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Topic: FRIENDS WITH EX.
popcornncoke's photo
Wed 12/03/08 09:58 PM
Are you still friends with your ex-wife/husband??For years I didn't speak to him cause he left me to raise 5/boys with no help.He didn't have time for them until they were grown men,He has been married and divorced 6/times now.I was still in love with him and wanted him back,until I had the chance and then I realize I was over him and I didn't want him back..But I still don't care to talk to him or be around him.After 24 yrs divorced,he is just a jerk. Thanks ,just letting off steam,after all these years he still only thinks of hisself,only calls or comes to visit his sons and their familes when he feels like it.

keepthehope's photo
Wed 12/03/08 10:03 PM
I would happily never have anything to do with mine again, except we have 3 girls together. I don't hate him or anything, but I just don't like him and he isn't making it any better when it comes to the girls. I don't see any need to be nicey nice around him. I don't believe in pretending, ya know.

Queene123's photo
Wed 12/03/08 10:09 PM
i only call my ex hubby when its needed. other than that i wont.
when my son was in the hospitol last yr and we didnt know if he was going to make it. i contact his dad, actually i harassed him for about 3days and he finally came down brought his wife and daughter, the only reason he did come was so i would quit harassing him.. i sware his daughter has more freaken brains than he does:angry:

no photo
Thu 12/04/08 08:47 AM
Edited by Gypsy41 on Thu 12/04/08 08:47 AM
I dont know if any of my exes are alive or dead. They dont know where I am.

Pete0909's photo
Thu 12/04/08 08:54 AM
My ex is coming to Japan for a month next weekend. We get on alright, most times. I try to not hold grudges.

SamaraNJ's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:01 AM
I had almost this same comment for another post..
Friends don't treat friends badly.. if he was a jerk when he was suppose to care about you the most.. why be friends now.. Maybe I hold a grudge.. but there are so many people out there that it's easy for me to just move on and not bother..

popcornncoke's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:09 AM
The reason to be friends with him,is for my sons and grandkids.So we can both be at a birthday party and be nice to each other.That is whenever he shows up.Last grandbaby was a year old before he came to see her[he lived 40 miles away]frown I don't want any of the kids caught in the middle.

Pete0909's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:11 AM
Edited by Pete0909 on Thu 12/04/08 09:11 AM
Same here really. She is coming to see our daughter. I keep it friendly because of that. I forgave her for what she did, but I will never forget it.

no photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:12 AM
I have forgiven my son's dad a long time ago. I have no ill feelings towards him.

My ex husband........I just never think about. Strange eh???? I guess I never really loved him. I thought I did.noway

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Thu 12/04/08 09:14 AM
ex #1. no, but I did stop throwing rocks at her

ex #2. yes

ex #3. never

Adrenaline's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:16 AM
I try not to make enemies with my ex's. Life's a lot easier when you don't burn a lot of bridges behind you. Even the one that really did me wrong, I was pretty torc'd for a good while but as time went by I started feeling more sorry for her than upset about what she did to me. I kind of have the belief that everything happens for a reason and she was just a tool to help guide me where I am now. I'm better off now than I ever have been and I wonder what it would have been like if that never happened. Maybe it was the best thing that could have happened....? I don't talk to her or anything (mostly because I don't know where she is and don't really care) but if I did I would help her out if she needed it. There's a certain amount of pride for being big enough to not hang on to history and let it control you.

beachbum069's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:19 AM
I'm better friends with my ex wife now then when I was married to her. She has her life and I have mine and we share time with our son.

SamaraNJ's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:34 AM

The reason to be friends with him,is for my sons and grandkids.So we can both be at a birthday party and be nice to each other.That is whenever he shows up.Last grandbaby was a year old before he came to see her[he lived 40 miles away]frown I don't want any of the kids caught in the middle.

ok I am no one to have an opinion there.. I have no kids..

SamaraNJ's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:40 AM

I try not to make enemies with my ex's. Life's a lot easier when you don't burn a lot of bridges behind you. Even the one that really did me wrong, I was pretty torc'd for a good while but as time went by I started feeling more sorry for her than upset about what she did to me. I kind of have the belief that everything happens for a reason and she was just a tool to help guide me where I am now. I'm better off now than I ever have been and I wonder what it would have been like if that never happened. Maybe it was the best thing that could have happened....? I don't talk to her or anything (mostly because I don't know where she is and don't really care) but if I did I would help her out if she needed it. There's a certain amount of pride for being big enough to not hang on to history and let it control you.

I'm not enemies with any of my ex's just no reason to bother with them.. as for burning bridges.. that's a place I don't care to go again.. so let the bridge fall... whatever happened with them was something I experienced and yes I know it makes me who I am today and I wouldn't change it... as for it controlling someone, if someone treated everyone they met with the expectation they would get the same treatment from their ex's then yeah I see that as a problem.. but I know everyone I meet has an entirely different personality from anyone else I may meet.. so I dont make others suffer for the mistakes of those I met in the past

Atlantis75's photo
Thu 12/04/08 10:07 AM
I've never been married (twice -almost), but I have no X-es who hate me or doesn't like me..I established a friendship with them after a few weeks or months the relationship ended.

HawaiiMusikMan's photo
Thu 12/04/08 10:22 AM
I haven't seen or talked with my X-wife since she left. Probably better that way. I've forgiven and I'd be friendly to her, but that doesn't mean I'd want to be friends. If we didn't have a child together, I think I'd cut all ties.

Riding_Dubz's photo
Thu 12/04/08 10:38 AM
More like it's mutal respect,

i wouldn't call it a friendship,

SharpShooter10's photo
Thu 12/04/08 11:12 AM

Are you still friends with your ex-wife/husband??For years I didn't speak to him cause he left me to raise 5/boys with no help.He didn't have time for them until they were grown men,He has been married and divorced 6/times now.I was still in love with him and wanted him back,until I had the chance and then I realize I was over him and I didn't want him back..But I still don't care to talk to him or be around him.After 24 yrs divorced,he is just a jerk. Thanks ,just letting off steam,after all these years he still only thinks of hisself,only calls or comes to visit his sons and their familes when he feels like it.
still friends with my ex, it can happen, rarely but it's out there

Duffy's photo
Thu 12/04/08 11:18 AM
dear popcorn/coke girl:
is ur x's name dale? he is a carbon my of x.

the last real contact i had went like this. OUR daughter which used to be my daughter cause she was just like me, was getting married. there was a wedding breakfast which i was invited to at the x's. then, well they had to get going so i left. the wedding dinner was that night at Shennigans, a beautiful place down on the waterfront.
however, one thing. they all left me out. next day, the wedding came. i did all of the work for preplanning, and such.
let us jump to the ceremony. i walked down the aisle to light the candles, when the MAN walked his daughter down the aisle,.....his clone i will admit with his genetic imprint... and that part was thrilling to see.
however, when he sat down, he scooted way over to the other side of the church which made it plain he was not in my camp even tho i was the body that housed her, and spit her out.
next came the reception. i again did all the work, and he got the bill. he sat in the corner with a sullen look in his eye. cause i was having some fun. well, his clone was getting married and out of my hair, and i thought he was gone for good also. wrong. i will tell you the next part later...for that came farther down the road. stay friends? um well expect some grief and aggravation for your kind attitude. or go out and get a new life.
flowerforyou

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 12/04/08 11:50 AM
It will bite him in the ass when he is on his deathbed and the kids "don't have time"...at least this is how I invision it going with my father.

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