Brain dead but is still walking

that ______________?


That is a h8ter and very insecure

thinks she can treat me like sh1t, but expects me to treat her like a queen.

Has no dreams, goals, or presonality. No.

For me a wrong spot for a tattoo exists in a bunch of places like the kitty spot, on the face, on the breast, on the ass, or just a nasty tattoo to begin with especially if sexual in nature.

Piercings wrong spots, clit, hood, nose, eyebrow, forehead, nipple, the thing on the inside of the ear, too many on the ear is really annoying unless they take them out, and I'm not really a fan of tongue piercings either.

I'll tell you why I don't like women who weigh more than me. It hurts, I can't pick them up, I don't like big boobs, I don't find pancakes attractive, I'm athletic I like to run 5-6 minute mile, my dog digs exercise, I like to swim, I like to walk for like 10 hours in a row per day on my days off, I don't always walk on pavement and physical activity is required, I like to dance, my car isn't suitable for a big woman, she wouldn't fit, the car wouldn't go nearly as fast, it wouldn't drift right, *I know this my mom drives in my car and yikes*, I dig horseback riding, laying down together on the couch, sitting together in a chair but her on me not me on her.

By the way, 150 is too much to me. I'm sure that there are many men out there who like you for that weight and I'm sure they find you very attractive at that weight. Me personally I am small, I prefer to be around other small people like me. I have more fun that way based on experience.

I saw the book post earlier...

Do women become boring to you because you're unable to enjoy them for who they're? I mean you say they aren't conversationalists but do you turn them into conversationalists? I must say I've met quite a few people who aren't as intelligent as others, but that doesn't mean they don't have feelings or knowledge about other things. Knowing someone for a few months isn't knowing them all that long. You could learn a lot about someone in a few months but to know even half of their life within that time span or what they've encountered or what they feel is important can change. People are constantly evolving and changing inside of their head or maybe that's just what I've seen since I'm younger. Maybe as I continue to grow up people become fixated in life and have no passion to keep evolving.

I do grow bored with people as well but this is primarily due to a focus of me to stop being me based on a quality I found in a woman a couple years ago. I enjoyed a relationship where she almost dictated the entire relationship, it was quite weird and very hard to get a word in sometimes. I was like wow I dig this because I was so used to always leading conversation. To that point in my life I never encountered someone like that, but that doesn't mean the others I was with before that weren't suitable for my tastes. I do enjoy learning about people but then I'm out of questions or I have forgotten to ask new questions or they aren't as passionate as they once were with their answers.

a career doesn't make smarts that's why I brought the rocket science thing. I have a roommate who will be moving out next month who asked for my advice quite a number of times. Totally not the best chef *he burnt french toast*, he grabbed a potato from the microwave after he cooked it with his bare hands... I guess he never played hot potato. That was basically my point how do you judge smarts because I mean everyone has their own way of thinking and well others have a different way of thinking. I think it's about finding what their passion is and getting them to talk about it. Mr. rocket scientist gave me a lot of knowledge about people and job interviews and how to act on the job, but yet I'm the social butterfly in the outside world. I thought of myself as a runner and yet he's going on a marathon in a couple weeks.

Just because you have a more eloquent vocabulary doesn't mean that you carry more value than another person. It's just what you were driven to do in life. You wanted to be a writer unless you're writing children's books you generally need to have an extensive vocabulary as to intrigue your readers and differentiate yourself from other peers. You must go into a higher degree of difficulty but that doesn't mean the people who use less of a vocabulary are dumb or not worthy of knowing. I'd rather know a person who isn't book educated but has all the world's experience to live off of. Then again that's me. People interest me, it's my passion. I meet as many people as I can from young to old and will talk with any of them. It's also important to know the people who truly care and love others, this is what I value most. As for this conversation about purses. I've been alive for 25 years and I've never had that conversation with any girl in my life.

If who they are turns out to be someone I simply can't communicate with on any sort of meaningful level, then yes. "Cute" might get my interest, "funny" might pull in me in further, but without "smart" and "communicative," it's not going to stick.



I don't think that's possible -- they either are or they aren't. I will try to find out whether any meaningful communication is possible. It isn't a matter of trying to change someone -- something I'm particularly sensitive to, because it's been attempted on me consistently -- just trying to discover what the compatibilities are.



I think that's a huge part of it. I run into a lot of people who basically stopped "living" at 20 or 25 or 28 or whatever. Their lives are running on tradition and inertia, not through any sort of self-will or self-motivation. I couldn't function like that. The disturbing thing is that practically everyone expects me to --



Well, this is part of my pattern, too -- I love the process of learning about a new person -- their history, their family, where they've been, what they've done, likes, dislikes, beliefs. hopes, dreams, fears -- this is all utterly fascinating to me.

