romeo.. dont let out ALL your secrets!! ha ha

i am hard to get joking

you just give me a back rub, a couple shots, then i am yours LOL

I can be hard to get......(a hold of)
hard to get....(along with at times)
but other than that.....

I'm rather.....

EASY.......

I think any time a person trys to play games it is really a drag. A person who is genuinely hard to get is a nice exception to people who have little or no self esteem or self control to wait to get to know about a person before they are all into it.

...I do not consider having warning shots fired over my head with a .357 magnum as playing "Hard to get". I consider that a "NO".

I am hard to get....interested that is.

Hard to get is hardly got.

I wouldn't want the person to come across as too desperate, but i wouldn't wanna go chasing them around either. Somewhere in the middle is good. If there is an interest in both people then just talking and getting to know eachother is key. If you're playing"hard to get" it's only a matter of time before the person gets you and then the fun is over.

I have never played at it. I truly am, to the "right" men, usually.

And the answer to your question? YES, I get chased a whole lot by wonderful men. One day in the not so near future, I'll be sure to let one lucky one catch me.

Anyone like a challenge?

I have never played at it. I truly am, to the "right" men, usually.

And the answer to your question? YES, I get chased a whole lot by wonderful men. One day in the not so near future, I'll be sure to let one lucky one catch me.

Anyone like a challenge?

Study thine own words.

Very wise.

I don't know. I think it would annoy me more than anything. I don't care for games of any kind. Well, except for sex games.

JMO

It's a game playing tactic that does really work with some people. I'm not a game player. If I like somebody I'll let them know, and I'll do the same if I dislike them.

Study thine own words.

Very wise.




Its the same reversed, too.

Applies to family, Friends, and lovers....

*study thine own words*

Some of us learn harder than others.

Never having played hard-to-get, I wouldn't know. But then, I like to date grown ups who aren't into games. If they're only won by playing hard-to-get, them I'm quite happy not to win them at all!

On another note,

The ex husband, who is the bio father of my son, was always emotionally and physically unavailable. Genuinely so. No games there. I tended to be the same. The relationship lasted a good long time, was passionate, romantic, dramatic, hot. The sex was great, but on a superficial level most of the time. Not intimate.

Well, the reason we ended finally just came clear to me today. I had long wondered, thought it was the losses we'd been through. Maybe....but not the complete answer. You see, I was always a hell cat, fighting him and his unavailability. Then, I stopped fighting. Just stopped. Became totally available to him. Devoted, nurturing. We became companionate. Know why? We finally had the courage to start a family and realised that we needed a gentler, more caring environment.

He couldn't handle it when I stopped being unavailable to that degree. He couldn't handle the amount of emotional/physical intimacy I was finally offering. So, he ran scared to another "unavailable" woman and began emotionally/psychologically abusing me in full force. I had no choice but to end with him.

As long as we were both hard to get, our infatuation worked. As soon as one of us started to try to give and take genuine love, companionate love, the relationship lost the intensity of its passion. Now, don't get me wrong, that spark of passion never completely died out - not even till the end. It was the DEGREE of availability that killed the marriage.

Funny that "health" and "functionality" ended it. You'd think it would be the other way around. What I learned from my marriage and the experience is that I am capable of healthy love, with the right man....one who will pursue and persist and be very patient with me while I struggle to walk like a baby deer. I learned that I'm not afraid and that I CAN DO IT.

....I had just forgotten it.

Add that to always being drawn to what feels "comfortable" and "like home", like "love" (but its really not....and I have grown enough to know it)....

Well, today I feel hopeful. I'm going to be available one day, if I continue to work hard at it.

If they are playing hard to get I just stop playing. I am grown up now and don't want to act like I am still in high school. Too much drama.

I have no clue, I have been told I play the hard to get sometimes but I quickly correct them I am just cautious. Since I don't want any misconceptions.

I believe in the art of the game chase. To me that means it is like a dance guy takes step forward girl takes half step back. guy takes half step back girl takes step forward. It is fun as long as both knows the rules. I kind of call if the beginnig of courtship.