How come the male race always seems to be so bothersome? Why can't they just give a straight and honest answer about things?

So my ex is one of my friends bff's and has found someone else that makes them clearly happier than I ever made him. Well, when I hang out with my friend, he naturally wants his bff, my ex, to be there too. It's really hard to avoid. On top of that, my ex usually brings around his new partner, which simply tears me apart to see that this person can make the guy I strived so hard to please, so incredibly happy.

I really just want to be over it all. I want to make the pain from seeing him go away. I understand that attraction and memories will never fade, but the pain....Doesn't that go away?

I keep trying to find someone new to fill that part of my life with in hopes that it will help ease the pain away but so far...There's been little luck.

Another person in your life isn't going to fix this, doll.

In fact, until you get over your ex....I mean REALLY get over him....you really aren't going to be much good to a new man in your life anyway.

Take care of business first.

Time will take care of it!!! trust me..

Its why I can never be friends with an Ex. Ive had this converstation many times with women Ive dated that said they would still love to be my friend if the relationship didnt work out--to which I tell them that I cannot.

I dont wanna sit around some house/social gathering with my Ex and her new love and hear their torrid love affair stories...or see them being all cute n sexy with one another--the whole time Ill question "whats wrong with me."

So to attempt to answer your ?...No, Im not sure if it will ever go away, as Ive never gotten to the point you are at..for just that reason

The pain does subside, once you just wake up one day and see him and her, and then their is nothing their that bothers you. Sad thing is that it does take time, and usually you will just decide to move along. Right now, even if you did meet someone, you would still feel some amount of pain. I mean, as you stated, you strived so hard to make this man happy. Sounds like you put alot into your relationship, and now he has found someone that makes him so happy, that it stings you...badly.

I must admit, you are being a "bigger" person here, facing this. I know your best friend being his best friend forces this upon you, but you still face it. So kudos to you on that.

I was BBF and a lover of Goof...until he cheated on me with Angelina Joliet

Well how am I supposed to fix it? The boy won't give me closure and I have tried dozens of ways to try and finalize things.
Nothing has seemed to work.


Time has not done much for me either.
It may sound like an excuse, but perhaps I'm just at the stage in my life where waiting feels like a false sense of security and false hope.
I have waited for time to heal me before but as soon as I had healed the wound was reopened without me even trying.

But you fell in love with Miss Piggy. How could I compete?

Dude, you should have tried to make that one a three way.
You can't tell me she is not good looking in one sense or another. I personally LOVE her tattoos. Sexiest thing ever.

Hit your ex with a baseball bat

That will fix him

baby steps...you go through the disappointment, the heartache, crying...and nothing gets you through until each day you remember another reason you aren't with them...it does take time..but it does go away

You know, it feels hard for me to admit it but I did put more into that relationship than I had wanted to. I had wanted to keep things at a far enough distance to where if things didn't work out, I wouldn't be in this state. Yet, here I am.
I think I just have this problem with being in one sided relationships where I try to keep things together while the other person just stays along for the ride until they get bored...
Would that be just horrible luck or fate?

Maybe telling your friend that seeing your ex with his new woman hurts you. Maybe he will be your friend and help you heal.

Its gonna hurt and hurt bad seeing someone you cared about with another. Remember ... Alcohol numbs the pain!!

and dont be so quick to please. when a guy figures you out, he gets bored. Its a fine line, you have to show him you care, but also keep him on his toes.

Hahaha sounds good. You got a good strong one? He's pretty dense.

There is a form of aversion therapy available which when done properly will make you fall completely out of love with an ex-mate. Look into it. It's GREAT!!!

I cant help it..she gave good snout

But, but, what was the "fork my wife" part???

I think my problem may lie with the fact that the only real reasons I have for not being with him is that he didn't want to be with me anymore...
I guess another reason might be that we didn't have too much in common and that we lived about 25 miles apart but neither seemed like a problem at the time...

And if that doesn't help chop his balls off

Hahaha here's the kicker: He's with another DUDE.
That's why I said new partner. He's bi.

I'm not 21 and I'm not drinking until then. Thanks for the advice, but I have tried using substances to just numb the pain and it was miserable what the outcomes from it were. I want to find a way to break through this without the help of substances. I know it will only make me stronger if I do it that way.