Okay, so how many of you out there have been involved in some sort of cyber jealousy, whether it was you who was jealous or another person who was jealous...and how did you deal with it???

I have had alot of cyber jealousy directed at me- and I tend to stop speaking with the jealous person. I hate that- as they have no right to be jealous- talking to someone on line is not a "relationship" and its just silly.

Its just easier to stop communicating than to try to explain something petty.

I have had cyber jealousy directed towards me as well and I think it is only legitimate if you are supposed to be in a relationship with someone but you continue to flirt your head off with everyone else. I mean just talking is nothing, you know?

Tomorrow we can drive around this town, 'n let the cops chase us around...

Gin Blossoms, right?

True and I don't consider just talking on a dating site- a relationship.

If Im in a relationship and Im happy I don't even notice anyone else so I don't flirt but just chatting with a friend and they give me the third degree? no thank you- i just don't need the drama

I always liked that song!!!

It's on my "fun to sing" list.

I stopped talking to them

Very much agreed there!

agree; I don't have time for that; been there did that in high school. Talking to someone on-line isn't a relationship. I'm not a jealous person -- never have and don't plan on becoming one. There are some who are jealous of me and I don't have a clue as to why. It's childish.

Exactly!! We are all adults- or at least I hope most of us are- and shouldn't we be able to handle an adult relationship. Im already raising a child- I sure don't want to date one.

Along this same line..I just recently started talking to a couple of guys online. Obviously, I want to find out which one if any of them are potential mates. If you are doing this and find yourself clicking with more than one guy, at what point do you tell them about the other? Or do you?

I really don't think you need to tell them unless of course, you've met someone and there is a potential for the relationship to become more serious. After all, you're only talking to them and getting to know them as best you can. I'm sure they might be doing the same.

Cyber is just cyber...all smoke & mirrors until you finally meet in person...not worth the effort, really. (Jealousy, that is)

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Well, I have individuals get jealous b/c I talked to someone that was behind the scenes involved with someone... guess what! If you don't make it known on your profile that you are off the market or on the threads... that person is still open game for individuals to flirt.

Also, I just recently had someone state that they were jealous that I talked to other people and flirted with people on the site. There was talks about meeting and maybe making it serious, but not yet (and probably won't happen.. long story).

So I am very open and honest when I start talking to someone somewhat seriously, I tell that person that I am already talking to other people. I am so brutally honest that I will tell the other person about the other person (in general information). I make it very clear if something becomes more serious with one person that all will know. So that person has the decision of pursuing something with me, knowing that I am getting to know other people. Don't like it... oh well. Have trust issues... well I guess I am not ya gal. Get jealous easily... to bad!

Exactly

OK, here's a good one -- a couple years ago, I was talking to someone (on another site) who lived in another state. She was smart and funny and seemed like a great person.

So one day, I get this message on a different site, and it's some girl who lives 10 minutes away from me wanting to know if I'm seeing anybody. And I said no, because I wasn't.

It turns out that the first girl had her friend (the local girl) send me that message as a test. To see what I would say. Now, I had never met the first girl in person, we had only talked on line and on the phone. And no one had said anything about a relationship. It was just out of the blue, like "You can't talk to anybody else now."

That was kind of a red flag.

Later on, she wanted me to delete any and all accounts I had on any dating or social networking sites. It was pretty bizarre. I finally did meet her in person (she drove 11 or 12 hours to see me) and I really do think she was a truly good person, but not the one for me.