I'm madly in love with my best friend, he's been seeing a girl on and off..blah blah same old argue/breakup story. I sorta told him how I felt, and am laying low for a while. How do I get him off my mind? The net late at night isn't working out so well anymore lol

find someone new...always works for me...if not captain Morgan and a good fire does wonders...

haha thanks

I hate to say time will help but the only thing thats gonna help is to do other things to get him off your mind.

I'm trying to stay busy. I've been baking alot! Anything to make the time pass until I see him again and we can talk

I find it easier to find someone new to focus on, lol. But that's just me!

he didn't reject me, he just went "whoa, I need to sit down" it was kinda cute lol we agreed to talk about it this weekend because he is away with work...but we still text.

ask him politely to sep off your head
how long has it been since you sorta told him how you feel? maybe he hasnt talked to you yet because he is torn between you and the woman he is on and off yet and isnt sure what he wants.
i would call him or text him and just ask him how he is doing.

I told him a few days ago, and I've text him and asked if he was ok with what I told him etc. He said he doesn't know what to do..so I think he's torn also. It's probably a shock to have your best friend tell you they want to be with you. If it's meant to be it'll happen...if not I'll be here crying to you guys

I don't want to call and come across all clingy and pathetic. I'm kinda leaving the actual phone call to him

as long as you are still talking about it then its good. i know it wouldnt be easy but did you tell him you would be ok with him if he chooses to stay with the girl he is with and would still value your friendship with him?
and if you do have to cry im sure you will have many shoulders from us to use

I went through the same situation with my best friend. It is not easy at all. I watched him go through girl after girl while I pined away. I finally told him and he rejected me. Unfortunately it put a damper on our relationship after that. I wish for you, the best of luck!

No I haven't told him that, do you think it's really a good idea? What if he thinks i'll hang around for second place when they get back together and repeat their strange process over again.

Well usually you don't see many best friends turned partners last very long. I like to keep my friends and interests in two separate categories because putting one in the other can just mess things up.

When me and my ex old lady broke up I found myself reading The Federalist Papers. I wouldn't advise reading this if you already haven't because its most people its boring as all hell. I still suggest the literature idea though, it allows you to submerse yourself in something that isn't your best friend.

good question
thats just when you have to make it clear to him your intentions. I'd hate to put a time limit on in it or make it an ultimatum but what if you move on and fall in love with someone and he then decides he wants to be with you.
I dont want to tell you the wrong thing because it is your decision to make, and i dont want you to hate me if you do what i say and it blows up in your face. its a tough dilema how long are you willing to wait and see what he does?

A time limit is a good idea actually. I wouldn't hate you or anyone else if it blew up in my face. This is a huge risk and with my luck it will probably blow up in my face and I'll lose him...but I can't just be the best friend anymore, it's eating me up. She's going away for a month for the holidays and we've planned a disneyland trip...well it's with another couple. It's kinda my last chance to show him how I feel, rather than just nag at him like she does. She's a nice girl but complains about everything lol We're going Dec 19, do you think that's to long a wait to let him think or decide or whatever he needs to do?

i think time is irrelivant but maybe him being away from her will be a good thing for you 2. no thats not a long time if he has feelings for her time is the best thing for him. i know i just contradicted myself there but its better the more time he is away from her. and is that amount of time ok for you? its really not that far away. i'd hate to throw the rebound thing at ya but time away from her will lessen the chances of that happening to you(i only said that cause i got hurt in a situation like that. i'm still friends with her but its not a friendship like we had before we got toghether). but you have to do what your heart tells you. if youdont you would go through life wondering what if a that could be worse than if it doesnt work out with him the way you want it too. I wish you the best it will work itself out in the end. and you have friends to help you along the way.