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| Topic: How long before you met in person? | |
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For any of you who have met people off the internet, how long did you spend talking online and on the phone before meeting in person? When you met in person was it what you had expected or hoped for? I'd looove some opinions on the topic. I've met a number of people from online. Not always good but in general I think it is. I've waited as long as 7 months and as little as a couple days. Doesn't seem to matter how long you wait as to how you'll hit if off with them. But an online meeting IMO should include at least 2 or three phone calls. Sadly there are some people out there who take advantage of this medium and are not very honest about who they are. Usually a few phone calls will help weed out the really bad ones. |
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For any of you who have met people off the internet, how long did you spend talking online and on the phone before meeting in person? When you met in person was it what you had expected or hoped for? I'd looove some opinions on the topic. I've met a number of people from online. Not always good but in general I think it is. I've waited as long as 7 months and as little as a couple days. Doesn't seem to matter how long you wait as to how you'll hit if off with them. But an online meeting IMO should include at least 2 or three phone calls. Sadly there are some people out there who take advantage of this medium and are not very honest about who they are. Usually a few phone calls will help weed out the really bad ones. i usually wait a 2-3 months if there not local. Sadly, most of the people i meet are not honest, even after talking on the phone for hours or days even months. Usually even with pictures the body type is misrepresented, like an average girl is about 70lbs over weight and has a beer belly, a few extra lbs is like 5'4 300lbs. There mental stability factor (decision making abilitys, anger issues, issues in general) are vastly differnt, and bleed into everyday life. Every so often you find one person who isn't a douche, and who represented themselfs fairly, or didnt show the other person all there good sides. Those people are why everyone still dates. There is just a smaller percentage then the others. |
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It depends on which context you're speaking of. The first time I met any FRIENDS from the internet took about 8 months. The first time I met a potential partner took about a year and a half, although we had only been passing friends during that time, and the meeting of each other wasn't even planned, it just turned out that way. I have never thought of sites such as this as simply for "dating", period, dot, end of conversation. There are too many people who are misled to believe that. Sites like these are for social interaction. If a person can't be a friend that you get to know first, how in God's name would they expect them to be a potential date? You can't just look at a picture or a profile and say "Hey, I want to date you!" "Oh, gee, okay." You wouldn't (or SHOULDN'T) do that in the real world, so why would you do it online? Good reply |
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I've met quite a few people off the internet and all of them were different. Mostly it depended on geography and timing as to when we met. I can get an initial feeling when I start talking to someone via chat or phone, but to really know who they are I think that you have to meet. For me, I like to go out and do things in social situations.....dinner, bowling,(not movies because you can't tell much from someone by sitting quietly in the dark with them), that kind of thing. Short answer for me is: if I am interested in a person and want to find out more, I meet with them as soon as they are comfortable and able to do so. Advancing the relationship before meeting is just a bad idea and why wait? If it goes well, you move forward. If not, you move on. A lot of people try to be scientific about meeting and tend to over think things IMO. I mostly run off of feeling, not statistics.
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And, don't ever meet someone new in a far away state, in private, or in any situation which is secluded and could put you in a vulnerable position. Always let someone know where you will be if you meet out of state. Have the name, address, phone, photos, and internet address of that person and have someone or more than one person call you at different times if you will be with them for any extended period of time. good advice i always get their mailing address as well and send them something. when they can verify what it was, at least i have a contact address if something goes wrong. it's not a 100% safe, but at least it's a start. |
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