My 15 yr old daughter has a boyfriend whom lives about 35 miles away.

they don't get to see each other much. she is going to have knee surgery on the 19th and its going to be hard for her to get around for 6 wks on crutches.

His Mom whom I have met and is a nice lady, has invited her to stay the night Sat night in their guest room, got to church with them on Sun, then to the Bf's bday party. His bday was on the 8th.

Should I let her go???? I know its going to be a controlled enviroment.

His mom is offering the invite. I think it is probably okay since you have met her. Just my opinion. But then, I don't have kids.

YES u can not be too controlling!

well i have a 15 year old daughter and i couldnt do it. call me controling but if u let her go now she will want to go another time r he will be staying at yr house next. she will have many boyfrinds and like i tell my daughter she has the rest of her life to go through them but right now she needs to be a kid, not time to start making a kid and when his moms asleep what will be going on. nope not me couldnt do it

k I do have kids, they are so not at this age yet..but I agree, the mom made the invite and even gave you a simple itinerary that you can use to follow up on with your daughter after the fact, it does two things...gives you convo starters with your daughter and allows her to open up more since she will see that you also trust her, or at least"u get to be the cool mom"

My house isn't big enough ...plus its too crowded......I live with my Mom......so when I have my girls.......No extra room.......no sleepovers of any sorts here.....

I agree........She has made a huge mistake in her life earlier this year and its hard to trust her....but I truly believe she has learned from her mistake.

He has a brother and step father in the house at the same time.......

His mom has a good rule....his gf gets grounded because of him....he gets grounded also for the same amt of time she is...

I can't see that hurting, as long as she sets rules where they can't go into either bedroom with the doors shut.

Nothing or no one would ever convince me to let my 15yr old daughter spend the night at her boyfriend's house or any boy's house. It's just asking for trouble.

I'm sorry, I just don't think it's a good idea. No reason you can't take her to the BF's on Sunday in time for church and the party or the mom can pick her up. Plenty of ways of avoiding the sleepover. I think BF's mom, and maybe you, are being naive thinking they won't be sexually active (to some extent, anyway) if they were in that situation. Kids will and why put temptation their way?

If it was a group sleepover with lots of kids and constant adult supervision, I might re-think it, but this? Nope, don't think it would happen.

it depends on the kid you no her better than anyone

I would never do it either.

I remember that age. I remember what we tried to get away with every chance we could.

As a parent you exibit morals and values that a child takes with them for the rest of their life.And it takes yrs sometimes for them to sink in.More so at that age. Sure if she knows about the invite she might get mad if you dont let her go.I am finding out with my 24 yr old these things. Im glad I said no. Yes I heard all the bs well so and so does it all the time etc. Unfortunately the anger only came from my daughter because of other parents that had no morals and values.It's easier to say yes and not have to deal with it. I would not of thought to ask my parents of doing such things, because back then it just wasnt heard of, there were more family values back then, you ate at the table, didnt eat junk food all day and god forbid if you had pop before age 5!these days kids have pop in their baby bottles!all so they dont have to deal with hearing them cry! unreal.. be a parent and teach them morals and values. just cause you let them do something doesnt mean they still arent going to do other stuff behind your back. gawd forbid if you let them do that what are they going to choose to do behind your back? my daughter has been with her boyfriend for 10 yrs now.and i still dont have a grandchild, she is waiting till marriage for that. cause i instilled that in her.I also knew when she was having sex because both came to me and had a discussion her and her boyfriend. I did not pay for birth control nor did I take her to the doc... they had to do it... but i never promoted it... i just asked them as adults <since you are adult enough to have sex> what are you going to do? nor did i let her spend night at her bf or him at my house..It was 18 and outta my house thats when I will approve. never did i instill that it was ok before that.. but to be real kids are going to do what they are gonna do. I dont need to ok it..cause thats not setting a good example in my eyes nor is it being a good parent..JMO

ps nothing worse than the term"It's ok, my mom doesnt care" for we need to teach our children respect, if they dont have respect for their parents they wont have respect for anoyone else.