The problem is that, with a few notable exceptions, they're pretty much drained of anything new or interesting after a few months. There's a sort of stagnation -- maybe that's the wrong word -- anyway, some kind of wall, some kind of limit -- which, in essence, is a sort of "Dead End" sign. There's nothing left to find out. I have known one person (Gem) for nine years, and we have never run out of things to talk about. She is a notable exception to the rule.



Absolutely true - I can't cook at all, have no understanding whatsoever of things like the stock market, and I admit that I am really only good at two things. There (probably) is no universal intelligence. My personal interpretation of the term is limited to those traits and abilities which allow for the expression/indications of what I perceive as intelligence. Undoubtedly, there are other interpretations. As a practical matter, those other interpretations are largely irrelevant to my current situation.



It was never about value; it was about compatibility. Granted that I do attribute a certain value TO compatibility (or would, if it actually existed) -- but there's a huge difference between "this person is less valuable than I am" and "this person is simply not compatible with me." One in no way necessarily implies the other.

I saw your post about "wrong" spots for tattoos. That's pretty subjective too, but I didn't take it as you saying that people with those tattoos were of less value -- just that it wasn't your own personal preference.



No, it doesn't. It could very well mean, however, that there are going to be some frustrating and perplexing communications issues down the road if things ever get that far.

I think of it as a sort of preventative medicine. I would not be happy with someone who drinks -- so it's right out there, up front, that I will not date a drinker. Why not have that on the table from Day One, to avoid people wasting time? It's the same with the literacy/communications issue.



People interest me, too. I studied psychology for seven years, because I really wanted a better understanding of people, how their minds worked (or how they worked differently), what motivated them, what they cared about. It's fascinating stuff, as long as you keep in mind that everybody is different and not all psychological "rules" apply to all people the same way all the time. There are individual and subjective factors that go into each person's identity and scenario.

To get back to the "I wouldn't date _______" angle -- in the end, isn't it all about preferences and personal standards? I'm "selective" because I feel I have to be -- I've seen what happens when I'm not "selective" enough. If that selectivates me right out of the whole scene, that's OK -- as I always say, better to be alone than to be with the wrong person again.

THAT THINKS THUNDERSTRUCK60S JOKE ARE FUNNY OR ORIGINAL.....

Weighs more than I do, drinks alot, wears too much perfume, over dresses, doesn't love to ride, hangs out in bars, is religious, is a vegetarian, isn't 420 friendly, is too skinny, drives a minivan, has small children, is unorganized, doesn't love her parents, would go out with me.

THAT DOSENT HAVE HER OWN TRACTOR.....

THAT DOSENT HAVE HER OWN TRACTOR.....

I think people can communicate in different ways other than just having an extensive vocabulary. It might take more of an effort on your part but that should be interesting to you :).

What I meant by the conversationalist example was it takes you a few months to finally realize the person you're talking to truly isn't a conversationalist. In other words, they depend totally on you for this opportunity to exploit themselves. I find that this is really hard to overcome with anyone. People may enjoy letting me talk and asking them all kinds of questions but I'm slowly getting bored by this so in turn you have found companionship because you have a listener but you don't have what you were seeking originally... Here's the best way I can put this. Shy girl is sitting by herself. You notice her, you talk to her. She digs you so she answers, you keep moving forward because she's intriguing to you and in her mind she's just shy never fully blooms to be what you imagined her to be... Does that make more sense?

You know what's really sad I truly don't care about like a good 80% of that. I've asked those questions so many times that if I was to ask them again I'd go insane hahaha. I ask new questions now. :). *probably due to the same responses given.* The internet corrupted me.

Value was definately the wrong word to use for what I was getting at. What I mean to say is a person who can clearly express themselves through imagery or words may not be the only suitable person for you. It might make life harder on you, but compatability is much deeper than someone who can use eloquent words. That's what I meant by value as if to say unless you're dating a college english professor you're kind of leaving everyone else behind. This may be great for a conversation at a cafe but love life yeah not so much. At least not with me anyway.

