I will only date heavy drinkers. If they don't pass out drunk at the end of the day (or earlier) I'm outta there.

It's not a problem for me if someone drinks socially. It would be a problem for me and you if I tried to do it. It's not the alcoholics you really have to worry about so much as the drunks. There's nothing that beats watching someone drunk to remind me why I don't drink.

And they let you have an account here?

Somebody is SLIPPING....!



Seriously, I once did a small study of about a dozen dating site forums (nothing scientific, you understand, I'm way too lazy and disorganized for that), and the percentage of alcohol-related topics (or topics that were turned into alcohol-related) was very high here. I'd love to get some raw numbers, but I'd bet that upwards of 95% of the people on dating sites in general are drinkers.

Or maybe the non-drinkers just don't post. Which, of course, doesn't do me any good.

I don't drink.

Mind you I'm also only 18.

I have drank before but it's been less than 10 times in this last year and I've ultimately decided I'm not even gonna touch alcohol again until I'm at least 21.

I had to put "occasionally" because I honestly can't say "no" but I rarely drink. I have a bottle of rum here I have almost finished. I've had it 4 years now. I have a rum & coke, or a frozen fruity rum drink once in a while.
Sometimes I put about 2 tablespoons full of Kalua in a cup of coffee.
I won't date someone who has to drink every weekend.

* DEE Playing AC/DC:
Have a Drink on Me...!

It's actually kind of funny you mentioned this -- I've touched on this same subject in my last two profile entries (Dec. 23 and today).

Lex, you're a lot cuter than you were just one drink ago! I never drank any alcohol until my mid 40s and now I stay within the oz. limits allowed by my doctor, but I do like it. It makes my forehead warm, but it ruins my writing skills.

You're so funny Lex!

If someone said they had an occasional drink I wouldn't be turned off. I will rarely want a beer with a pizza or a nice drink with a special meal. But if what I saw was someone that occassionally got DRUNK I would so NOT BE INTERESTED. I drink so little so rarely and I have as much fun as the next person without the hangover or the nasty tasting kisses that I really prefer someone who isn't that interested in drinking. What I will NOT do is believe in a "Recovered" alcoholic. Seen that lie too many times. Absolutely will not deal with someone who has to have alcohol around to enjoy themselves or relax.

Thanks, I think....! Not really sure how to take that one!





I only drank between 19-22, and not a lot then (really didn't care much for it, to be honest, and it didn't help the innards a lot either). But I was in bands, and stuff was around, and it was more or less "expected" -- a bad reason to do anything, I have since discovered.

If they have a glass of wine with dinner or a drink on occasion when out for a meal, I don't see it as a problem. Its not a deal breaker for me. Rarely and on occasion is fine. I have found that most minimize their use if the use more regularly, though.

I don't doubt it much.

What is more surprising to me is the people who say they won't date someone who dosn't drink. The last time I went out with some people at work I was drinking coke & they all got upset with me! I told them no & they bought a drink anyway & then were pissed that I would not drink it. I had 30 miles to drive & the roads were bad. I was called anti social.

not me i was sh$$ faced this morning

Sometimes, "drinks socially or on occasion means exactly what it says" - lightly or one drink when out with friends (just watch the frequency); or maybe only a drink or two on holidays or special occasions or when our to dinner (again, ask specifically how much a drink or two is, how big the drinks are, and how often they go out on special occasions or to dinner.

There may be wide discrepancies between a drink or two a year, spread out, to binge drinking one time or more a year.

The only way to find out is to ask specific questions and trust your gut as to whether they are telling the truth. If your instincts say "red flag", DON'T ignore them or minimize, rationalize. It will prevent a lot of problems and heartache down the line.

I dont drink all the time , but I can when I need to lol seriously I find nothing wrong with pub goers as long as they can hold their liqueur and arent angry drunks. I enjoy a good buzz.....crucify me lol

The only reason I have sometimes had this policy is because I have been afraid the person might have been in recovery - and the recovery rates, long term, are not high. I was afraid they might relapse and it would adversely affect my life - that I wouldn't know how to help them or my life.

Still, everyone deserves a chance, even though its a personal choice whether or not you feel capable of coping with a potential relapse of someone in your life. Sad, but true. We all weigh costs and benefits, based on our own circumstances and coping skills.

I have dated a couple of non-drinkers.... but something about me usually drives them into drinking....

I refuse to to be with any one who drinks,or smokes.