A friend of mine has been going to this doctor. He got "friendly" with her and then they started seeing each other. Now it turns out that he's married and his wife found out and booted his ass out. Now he says he can't see her anymore. Of course, she is hurt and pissed and ready to "make him pay".

She said she is calling her lawyer. I told her I didn't think anything would come of it other than public humiliation for everyone involved.

What do you guys think she should do other than find a single..truly single...guy and forget about all of this.

She needs to let it go, as much it is hard and hurts for her to do so. It happens but tell her to stand straight and stand tall, to turn this into a positive and learn from it. Things will look better. Plus he is paying for it already. Don't let her stoop to nonsense like that with the legal action. She wont get jack from it.

She should try to come up with a better screening process next time, and just let this one go. There's nothing to be gained by tormenting him or herself or the wife or anybody else. Live and learn and move on.

she should just leave a big steamy turd on his front porch or car hood and then just move on... he sounds like a jerk no worth much else

Getting a lawyer isn't going to do anything but waste everyone's time and money because what's she going to do, sue him for lying? I say forget the whole thing, never talk to him again, learn from YOUR MISTAKE, and go find a good guy. Life's to short to be putting up with all the bull**** and getting a lawyer would just cause more unneeded pain and more bull****.

Whats the lawyer going to do to?

Todays society is f*cked up. Everybody wants to run to their lawyer over nothing and sue someone over some kind of bull shyt.

Tell her to suck it up and move on...shyt happens.

what would be the point???? what would she possibly sue for???
What would she realistically expect to come from it??
Move on!!!!!!!

lol...

As for the lawyer thing..she said because she is/was his patient and he crossed a line.

But she crossed the line as well....she let him. Its not like she said no..and he kept insisting.

This is what I'm talking about. People do something stupid and try to blame on someone else.

I believe that any "Good" lawyer would tell her that she, crossed the same line, then he would laugh and tell her to "suck it up"

Well, hopefully she'll calm down. Of course i don't know how quick she'll believe someone next time who says that they aren't married.

He is a Dr. & he is married. That's a double breach of trust. I'd be willing to bet this isn't the 1st time he's taken advantage of a patient. Your friend has to decide how best to handle this, because only she knows exactly what happened, but I'd advise her to talk to someone about it. A counsellor, clergyman or another Dr. whom she trusts. These people will have been trained in how to handle this, & will know the proper places to report it if she decides to pursue the matter.

The hardest question to answer in this situation is who is the bigger idiot?

Good advice but she isn't too trusting of anyone right now. I do think she needs to talk to someone though because I have never seen her like this.

man, this stuff is getting way too common. i can't figure out what they think it's worth to cheat. they need to break up with the wife, i don't care if there are kids or not, but if they've got the gumption to cheat, cut it off, then play! now look at what happened! what a mess!!! everybody's hurt, and nobody gained a thing! it reminds me of pinball, you don't get anything out of it what so ever, but a meanial challenge, for a very short time.....and it caused all this!!!!!........WOW! THAT WAS REALLY WORTH IT !!!

well, she's got you, thank the powers that be, that's a relief. just stay with her, and she'll come around. time heals.

That's why there are certain professionals are judged differently in this situation; Dr/patient, teacher/student, lawyer/client, to name a few. These are people who you seek advise from & give your trust to, share intimacies with, & thus you are much more vunerable to misuse from them.

Amen brother...

I am not defending what she did...but why is she an idiot exactly? Because she believed him (about not being married) or because she feels like she needs revenge?