Would someone just tell me what to do, I am going crazy. I can't get out of my mind, my ex and best ex girlfriend out of my mind. I can't quit thinking about him, and what they are doing. I call relatives to find out, and I know I will just be more depress knowing. I not finding out something I already know anyway. I wonder if he thinks about me, or it all about her now. How can they be truly happy with one other. I know why, she sees what I saw in him, and he is a special person, and I am jealous, that just it I am jealous. I would like to here you you guys, what you did or didn't do to quit thinking about him. I have been out on 5 dates, and none of them called me back or anything, but I can't blame them either. I just need your comments, I know it sounds like I just going pity me, but I am truly hurting.

From what I can tell you seem like a very nice lady, sometimes things happen in life that you have no control over all I can say toyou is try to be yourself and don't worry about what has happned in the past... Sometimes you have to date alot to find the right one that is going to acept you and want to have you as a part of therelife Ive been hurt many times and I didn't let it get me down it is just best to put it behind you and know that love will find a way.

The only thing that is gonna help is time.

I went shoping spent his money got him right out of my mind If he cared about u don't u think he would call. Go on girl get a life hell he did without u. There are plenty of good guys out there go find one might take a while but it will happen.Your crazy to set around and worry about what they do life is short.

If i lived closer to you , I would ask you out

That is sweet

How long have ya'll been apart?

sounds like you must really love him....how long were you married/ do you two have kids? Time is all that works..you may find someone to pass the time with I hear that helps..Ive been divorved 2 years and I still miss her ever day ..I havent dated because Im not ready to move own and our sons arent ready for me to move on thay say their mother and her friends embarass them enough

He couldn't have been that special if he's a person who would ditch you and your relationship WITH YOUR FRIEND!!!!

You'll probably have to suffer chewing on this crap for a while, but it eventually subsides over time.

I'm so sorry this happened to you!!!

Well, the divorce was final last March, but we were still together (if you know what I mean). Then he actually moved in with me for about one month. During that time we started going out to eat with my best friend at work. And, I played right into their hands, I thought we were having fun, and just playing, but they weren't playing, they been together all along. I just didn't see it.

we were married 25 years

That is a long time to spend with someone, for them to end up doing this to you. I am very sorry he did that to you, but the only thing that is going to help is time. You will get to the point where you will start to not think about it as much, then not at all. Just hold your head up high and know that he is the jerk and he will probably end up doing the same thing to her!!

thank you for your post, it was probley more her that started it than him. I truly believe that. I just think that we could maybe work things out if she hadn't come along. I don't hate anyone, but I so want to hate her. But, I can't say I do, that would be just wrong. I should feel sorry for her, but I don't, I don't know what I feel toward her at this point. Thank you for caring enough to post me back, I truly appreciate it.

My second husband got married for his FOURTH TIME today. Geeeeez, but it's such old water under the bridge and it's odd as I feel no "if only we...." stuff. It DOES get better!!! We've been broken up since 1996!!! He moved on and I sat out of this whole dating thing for over 10 years. Just got back into it in March 2008. Time may not heal perfectly, but time does help. Just allow yourself to FEEL your feelings, have some down times, but get your butt back out there. Don't do what I did!!!