I met someone online. We talked for a month. I was reluctant to meet her. I had had a few bad dates the previous month. She asked if it would be better to hang out, run errands...I said sure. We meet and had a great day. We were together quit a bit for a couple weeks. I was getting a crush on her but she had given me no romantic signals. She asked me over to dye her hair. Maybe that was a signal but I dyed her hair and went home. I asked her if I would ever get the chance to kiss her. She seemed shocked, said we were friends only. I slowed down my contact with her and she increased hers. We spent a day together and I asked if she had a boyfriend. She said she was dating someone. After saying this she asked me to flat iron and comb her hair. She sat between my legs and I brushed. I didnt touch her because she made it clear we were friends. That night she asked me what present she should get this man for Christmas. I told her I couldnt help her. I do notice a pattern, she calls all week but I don't hear from her on weekends. Now my brain says great I have a new friend, just enjoy your time with her with no expectations. But when I'm around her I can't get rid of this crush. I actually do want to be friends with her. It's not that I don't want to be her friend because she won't "sleep" with me. I just can't stop thinking about her and I don't think its good for me? Do I end this new friendship?

psh women. dont ever know what they want.

Just because you end a sentence with a question mark does not make it a question.

Perhaps your salon skills are so great that she has decided to keep you around.

sometimes being a friend is more than you could ask for....

And therein is the trouble with dating...one person gets a crush on another and it's not reciprocal and then "ta da!" we are surprised.

Not much to say except "sorry" and that it sucks to be on the crushing end if you get left out in the cold.

Good luck!

If you are having romantic feelings for her that won't go away, you would do yourself a service by disengaging the friendship, too. And, frankly, from her behavior, I get the feeling that she is relishing your crush while enjoying another's company. She likes the whole dynamic going on there. She knew you INTENDED to be a date and more, but then surprised you with the "let's be friends" thing, KNOWING you had intended for more. You will be her "string along".

I see only three choices


1. continue to be her "friend" and hairdresser

2. make a move and see if she smacks you

3. walk away

this is one of those rip out or rip off threads aint it?

Yeah, I figured the crush thing had come up before but I'm relatively new to the site. I also read my own advise on another post and should apply it. thx

If this girl just wanted to be your friend and nothing more she wouldn't be getting you to do her hair.She is toying with your feelings since you had asked if you could kiss her.I imagine that in the month that you had talked she got to know you pretty well.If I was dating someone I sure wouldn't be getting another guy to brush and iron my hair.Sorry to say she is enjoying the attention.You deserve better.I can gaurentee that if you were spending time with a female friend she would be upset.How do you think the other guy would feel about you brushing her hair?

listen to your toes

Despite all of the other indications, the fact that you lust for the woman means that you may not, in fact, be the gay best friend.

Start with a new woman with this thought in mind:

Hair dressing - NO!
Hair pulling - YES!

Good luck.

Bry

J/K LOL

Despite all of the other indications, the fact that you lust for the woman means that you may not, in fact, be the gay best friend.

Start with a new woman with this thought in mind:

Hair dressing - NO!
Hair pulling - YES!

Good luck.

Bry

J/K LOL

Ouch!
I knew the gay thing was coming. I even left out that I'm a nurse and we are going to a play this week. lol I didnt want to cloud the issue. The hair thing to me was either sensual or really gay, depending on the outcome. The gay side of me is just trying to get laid by a woman I like.

You should add the hairpulling to your profile. :)