The soul searching remark was in addressing why it would appear that you are drawing these types of people to you.

Hey Ms Fox and Bonny,,, how are yall this morning

I understand the remark,and maybe if you knew the entire story around my post you would understand where I was coming from. I know I generalized in the post and by this you gauged your reply, yes, you are correct when you stated we tend to attract a "certain" kind of people (sometimes)

Self preservation kicks in after your heart has been stomped on too many times.

I have had to do this several times in my life. But rest assured that there are good people out there, just few and far between.

Society has, as a whole, become numb to the old ways of helping out a nieghbor or a stranger and paying it forward.

Bonny, sometimes the people that don't give back are the ones that need our help the most. They just don't see it that way when you need help. In the end, you did the right thing by helping them.

Besides, you do walk away with a feeling of accomplishment even if they are ungrateful.

If I was off base, feel free to elaborate of course. I can only assert my advice and observations on what you type here obviously.

I can count my friends on one hand and still flip you off...Many confuse acquaintances with friends..I dont.............A friend is someone who will be there for you even when they dont want to...........

This is true Krisma, I was generalizing and I suppose you can only make an assumption on the information I gave.On the other hand, if you knew me in real life, you would know that I am a woman with a pair of testicles in my handbag and not afraid to use it......... This is what I have been told. No, you are not off base.

Okay good. I didnt want you to take offense or misinterpret. I have been in this position before but I found that when I actually looked at myself and what I was doing, it made it easier to correct some of my behaviors that these personality types will pick up on and use to their advantage.

Why would I ? I did not elaborate on the post and you only responded as it appeared to you.I guess over the years we all go through the phase of "reinventing" ourselves, I have traveled that road a number of times.Don't you feel a great sense of satisfaction when you have gone through a "cleansing," a sort of spring cleaning of yourself?

Well in your initial reply, you sounded as if I should not be giving you advice. I feel it was an accurate assessment based on what you said here. I never had to "reinvent"myself but simply curb some of my own behaviors that might have left me open to the kind of people who one might rightfully define as "users." In my case I tended to attract those that were emotionally needy or bankrupt in that respect. It was too much for me to handle.

Well as I stated previously, I do not know you in real life so I was expressing an opinion based solely on what was indicated here as I would have nothing else to go by.

If I misunderstood you as disagreeing with me initially I would apologize. Sometimes in the absence of body language and voice inflection, it can become easy to misinterpret one another.

I find that most people do not care for their fellow man as much as they should. The almighty dollar is what is important to people now. I try to live my life helping as much as I can, and yes Bonny I have had to trim out the 'Hangers on" too
It seems like everyone is complacent and a "what can you do for me" attitude prevails, rarely give unselfishly. How much of a tax right off can they get by donating to a charity is more important then what is the money I donate going to be used for. I give of myself not for what I can gain but because I like to help my fellow man.

Good morning Halo,I will be back later, I would like to hear your news from yesterday