What has been the longest time in between lovers that you had to endure and why ?

For me it has been 3 1/2 years. The reason is because my wife passed and my heart keeps pulling me back when a woman wants to get close.
I feel that I'm getting stronger as time passes. only time will tell if I am right or I'm wrong.

Jimmy

good luck--it's been a few years for me

yes. I understand.
my heart goes out to you Jimmy.
It isn't easy at all.

Thanks: One good thing is that I learned a lot about myself. Also that just because I'm single does not mean that women will be breaking the door down to be with a man like me. That's for sure. This was hardest lesson I had to learn over the last few years. Since I had not been in the dating seen for over 20 years I was nieve to think dating was going to be a piece of cake. Man was I wrong.

Thank you for your understanding your Oh so right!!!!!

I am widowed also. He was the love of my life and I miss him so much. I date but long to for it to be Jerry there , holding me and kissing me. I want him back so very much but I know that is just a dream. I hate this being alone stuff though and so I will continue to search for signs of him in new people. We had talked about what would happen if one of us died and he said he did not want me to stay alone. My reply was that once you have the best it is hard to settle for less. I did not think that day would come though. I feel your loss and your pain and I know what you mean about no one knocking down the door. You hang in there and know that you arent hurting alone. There are lots more of us out there..........

Thanks I know that your thoughts are from your heart.
I feel I do the same thing.
I am aways looking for that lost part of my heart that blended with my soul. The part of my heart & soul that the one I had the most deepest connection with occupied.
I know that I do not ever have to close this part of my heart & soul that my wife occupied. I just have to put it in its place.

Now that time has passed I realize that I can open a new part of my heart & my soul. So WHEN the woman of my dreams arrives she can blend her heart and soul with mine once again.
With Gods blessing of corse.

My husband just passed away this past July. I have had the exact opposite happen. I had the funneral director asking me out one week after I buried my husband and one of his "friends" called me the night of the funneral and said he thought that my husband wanted him to take his place. WRONG I loved my husband no doubt. Sure we had problems like everyone. Everybody knew how much we loved each other though. Since then the men seem to notice the absence of the ring and start in right away.

I am so sorry for your loss.
Dang that's just not right I would turn those people in for harassment. That is not the way to do business. I wonder if they have been harassing other woman like that. I would have someone like the DA look into this. Maybe that would save some other women the pain they are causing on you and others on top of the loss of a loved one.