lots of excuses but people cheat because they are selfish and selfcentered ..Period

Forgive me for being unclear. I think in one of my above posts, I did point out that the cheating spouse may just be an asshole. I think that's the exception to the rule though.

For example, my first girlfriend cheated perhaps because of the distance between us and the stress that created. She was having a hard time in life and a guy nearby gave her support. One thing led to another.

My second girlfriend had cheated on someone else before she had met me. Is it so hard to imagine that she still had cared for that boyfriend, but some sort of stress and the right guy being there for her at the right time led her to cheat? Yeah, that's an easily imaginable situation. Doesn't mean she was a *****, and she wasn't...but her previous boyfriend sometimes pushed her away.


Also, I've heard that in China, cheating rate has reached epic proportions. Some wonder if the lack of sex in traditional relationships is a contributing factor. We are human and our instincts tell us to have sex...

Again, I think it's easy to dismiss the cheater as being an asshole. Maybe it's best to examine the relationship and see if there was anything WE could have done to fix things. If so, then next time we will know how to have stronger relationships.

Just to make sure I'm not misunderstood again...I do acknowledge that sometimes, the cheater is just an asshole.

omg dont buy into the crap............its her fault/its his fault bologna!!!!

A cheater will cheat no matter what.

Its lack of conscience......morals, love........whatever.

You may give me a cookie now!!!

depends...depends...depends.......DEPENDS.....lack of things in a relationship cause it to fail. could be any sorta reason I suppose...mental insanity, youngness, dumbness, problems relating with each other verbally, physically, spiritually, boredom, sluttiness, lack of consideration for your partner, ummmmmmmm....and ooo yea..not enough french fries in the diet

some people dont take their wedding vows seriously
or just conveniantly forget what they promised their spouse

Heres your cookie

No self control

he realized he was gay....

because they lack self control...

and they find plenty of people that are not looking for a committed relationship, that will cheat with anyone...

they also cheat because they are emotionally insecure and mentally immature, which they believe gives them the right to cheat when they feel the relationship is not going the way they want....

Not enough Wooppyy

another person!!!

i think they may just be looking for the "newness" of a relationship.

They cheat because they aren't happy and shouldn't be in the marriage to begin with or it could be cause they are just self centered pigs/pigets JMO

I'll take "Because they're stupid" for $64.00

Insecurity.

Always looking outside oneself for reassurance...needing to feed their ego...

Infidelity is never about sex... it is always about a person feeling less than...sex is just the 'hook' used to feed an ego.

the dingl-ER puts his deeshizzle proximal to the highly sensitized moist yearning of the dingl-EE causing multiple ecstatic cries of "OH BABY!" and "OMG OMG OMG" ooooohhhhhhh.....

that's the most common reason, but sometimes the dinglER french kisses the dinglEE in a particular and highly eroticized way right on the veeshizzle having much the similar effect as discussed above but with slightly more moaning and the risk of difficult breathing and facewash to the dinglER but it's probably still quite good for both...

Blame it on communication problems, sex, money, stress....whatever you want. The bottom line is the cheaters care more about themselves than their partners.