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Topic: Looking for some constructive criticism
nicolala16's photo
Mon 12/15/08 04:53 PM
Would anyone mind taking a look at my profile? I seem to be meeting a lot of men who are the exact opposite of what I am looking for. I'm starting to think I'm giving the wrong message.

As a slight sidebar - I was recently talking to someone and we were getting along famously. I then sent an email in which I mentioned my son and the emails stopped. Do a lot of men just forget to read either A)The part of my profile where I say that I'm a working mom or B) the bottom portion which indicates whether or not I have a child? It was just a very frustrating experience.

Thank you in advance!

Army_Strong's photo
Mon 12/15/08 04:58 PM
Na they're just douche bags.. Read part of it and are more drawn to the physical aspect of your picture than the intellectual aspect of your profile.. *shrugs* Everything happens for a reason, better you found out sooner rather than later right?

nicolala16's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:01 PM
Thanks for the words of encouragement :-)

hellkitten54's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:04 PM
I think you have a great profile, straight and to the point. You will get all kinds of mail, but you will just have to take your time and weed through the bad. It helps to post a lot in the forums, gets you 'out there' so to speak.

You could add a few more pics, but other than that. Great job!!drinker

writer_gurl's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:05 PM
Your profile is fabflowerforyou

That guy who stopped the messages was a jerkoff that needed to get a life:angel:

_Amanda_'s photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:08 PM
I just think that they don't read. I had someone message me and ask me questions that i outright answered in my blurb. I straight up asked if he had read it or not and sure enough he said no and proceeded to ask me to hold on so that he could read it.

Jill298's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:13 PM
Alot of men don't read the profiles at all...they look at the pic and decide whether or not they wanna contact you. Charming, I know grumble grumble
Just be glad he stopped talking to you now, cause you know he wasn't what you were looking for since he bailed the moment you mentioned your son.
There's lots of good people on here, just keep looking. flowerforyou

BMWboy4u's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:14 PM
I like the profile...although, personally I wouldn't have written so much. Some things we need to find out on our own..make it more of a mystery...men like a challenge..sometimes the chase is better than the catch...I bet you'll get more e-mails if you break the ice with a question.. like famous movie quotes that you can steal off of the IMBD site.
The fact you have Children shouldn't be an issue..unfortunately for me someone with Asthma..the smoking would literally kill me.
and try and find someone who is willing to take your picture...holding a cell phone is kinda tacky..I used a ladder and a camera with a timer for the BMW shot..just an idea..

Jill298's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:15 PM
btw, your profile is great and you are a beautiful woman. flowerforyou His loss for bailing on you.

nicolala16's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:18 PM
Thanks very much, I don't usually have a lot of time to write in the forums - I made a special point to post today. But I agree, I think I have to make time. From what I have read so far today, there is a better quality of people in the forums. I guess it speaks for itself - these are people who want to be here and meet people for more than a booty call.

Jill298's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:20 PM
Yes, stick to the forums... not only is it a lot of fun but we know one another in here. It's a community.

nicolala16's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:20 PM

I like the profile...although, personally I wouldn't have written so much. Some things we need to find out on our own..make it more of a mystery...men like a challenge..sometimes the chase is better than the catch...I bet you'll get more e-mails if you break the ice with a question.. like famous movie quotes that you can steal off of the IMBD site.
The fact you have Children shouldn't be an issue..unfortunately for me someone with Asthma..the smoking would literally kill me.
and try and find someone who is willing to take your picture...holding a cell phone is kinda tacky..I used a ladder and a camera with a timer for the BMW shot..just an idea..


I definitely see your point, I'll have to revamp the picture soon. And I understand completely that some folks will not entertain dating a smoker - I wouldn't expect an asthmatic to hang around for that. I think I'll retool a little in the coming days. Thanks!

nicolala16's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:24 PM

btw, your profile is great and you are a beautiful woman. flowerforyou His loss for bailing on you.


How sweet of you! I really do appreciate all of the kind words. I'm glad that this didn't come across as a "give me attention" kind of thing - I'm trying to find someone of substance on here and I am/was on the verge of giving up. I'm glad all of you took the time to try to help me!

no photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:25 PM

Would anyone mind taking a look at my profile? I seem to be meeting a lot of men who are the exact opposite of what I am looking for. I'm starting to think I'm giving the wrong message.

As a slight sidebar - I was recently talking to someone and we were getting along famously. I then sent an email in which I mentioned my son and the emails stopped. Do a lot of men just forget to read either A)The part of my profile where I say that I'm a working mom or B) the bottom portion which indicates whether or not I have a child? It was just a very frustrating experience.

Thank you in advance!
Nice profile, you say it up front that your a mom and that they come first so I don't know what there proplem is. There loss.flowerforyou best of luck to you.

Jill298's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:26 PM
Stick with it... it's worth the wait flowerforyou at the very least you will make some great friends.

Cinderella75's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:32 PM
Profile looks awesome!!! Really!!!
Maybe a bit long...I found that most guys don't like to read alot..they look at the pic, think you are cute, sexy..whatever..and e-mail you.
Without reading the actual text.
I had a long profile..and I had to "dumb" it down..cuz most guys didn't read it anyways...just looked at my pics.

Thats just my two cents.

AllenAqua's photo
Mon 12/15/08 05:35 PM
It looks fine to me. Sorry you're having to weed'm out but I'm up against the same task. At least you're young, good looking, and interesting...ohwell


Good luck and welcome to the site.:smile:

SweetButSpoiled's photo
Mon 12/15/08 06:06 PM

Would anyone mind taking a look at my profile? I seem to be meeting a lot of men who are the exact opposite of what I am looking for. I'm starting to think I'm giving the wrong message.

As a slight sidebar - I was recently talking to someone and we were getting along famously. I then sent an email in which I mentioned my son and the emails stopped. Do a lot of men just forget to read either A)The part of my profile where I say that I'm a working mom or B) the bottom portion which indicates whether or not I have a child? It was just a very frustrating experience.

Thank you in advance!


I think your profile is great. You have outlined yourself and what you are looking for very well and your pic is just you which is great as well. Good luck! I know how you feel and have had similar luck. The pessimist in me says to deactivate my account but at the same time the optimist says it will happen. So I guess I will stay!

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 12/15/08 06:08 PM

Would anyone mind taking a look at my profile? I seem to be meeting a lot of men who are the exact opposite of what I am looking for. I'm starting to think I'm giving the wrong message.

As a slight sidebar - I was recently talking to someone and we were getting along famously. I then sent an email in which I mentioned my son and the emails stopped. Do a lot of men just forget to read either A)The part of my profile where I say that I'm a working mom or B) the bottom portion which indicates whether or not I have a child? It was just a very frustrating experience.

Thank you in advance!
flowerforyou You seem like a great person.flowerforyou

eunice49508's photo
Mon 12/15/08 06:45 PM
I think your profile is great and to the point. Some people get cold feet when you might actually want to meet! Just try to be patient and when the right one comes along it will be worth the wait!!

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