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I'LL SECOND THAT..EVERYONE IS TOOOOOOO PICKY IF U ASK ME.. Dang right I am picky! No way I am going to just "settle" for whatever comes along so I can be in a relationship. One thing I have learned... you're better off just living your life to the fullest - enjoying those people who are in your life (friends, family, colleagues, etc), making the most of everyday, and being open to who might cross your path without some secondary voice asking you "is he/she the ONE?!" What is meant to be so shall come to pass, regardless of what you do/don't do. RELAX! |
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Ever heard the expression "nice guys always finish last", well, it's true. I've had a few girls tell me I was "too nice". And I don't have the ability, nor do I want to be a jerk, so I guess I'm going to die, a lonely, bitter old man. That's something you can never win with. You're either too nice or an asshole. There apparently is no middle ground. Women do tend to be more attracted to guys that are assholes though. I guess it's because they want to try to prove they are good enough for a person that isn't good enough for them. can i just say from a girls point of view. ive tried dating the guys who say they are a nice guy and you know what happens? you get in a relationship with them and within months they change. and they are ever bit of the asshole i was avoiding. i want a guy who says he is a nice guy to actually prove it to me. honestly. because either be real that your an asshole up front and not hide it or prove it that your not. actions speak louder than words. jmo so true. 
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Ever heard the expression "nice guys always finish last", well, it's true. I've had a few girls tell me I was "too nice". And I don't have the ability, nor do I want to be a jerk, so I guess I'm going to die, a lonely, bitter old man. That's something you can never win with. You're either too nice or an asshole. There apparently is no middle ground. Women do tend to be more attracted to guys that are assholes though. I guess it's because they want to try to prove they are good enough for a person that isn't good enough for them. can i just say from a girls point of view. ive tried dating the guys who say they are a nice guy and you know what happens? you get in a relationship with them and within months they change. and they are ever bit of the asshole i was avoiding. i want a guy who says he is a nice guy to actually prove it to me. honestly. because either be real that your an asshole up front and not hide it or prove it that your not. actions speak louder than words. jmo I've had a few girlfriends who've said I was the best guy they've ever dated after we broke up but that's usually part of the "you're everything I want but not what I want" conversation. I stay the same person and don't put on a front to get any girl to date me nor do I change after a few months. The only time I'm an asshole is when the person deserves it like lying to me, cheating, etc. Every one of my friends wives that has gotten to know me loves me and says I'm one of the few really good guys out there. What it comes down to is attraction. Attraction isn't a choice and people are usually attracted to the wrong type of person. I know I am. I find myself attracted to the type of girl I know I don't want yet I still pursue that attraction for some reason then I end up in a relationship I'm unhappy with yet don't want to end. Explain that because I sure as hell can't. Out of all the girls I've dated there was only one I would've probably married. She was the only one that actually met ALL my standards but I wasn't genuinely attracted to her. I guess eventually I'll find someone that I'm truely attracted to and is everything I want. If not, and I hit that middle age wall around 50 or so, there's always the mail order bride option. At that point, as long as the only english I let her learn is "yes" and "what do you want for dinner", I'll be set. 
