Just stay involved and don't be afraid to keep putting your foot down where, when, and if you feel the need.

Go mom!

thank you

Just because the kid let someone suck his thingy doesn't make him bisexual.Nowadays it seems to be a fad to experiment with different things.As for the pot smoking,my goodness.Hopefully you and your daughter can turn things around but this kid sounds more like your daughters project than a relationship.

idk. im trying not to judge him and hold it against him.

i just WORRY about my DAUGHTER

Wow this is a very sad thread. I dont even know what to say.

At 12 do you honestly think these kids have any idea about love. Regardless if they have "been together" a year now do you think they really get it?? They are way to young to know what real love is and they are children and have the right to a childhood.

I can say this. My mom went as far as putting a restraining order on a guy I dated when I was 14. He was 18. I thought I was in love with him as well. After the restraining order there was no contact allowed or he would go to jail. By the time the restraining order dropped I had turned 16 and realized that he was not the one I was in love with and furthurmore he was not even the person I had thought he was when I was 14.

If my child was in this same situation I would make the relationship stop, no matter if I was the "bad guy" or not. To allow it saddens me.

I have to say I'm in agreement with you.....:)I was beiginning to wonder if I was the only one reading that these are preteens.......

I was a pot-smokin hood when I was 12 and look how I turned out

okay okay, bad example

but, however a kid is at that age doesnt mean he'll turn out so bad as he grows up. You could be the guiding influence on him

Good point, Robin! I know I experimented with drugs at a younger age and by the time I went to college I was quite responsible, graduating in three years actually. Drug and sexual experimentation doesn't quite mean a person is ruined. Or even on a track anywhere....

IMO if you want to help this boy try getting him help for the drug usage. Instead of accepting the "relationship' 2 12 year olds have with each other, put that focus into helping the boy. I'm not saying he is a bad person or on the wrong track but I think there is really something wrong with the idea of a 12 year old who is doing drugs and experimenting with sex......

Let these kids be children while they can!

ummm I tried that stance for the first year. it didnt work so well. they are still talking on the phone and have further bonded EMOTIONALLY together.. i know what happens next. and I dont condone sexual experimentation.

ummmm but i can tell that that is where this relationship is progressing. i put my foot down. tell her nope no boyfriends allowed. and defiently not this one. and well......causes some sorta romeo and juilet syndrome or somethin.

Ok I just have to ask this one....Why have you allowed your daughter to talk to this boy? Why are you allowing any contact for their "relationship" to grow??

I'm not judging nor am I meaning to sound like I am but I do think the whole situation is sad. You are the parent. You are there to do what is best for your child. Since the boy's parents dont seem concerned why not social services....Drug use is a HUGE issue...
As a parent we are supposed to care for our children and do what is in the best interest of them. It doesnt seem, to me, that the best interest of any 12 year old girl is to be allowed to "date" a boy who is already experimenting with sex and drugs....
Screw being the bad guy and do what is right.
There wont be any kind of Romeo and Juliet issues to be concerned about.....As your daughter matures and grows up she will also realize that she is not in love with the boy....If you allow it to continue what do you think is going to happen?

im allowing contact becasue my daughter is her own person. I dont believe in making her decisions for her but guiding her through her life. I dont liek this boy, i wont like the next boy. [there will be no next boy -lacey]

the only contact they have is thought the computer and the telephone. they have n


idc if you erase this mother.
but you really dont understand how much i miss him and i need him in my life i love him more then anybody on this planet and yeah he makes me cry and yeah he has his flaws, but its unconditional. and i would give him my world, i choose him over everybody, and hes the only guy i would die for, without him i feel dead, and with him i feel like the happiest person in the world,


thats what i want for christmas, is him.
thats all iwant from you.
something that costs nothing,
but it means everything to me.








o yes...i guess those last words are from her. thanks for your input folks keep it coming. i told u...romeo and juilet....

I'm not trying to be mean here, really, I am not but I have to ask this question. Do you not realize that she is 12 years old?? She is not an adult, she is not even a teenager yet! She can't take care of herself or make the decisions in life that are required to live.
As parent's that is our job until they are old enough to do it on their own. When your daughter is 14 and pregnant please dont cry about how this could happen to you. She needs a mother, not a friend....

Oh and just so everyone knows I was a brat as a child and thru most of my teen years. My mother stayed firm with the rules that were set and I hated every minute of it but today when I look at my old child I am thankful she CARED enough to step in and "guide" me to be a better person!

i know shes not an adult. and ive talked till I was blue in the face about why she cant/shouldnt be in a realtionship with this boy. i have hated the boy. i have not allowed him to call my house or see my daughter. honestly they dont even see eachother now. they dont go to school together anymore and are only allowed to talk over the phone and computer.

i am trying to be a good mother. what she wants is to have him over for supper.

at this point, im at my last straw here and im somewhat wondering if maybe the fact that i dont like him is why she likes him.

i dont have blinders on. i know this is the beginning of the end of my daughters innocence. if she makes it to 16 and is still a virgin i will be happy. kids have sex in their face daily from movies, music, and hearing their friends talk about it at school. im not gonna close my eyes and be blind to this. shes growing up. i will fight for her to keep her innocence...but the past few weeks I have tried to be more accepting of this boy...in hopes that she willl grow tired of him.

i have no reason to call the cops and get a restraining order on the boy, as of yet.
he doesnt come to my home.

i am at this point lost. i am not worried about offending my daughter or hurting her feelings about not letting her see this boy. heck thats what ive been doing.

THAT has not worked though.

If they don't go to the same school and the only contact is via computer and phone why do you allow this?.....are these items not under your control somehow?....do you not pay the bills for them?

ya, and i 'banned them from communicating for about 6 months. i cant be around 24/7...when im at work, shes at her grandparents. they are 70. they go to bed at 8pm.

she sneaks thephone. or she did anyhow.
actually she can be quite sneaky.
she lied to me for a while...stating the boy she was talking to was 'jacob' not his real name.

the sneaking will get worse as she gets older...i know this.

i try to pick my battles. shes not using drugs, shes not having sex YET, shes got a decent head on her shoulders. i dont let her do much of anything anymore...not unless im involved.

some pot smokers are really smart lol

he actually hasnt smoked any pot for at least a month now. last time he did my daughter cried fro hours.

unless hes a sneaky pot smoker.
thats what i asked her today

i smoked a lot of pot im not braggin or anything but i believe as long as u treat it as a way to relax every now and then ur ok its wen u smoke every day a couple times a day that its a problem

pot smoking is illegal. i dont want it in my house or around my children.
we are an anti drug household.

my daughter at this point in her life is very against drug use. i pray she stays that way....no offense meant. its jmo