Topic: Here's an odd thought
SamaraNJ's photo
Tue 12/16/08 11:41 PM

here's a quote or a title for u all love once lose nothing love twice lose nothing but the first give it another go and ur a fuching dumbace it life live it lump copy right wut ever it life get out there people... FOR REAL
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therapy30's photo
Tue 12/16/08 11:58 PM


Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


I trust myself.. I'm here cuase I don't have time to get out sometimes being too busy.. and I can find good conversation here anytime day or night... I've found people I enjoy talking to... Haven't had anyone meet me yet.. but who knows.. I'm in no rush...

Good girls are never in rush..
Thats make you a good girl..
Samara is a good girl:banana:

SamaraNJ's photo
Wed 12/17/08 12:00 AM



Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


I trust myself.. I'm here cuase I don't have time to get out sometimes being too busy.. and I can find good conversation here anytime day or night... I've found people I enjoy talking to... Haven't had anyone meet me yet.. but who knows.. I'm in no rush...

Good girls are never in rush..
Thats make you a good girl..
Samara is a good girl:banana:


Thanks.. :smile:

are you following me?laugh

therapy30's photo
Wed 12/17/08 12:02 AM




Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


I trust myself.. I'm here cuase I don't have time to get out sometimes being too busy.. and I can find good conversation here anytime day or night... I've found people I enjoy talking to... Haven't had anyone meet me yet.. but who knows.. I'm in no rush...

Good girls are never in rush..
Thats make you a good girl..
Samara is a good girl:banana:


Thanks.. :smile:

are you following me?laugh

yes..thats my game:wink: happyflowerforyou
whereever you go your network follows:banana:

galendgirl's photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:43 PM
I trust other people freely until they prove me wrong...or so I thought. I have recently realized that I trust them with pretty much anything but my heart. If I put myself out there even a little and have ANY indication that I might get hurt, I run retreat mode ASAP. Now that I've realized this this about myself, I can work on the issue...but man, trust is HUGE!

FearandLoathing's photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:48 PM

Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


I think the possibility is there, there are some things I would like to learn...but I'm pretty sure I'm not here for the lack of good judgement, as most of the ladies I've been with have been pretty good. I'm trying to learn how to make better choices as a whole myself, be more selfless and content with who I am.

Rather good topic as always JustAGuy; cheers mate and hopefully things start to look better for you!drinker

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Wed 12/17/08 07:49 PM

Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???
Si Senor!!!drinker

no photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:49 PM
I trust my self however the kind of man I'm attracted too is bad. I guess the saying nice men finish last is somewhat true even though I hate to admit that.

Dragoness's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:15 PM

Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


My logic of starting to online date was exactly the reason you stated here. I though maybe if I met someone in a different way, started slower and got to know them better I would have better luck. But I slammed into a road block because my trust in this medium is very limited. So now I am back in the same boat of meeting people and hoping I will make better choices for myself and them.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:33 PM

I trust my self however the kind of man I'm attracted too is bad. I guess the saying nice men finish last is somewhat true even though I hate to admit that.


But because of your attraction to the " wrong " kind of guy, can you really trust yourself to decide if he's a " good " one???

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:38 PM


Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


I think the possibility is there, there are some things I would like to learn...but I'm pretty sure I'm not here for the lack of good judgement, as most of the ladies I've been with have been pretty good. I'm trying to learn how to make better choices as a whole myself, be more selfless and content with who I am.

Rather good topic as always JustAGuy; cheers mate and hopefully things start to look better for you!drinker


I am sure there are others like you out there Fear.

Some people have 100% trust in themselves. But those that say they trust themselves, it's just that they don't trust others...

Well..I ( and this is strictly my own opinion ) think that they are only fooling themselves.

I mean, if you feel that you trust yourself, but then don't trust the people around you, doesn't that just mean that you can't trust yourself to seek out the people who ARE trustworthy???

This would seem to be a circular argument, I know. BUt on the other hand, it makes sense to me based on previous experience.

no photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:43 PM
Im glad Im not the only one who doesnt always trust their judgement.

I always thought I had good judgement but looking at the past made me think otherwise.


So alone I have been for almost 3 years....ohwell

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:44 PM

Im glad Im not the only one who doesnt always trust their judgement.

I always thought I had good judgement but looking at the past made me think otherwise.


So alone I have been for almost 3 years....ohwell


4 years for me. I know the feeling.sad2

SamaraNJ's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:46 PM


Im glad Im not the only one who doesnt always trust their judgement.

I always thought I had good judgement but looking at the past made me think otherwise.


So alone I have been for almost 3 years....ohwell


4 years for me. I know the feeling.sad2


4 years here too...

because I am too picky and leave at the slightest hint of drama....

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:48 PM



Im glad Im not the only one who doesnt always trust their judgement.

I always thought I had good judgement but looking at the past made me think otherwise.


So alone I have been for almost 3 years....ohwell


4 years for me. I know the feeling.sad2


4 years here too...

because I am too picky and leave at the slightest hint of drama....


I guess I fall into the " too picky " category a bit myself.

But then again, having dealt with the crap that I have, I am going to remain picky.

If that means I have to be alone...So be it.

no photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:50 PM



Im glad Im not the only one who doesnt always trust their judgement.

I always thought I had good judgement but looking at the past made me think otherwise.


So alone I have been for almost 3 years....ohwell


4 years for me. I know the feeling.sad2


4 years here too...

because I am too picky and leave at the slightest hint of drama....
<----runs from drama!!!! And with good reason!!! I dont need it......I dont want it. Warranted there is always some sort of drama within families....life is not perfect but I dont need the ex gf, drug addicted, personality disorder drama alot of men bring.noway I would like to take "Normal" for $300 Alex!!drinker

s1owhand's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:51 PM

Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


this is a trick question...right?

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:52 PM


Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???


this is a trick question...right?


Nope. No tricks. It's a relatively straight up question.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:53 PM




Im glad Im not the only one who doesnt always trust their judgement.

I always thought I had good judgement but looking at the past made me think otherwise.


So alone I have been for almost 3 years....ohwell


4 years for me. I know the feeling.sad2


4 years here too...

because I am too picky and leave at the slightest hint of drama....
<----runs from drama!!!! And with good reason!!! I dont need it......I dont want it. Warranted there is always some sort of drama within families....life is not perfect but I dont need the ex gf, drug addicted, personality disorder drama alot of men bring.noway I would like to take "Normal" for $300 Alex!!drinker


Damn. I was doing pretty well right up until you said " personality disorder "..lmao

SamaraNJ's photo
Wed 12/17/08 09:03 PM




Im glad Im not the only one who doesnt always trust their judgement.

I always thought I had good judgement but looking at the past made me think otherwise.


So alone I have been for almost 3 years....ohwell


4 years for me. I know the feeling.sad2


4 years here too...

because I am too picky and leave at the slightest hint of drama....
<----runs from drama!!!! And with good reason!!! I dont need it......I dont want it. Warranted there is always some sort of drama within families....life is not perfect but I dont need the ex gf, drug addicted, personality disorder drama alot of men bring.noway I would like to take "Normal" for $300 Alex!!drinker


yeah.. I am so busy with working full time and school fulltime that I want my freetime to be peaceful and drama free... That is one area I have control over..