I am genuinely interested in who people are and how they arrived at a
place. That naturally includes their history.

Now if I am constantly being compared then that isn't cool. If they are
still living in the past then that will be problematic.

There have been previous relationships for you both. Many of those will
involve children. You can't ignore it. The best we can do is find a
balance and to be mindful and respectful of the new relationship you are
forming with another.

Everything we experience and live just gets us ready for the next thing.
For that alone, I will be grateful regardless of the circumstances.

jeez, good point! and, I missed saying it, LMAO!

no. never compare. all bad news...

I Am my past, and present, though...

woe to whomever, hehehehe

I think that some people are a bit confused on love. Some have
interrupted love = badly written soap opera. Just kidding - sort of.

The truth is that some people actually become addicted to the highs and
lows of created chaos. Now, this does not apply to situations beyond
one's control. On the other hand, most of us have more control over
our lives than we acknowledge. I suspect that they do not want to
acknowledge that they can do something about their lives because they
would then have to be responsible for it.

For me I would rather know everything...helps me to know the real him.
Knowing what they have gone through in the past helps you to understand
the person they are today..Some are hard obstacles to break down, but at
least you know why they feel as they do sometimes.

Yeah, but there is a difference in learning about someones past and
understanding that person vs dragging past relationship drama to the
current relationship.

i just let the past gals i was with go and move on