truth always comes out on its own.

at deciding if i should get serious with someone or not. im rly picky, too much so at times. ive only had one gf, and she set the bar pretty high for me, so its been dificult for me to be happy with girls.

I think I might have to say something there, regardless of the consequences

no ,not until i had a reason.

Nope... i live life blind... i go with the flow.. if i am meant to know then the info will come to me... i dont go snooping.. thats how bad things happen

with out a doubt I would try to find out all I can ...why because it has happened in the past someone didn't tell me the truth.. so its a trust issue.. besides I have found out that not everyone on a singles site is strickly honest or up front about themselves... and I would also tell them I plan to do a search of some type... and as for them doing one on me... I welcome it.. it clears the air about who I am I have nothing to hide to begine with so why the fear about looking?

you know when your a kid sometimes you play a game "if i where a superhero" and you would pick your powers

most people want to fly like superman
or
be invisible so they can go to the girls locker room with impunity

me i always wanted to be able to read peoples minds or learn everything about anything just by touching it!

so yeah, i would jump at the chance to read the minds of my ex's. i think there are huge advantages to knowing what a person is thinking!

and if someone had that power to use on me i wouldnt consider it an invasion of privacy... **** id sit down and ask them what they saw. it would be a revealing, eye opening experience.

Nah...gotta go with your gut. Delving into someones past before you get to know them on your own is big sign of insecurity and will only lead to jealousy down the road.

::eye roll::

i dont look backwards wishing for change......i look forward to the future....and if i went back i would make the same exact decisions to keep what i have in the present

WTF?

I have all your files at my desk

hmmm, I have been "pondering these kinds of questions" my self for some time now, and will share my "thoughts" on this subject...Love, "true love" is hard to believe or "detect" in some people, I am working on a "devise in my laboratory at the present time and hope to scientifically have "The Results" from these tests...at a later date, but for now all I can say is love hurts, and you are who matters most, and I think that way down deep inside ourselves we know what is best for us, all kidding aside, be true to self, I always say. Happy Trails......

Not everyone is willing to be that honest, especially on the internet.

Don't look at ways to discover the past and present of who you meet because your sure to find things (nobody is perfect) but more likely work on your own self and how you choose your partners if you have so much untrusting issues it is your own problem not the ones you meet.

We all make mistakes in our choices of partners, even if we are suppose to learn form our past experiences we should not apply all our bad ones and imply that everybody we meet will be the same.

I was recently dating someone who I found out was not who he claimed to be. I found out through a little digging ...because I was suspicious and since I am a reporter, well I have my sources. I also heard things from his family and friends. I told him what I knew, and never told him where I got the info. Needless to say that relationship is over!