Topic: Serious problem
LunarAngelCM's photo
Wed 12/03/08 09:40 PM
Ok i was going out with this girl, who i ended up adoring more than anyone i have ever met. And i hope she felt that way about me too. But im jumping the gun. Here is the problem:

She is faced with the problem about choosing between: a)leaving with her family to the other side of the country and leaving everthing here behind or b) staying here and not see her family for a long time, who knows how long.

Well as you would expect she could not be in a serious relationship while trying to make this decision, so she broke up with me for the time being, I know we care about each other which makes it very hard. She has to remain here for at least 6 months cause of her lease, but her family leaves in one.

We have no problems with each other, and still have been getting along, just no kissing and what not.

So I came to see what people would advise me to do. To wait for her to make a decision (which i favor)? or should I look for someone new?

I personally would like to hope that she decides to stay and we continue where we left off.

keepthehope's photo
Wed 12/03/08 10:08 PM
Eventually we are all supposed to be able to grow away from the need to be around our families all the time. If you do your best to make her happy, and feeled loved and cared for, then the transition of her family moving off, might now be so hard. Plus, you will have 5 months of her lease to be able to tell if she will realize she can live with out her family.

dutchman4u's photo
Wed 12/03/08 10:09 PM
She's going to be here for another 6 months and she cut off the relationship so she can think about her family?

I think there may be more to it than that. Like maybe she's not that into you and there may be another waiting in the wings...

Just something to look out for...

LunarAngelCM's photo
Wed 12/03/08 10:14 PM
i dont think its someone else cause she cried heavily after she did it.

dutchman4u's photo
Wed 12/03/08 10:21 PM

i dont think its someone else cause she cried heavily after she did it.


Cool! Just weird...If she was really into you, she would probably want to spend every last minute with you until the end.

Just protect your heart...Looks like you might get let down in the future.

Since you're on "HOLD", you may want to date others as well.

Waiting is just wasting time.


no photo
Wed 12/03/08 10:23 PM
The answer will be revealed after






you












eat












a can of BEANS!!!surprised

Adrenaline's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:58 AM
Wait for her to make the decision and whatever it is support her in it even if it is not the way you wanted it. You're young enough that even if she decides to move away you will have plenty of time to find someone else that is just adorable. If you look before you know you need to, you might just end up shooting yourself in your foot and screwing up any chance you might have had.

bry11calcool's photo
Thu 12/04/08 03:35 PM
There's more to is than you think.

All women cry during break-up sex . . . does it make me a loser if I know that?

no photo
Thu 12/04/08 03:43 PM
I have to agree with some of these posts. I think you should be careful with this girl. If she really cared about you she would be upfront about being torn between you and family BUT still be with you while she could.
Just my opinion- hope it helps. Good luck w/ everythingflowerforyou

SamaraNJ's photo
Thu 12/04/08 03:45 PM
How long were you guys dating?


Josh_P_Rad88's photo
Thu 12/04/08 03:47 PM
lol i think my rel. advice card has been revoked lol but i think u should stick it out man, let it devlop naturally if it happens it happens if not it doesnt, age old question is a lonely heart better than a broken heart? u gotta decide, only time will reveal ur answer