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Ever heard the expression "nice guys always finish last", well, it's true. I've had a few girls tell me I was "too nice". And I don't have the ability, nor do I want to be a jerk, so I guess I'm going to die, a lonely, bitter old man. That's something you can never win with. You're either too nice or an asshole. There apparently is no middle ground. Women do tend to be more attracted to guys that are assholes though. I guess it's because they want to try to prove they are good enough for a person that isn't good enough for them. rofl! they need mail order grooms too hahaah! can i just say from a girls point of view. ive tried dating the guys who say they are a nice guy and you know what happens? you get in a relationship with them and within months they change. and they are ever bit of the asshole i was avoiding. i want a guy who says he is a nice guy to actually prove it to me. honestly. because either be real that your an asshole up front and not hide it or prove it that your not. actions speak louder than words. jmo I've had a few girlfriends who've said I was the best guy they've ever dated after we broke up but that's usually part of the "you're everything I want but not what I want" conversation. I stay the same person and don't put on a front to get any girl to date me nor do I change after a few months. The only time I'm an asshole is when the person deserves it like lying to me, cheating, etc. Every one of my friends wives that has gotten to know me loves me and says I'm one of the few really good guys out there. What it comes down to is attraction. Attraction isn't a choice and people are usually attracted to the wrong type of person. I know I am. I find myself attracted to the type of girl I know I don't want yet I still pursue that attraction for some reason then I end up in a relationship I'm unhappy with yet don't want to end. Explain that because I sure as hell can't. Out of all the girls I've dated there was only one I would've probably married. She was the only one that actually met ALL my standards but I wasn't genuinely attracted to her. I guess eventually I'll find someone that I'm truely attracted to and is everything I want. If not, and I hit that middle age wall around 50 or so, there's always the mail order bride option. At that point, as long as the only english I let her learn is "yes" and "what do you want for dinner", I'll be set. |
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I'LL SECOND THAT..EVERYONE IS TOOOOOOO PICKY IF U ASK ME.. Well, yeah, but....I feel the NEED to be picky. because I've seen what happens when I'm not picky enough, and 3-month relationships aren't a lot of fun when you have to spend the last 2 months trying to figure a graceful way out. If I'm going to be with someone long-term -- say, 6 months or maybe even a year -- they're going to have to mesh well with my preferences....! 
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I'LL SECOND THAT..EVERYONE IS TOOOOOOO PICKY IF U ASK ME.. Well, yeah, but....I feel the NEED to be picky. because I've seen what happens when I'm not picky enough, and 3-month relationships aren't a lot of fun when you have to spend the last 2 months trying to figure a graceful way out. If I'm going to be with someone long-term -- say, 6 months or maybe even a year -- they're going to have to mesh well with my preferences....! 6 - 12 months?! *laughs* Hunny, that is the blink of an eye... long-term is for the rest of your natural born life. |
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Looking at your prof you seem great I have to admit the height issue maybe in some womens mind.............well im into height since im so short thats all............JMO
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6 - 12 months?! *laughs* Hunny, that is the blink of an eye... long-term is for the rest of your natural born life. Nah, that was a joke. I'm not looking anymore. |
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Looking at your prof you seem great I have to admit the height issue maybe in some womens mind.............well im into height since im so short thats all............JMO I've considered that but not every girl wants the tall, dark and handsome cliche dream guy. And if they are I'm screwed, there's nothing I can do to really change that. Unless, I find some random guys photo's who fits the cliche and pretend to be him to meet women. Like Nicholas Cage's character in Lord Of War says, "Some of the most successful relationships are based on lies and deceit. Since that's where they usually end up anyway, it's a logical place to start." 
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6 - 12 months?! *laughs* Hunny, that is the blink of an eye... long-term is for the rest of your natural born life. Nah, that was a joke. I'm not looking anymore. *smiles warmly* Congrats! |
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Took a peek at your profile. You may want to add more to the Interests part. It'll help with conversation starters & breaking the ice.  Updated my profile a little bit and added the link to my MySpace. |
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6 - 12 months?! *laughs* Hunny, that is the blink of an eye... long-term is for the rest of your natural born life. Nah, that was a joke. I'm not looking anymore. *smiles warmly* Congrats! Well, thanks, but it's not that I'm not looking anymore because I found somebody; I just gave up on the whole idea. |
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Edited by
Cinderella75
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Wed 11/19/08 02:50 PM
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Just rememeber It is NOT about you!
It's about them. So stop looking for things that you are not doing right..sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, and your life is in order. I personally always fall for the guys that treat me like ****..and I cannot blame the decent guy that is trying to get my attention,for it all, while the "Bad guy" is playing me. I mean I cannot even blame the guy that is playing me really..I am falling for his game..lol.(ohh the story of many womens lives).. Its just the way some women (and even men are wired)"The man we cannot have.-We all want." The Decent girl looking for the Bad Boy...and I almost bet that you are attracted to the "Bad Girls". If you really want a true realtionship, open your eyes to the nice girls that have been trying to get your attention, while you were persuing the "Bad Chick" which in all reality you cannot have, and will never want-Trust me. Just open your eyes..I am sure the "right one" is lurking around in your neighborhood.:P |
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