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Topic: If you knew about an affair
TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76393	Thu 12/25/08 04:27 PM
Myself I would indeed confront my friend with the issue and tell them the way I feel about it but sure they would in fact already know where my feelings stands on that issue. It would be in fact them that needs to confront there spouse that is a hard question to actually answer unless you have been there and had it happen for at times what we say we would do in fact would do the opposite instead. you are very right and I have had to confront 3 old friends that have done that.thats reason I say in a heart beat. Well Jason the reason I said that is for the fact that my best friend at one time knew my ex was indeed having and affair well more then one I found out later. Her and her husband were in fact both our friends. Neither one of them approved with what was going on but in fact did not want to get in the middle of it either. Like I said we were all friends and in fact did things together. She finally got bad enough at him one night and called the house to tell me.But I was not home she left a message you could tell in her voice she was pissed and mainly all she said was there is something you need to know about Jim this is bull****. Well in fact she did not have to go into details for I had already suspected it but did not know that they knew. As soon as I heard the message all I could think of was I wonder who else knows. I did not get mad at her for telling me in fact it was a relief for in fact it only confirmed what I had in fact suspected. Therefore making me deal with the issue head on. But regardless it is a very hard choice to make you would be surprised how many in my position actually gets mad at their friends for telling them it is unbelievable. :noway But I would hate to know that my best friend in fact was doing something like that to their spouse. Until one has stepped into those shoes and had the one they love not only shove their face in the mud but in fact drag them deeper into it and have the balls too say what they don't find out want hurt them they have no clue how that makes one feel to know that in fact the ones they were hoping did not know what was going on in fact did. It makes it hard for one to hold their head up and move on. But...........it can be done and it can in fact be done holding your head up as you go along.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Thu 12/25/08 04:29 PM
if my friend was no,but if they were cheating on my friend yes.weird but thats what friends are for.

Phuque Joined Mon 11/17/08 Posts: 14151	Thu 12/25/08 04:33 PM
People tend to want to kill the messenger...so I would not run & tell...but I would definitely confront my friend about it...

txmomof2 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 73300	Thu 12/25/08 04:36 PM
I would definitely confront my friend about it

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Thu 12/25/08 04:38 PM
u having an affair on me mirror?

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Thu 12/25/08 04:41 PM
if my friend was, and i wasnt as close to their partner id tell them it was wrong.... if i was as close to both i may tell the other.. cause its just plain wrong

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Thu 12/25/08 05:43 PM
If you knew your best friend was having an affair, would you tell his or her spouse? Actually I wouldn't say a word, but I would set them up to be caught. I a long time ago did tell a friend that her husband hit on me bad I mean really bad and I lost her friendship. So now I make it a policy not to say a word. I would just make sure that the guilty was caught in the act.

Melaschasm Joined Wed 12/10/08 Posts: 262	Thu 12/25/08 06:50 PM
I would confront my friend and let them know I am aware of it.. and if I know probably someone else knows they are playing a dangerous game... I would suggest that they end it one way or the other... and let them know if they don't... I will.. if I am a true friend to that person then I also must be a true friend to their signifcant other.. so its a choice thing.. and deep down we all know its not right.. NOB? no its not but they made it my bussiness by not keeping it out of sight and quiet.... I agree. In such a situation, my friend is behaving in a self destructive manner, and it is my duty to help the stop being stupid.

BertDCaveman Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 1651	Thu 12/25/08 06:52 PM
Use it for blackmail purposes if need be Really I dunno

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Thu 12/25/08 06:52 PM
If you knew your best friend was having an affair, would you tell his or her spouse? No, but i would be best friends anymore. I would be concerned that my Girlfriend, or Wife would think he was a bad influence on me

DEN1313 Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 12	Tue 12/30/08 05:50 PM
yes it ain't right

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Tue 12/30/08 07:27 PM
If you knew your best friend was having an affair, would you tell his or her spouse? No. I would tell my best friend that was messed up and that they should get into counseling and tell their spouse if they wanted it to work with them. If they didn't tell them? I do not think I could be their friend anymore, because I would no longer respect them or like them.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Tue 12/30/08 07:27 PM
Until one has stepped into those shoes and had the one they love not only shove their face in the mud but in fact drag them deeper into it and have the balls too say what they don't find out want hurt them they have no clue how that makes one feel to know that in fact the ones they were hoping did not know what was going on in fact did. It makes it hard for one to hold their head up and move on. But...........it can be done and it can in fact be done holding your head up as you go along. Spot on.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 12/30/08 07:28 PM
I found out a long time ago it's best to not get involved!!