I would tend to believe the more educated a person is the harder it would be for them to commit to communications. For example you take dumb blonde barbie girl and you ask her the meaning of the universe... If christian she might recite the bible, if non christian she may as well just give up not answer ignore the question or answer honestly and be like that's way over my head. Then you have the educated one who is going to just throw random crap out there like me that makes no bit of sense might capture your imagination but will not lead you any closer to your destination hence the communication issue is still out there. Also, I would tend to think that the more you want out of a partner is conversation or something original, intriguing, never heard of before... Truth is though, people become stagnant. Unless you form a bond with this person that makes communication soooo open and non intrusive that it becomes less of a trust issue and more of a social atmosphere. For example... My best friend not the brightest kid by any means but he's totally social with me. He allows me to bring out, exhibit behavior and talk for hours on end about absolutely nothing yet in the end we're both having the time of our life. This doesn't mean he has the education of college, he has never moved out of his hometown, and he isn't exactly sociable *social anxiety disorder* kills his life. He's not a very good poet and uses curse words a lot of the time. None of this however prevents us from being open with each other or in public for that matter. He never even graduated high school. Decided it was best to drop out 3 months prior. Had I ever interviewed him as a test subject of mine, he would've failed miserably but as a friend and his morals throughout life he's amazing. Shy with social anxiety but great to be around with me. He turns me into something that I can't even put into words. My whole outlook and my personality are so vibrant when I am near him that life doesn't seem boring at all. Everything is full with color, imagination and creativity. It's like the cold barren streets are our kingdom and we're the rulers of the world as poor as we're. I don't know exactly how to explain it and if you haven't ever encountered this feeling, I wouldn't be as subjective as you're assuming what is perfect for you to find either based on previous experiences or how you find your niche in others.

The tattoo thing it's more of being grossed out. It's not that I wouldn't be a friend to that person, but I most certainly wouldn't move forward with a kiss. I don't kiss beings in this world that I don't find attractive and tattoos or overly pierced people don't bring a sense of oh my I must see if this is going to lead somewhere. That isn't to say that I would break up with a person because they have a tattoo or a piercing that I didn't agree with. For example, 2 girls ago had pierced nipples. Sex life was completely different than normal and I will say that I didn't like her nipples pierced. I felt like I'd rip them out or play with too hard it's annoying but it's not something I would've been like go **** yourself over. I knew ahead of time what I was getting myself into but her personality, as hot as she was, even had a giant tattoo on her back but see back tattoos are hot to me I don't know why. Front tattoos aren't. I used to think I'd never date a girl who would wear certain types of clothing and then I encountered her and I was like oh my privacy of her own home and that just looks soooo good... :).

Why not have it upfront... What if a person likes to go to a party once a month and get trashed. That's 12 days a year out of 365... It's not a drunk but they feel this overwhelming sensation of not even attempting with you because they're afraid of you going away having you learn this about them? Maybe they don't even talk about it or hide it from you as to not upset you or some other way of dealing with a communication issue. I mean I understand where you're coming from with people who drink. I don't even kiss a girl when I've been drinking whether she's my girlfriend or not. It's my preference. That's probably why I don't go to bars to pick them up... Not exactly what I am looking for but that doesn't mean I'm going to force my beliefs on my partner and be like hey listen you can't drink or it's over. People are people and are going to do things that upset us throughout life whether it's our children, our mothers and fathers, or our lovers. In a perfect world I am sure it would be easier if your girl was every single part of what you want her to be, but would she truly be alive or just your puppet to play with?

Selectivity is awesome and it does grant us the ability to pick and choose from a smaller ratio of potential to really potential bad failing relationships still though I think all relationships are built on the fundamental principle of a friendship. We surround ourselves with friends and then we move forward to a relationship. I don't know why I have the friends I do, but I have learned that they share a lot of the same qualities. As for relationships, the same qualities have always existed as well. For one, they accept me for who I am and don't try to change my behavior which is why I brought up that drinking thing that you so brought up. I wouldn't say I'm much of a drinker. 99 out of 100 times I am not going to drink alcohol. If I am in public and I'm driving, I'm totally sober 100% of the time still though I do like to be surrounded by friends at a party or social event that may involve drinking or has the potential to be a drinking place. This doesn't even mean everyone there is drunk because we're all different. I lived in a party house free alcohol every single night of my life and 6 out of 7 days I didn't drink. Another person may have drowned in it or partook even more than I did.

For 2 they seem to share the same morals as I do. *although this is never really true by the end of the relationship*

For 3-they bring me happiness when in there presence.

For 4- some reason allows me to move forward with a kiss. I don't just go around kissing everyone I see, I'm not exactly sure what this quality has to do with it yet.

For 5- they seem to be there for me

and for 6-they're interesting.

Has nothing to do with intelligence, where they went to school, or what they do for a living. Mechanic to a rockstar to a nurse to working at the dmv. These are my best friends as for ones I've dated I'm a little young so most people I've dated haven't found their careers yet.

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that is rude

WHO DOSENT HAVE A YOUNGER SISTER...LIKE IN TRUE STORY......