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Topic: Not your type
MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Fri 03/27/09 06:59 PM
Well I aint lowering my expectations or standards... so I had to politely say thanks but no thanks and told them why... I always tell them why... Someone not being your type doesn't mean they're less than you. You may not be compatible, but it really shouldn't be considered "lowering your standards" by giving a human being who likes you a chance, even if its just one date to be sure you're making the right choice. good point Thank you. Seriously, sometimes someone who isn't seemingly your type can become a source of fascination for you. I like people who are completely different from me because thats who we learn the most from.

Adamal29 Joined Sat 09/27/08 Posts: 485	Fri 03/27/09 11:55 PM
I rarely get in this situation. It usually is the other way around. But depending on if they are into a casual relationship or not, I may just keep them for back up. But I would be honest about it of course....and only if they were fun in the sack.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 03/28/09 12:02 AM
Has anyone really liked you, but they weren't your type? What did you do? Many.........so I killed them.

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 03/28/09 12:03 AM
Has anyone really liked you, but they weren't your type? What did you do? let em down nicely. its hard though. i try to be nice.

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Sat 03/28/09 12:05 AM
Has anyone really liked you, but they weren't your type? What did you do? Many.........so I killed them. Beware of the Canadian Chicks

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/28/09 12:06 AM
Has anyone really liked you, but they weren't your type? What did you do? I believe in honesty so I told them they just aren't want I am looking for and I am sorry

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 03/28/09 12:06 AM
Has anyone really liked you, but they weren't your type? NO Never!!!!! What did you do? Like everyone else does,,,you help them to understand why YOU TWO wouldn't work out very good, wink, By ingenuously allowing them to tell YOU that after you both have talked of their crush on you,,,wink. NOW THATS,,,making them feel GOOD about their new decision...

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 03/28/09 08:56 AM
Has anyone really liked you, but they weren't your type? NO Never!!!!! What did you do? Like everyone else does,,,you help them to understand why YOU TWO wouldn't work out very good, wink, By ingenuously allowing them to tell YOU that after you both have talked of their crush on you,,,wink. NOW THATS,,,making them feel GOOD about their new decision... very good answer I'm used that same method

dekerez10 Joined Sun 01/14/07 Posts: 28	Sat 03/28/09 09:48 AM
We've all met lots of people who we call friends but even if the situation availed itself one may not necessarily have any interest in taking the relationship with them to a more intimate level. You simply need to be honest with each other and just state that right now you are not interested in being more than friends, rather than sidestepping the issue by not addressing it at all and being hurt by some unknown reason(s) for what seems like a growing disinterest or discontent in the overall relationship.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Sat 03/28/09 09:50 AM
Has anyone really liked you, but they weren't your type? Inevitably. It seems that my "type" is almost extinct. What did you do? When I was younger, I would give it a shot anyway -- figuring maybe I just needed to be a little more open to other types. It never worked. It was just a temporary diversion. Not that there's anything wrong with temporary diversions, but that's what Sudoku is for.