yeah but what if you don't get dirty like that but you do lack the tact to be cool to anyone?

i mean maybe its a difference in the way people are raised. i was raised to respect everyone until they destroy that respect. but i have friends who feel respect is earned and not given. that makes them brash and harsh with others who may not deserve that.... so i wonder is that rough around the edges? or just uncaring to other humans?

i dont think so dear,, i can and am completely capable of cleaning my self up,,, anyway,,,, dont you get enough of that at work?

Yes but I wear gloves!!! I see enough "dirty"

in some cases that is the way it is, in mine,, its not. i will show respect to anyone who deserves it. people that think that everyone should respect them and shows nothing to merit that gets nothing but a hard time from me. and not every rough around the edges person will get dirty,, im country rough so i like getting in the mud and muck and having fun

there's nothing wrong with being rough around the edges. I have never been a girly girl so i wouldn't expect my guy to be a pretty boy. but as long as he knows how to dress up when the time is needed then I'm fine as rain with it.

I like who you are Steve; don't ever change. This man has one of the biggest hearts I've ever known. Always there with a smile, a hug, and a helping hand.

hiya twitch dear,,

see but that's what i don't understand. you only respect those you feel deserve it but how do you determine that? i mean i feel everyone should respect me. as i respect everyone. i feel everyone has a right to their beliefs and respect it. does not mean i won't question it as i'm doing now... but still.. lol you get what i'm saying?

if you meet someone at a bar .. within that split second of hello... how do you know they deserve it or not? i mean ... outside of them giving you the stink eye and walking away... if they say hello back.. when do you decide to respect them as a person?

for the most part, i give people the chance to prove themselves, i reserve my thoughts until i have some proof of who they are. but in most cases its not long before true colors shine through,, and then they find themselves with no friends or respect,,

rockmybobbysocks.....as a southerner i was taught to show a mutual respect for everyone........but now days more and more it is getting harder to even start off showing respect....i like thumper hold my respect until it is deserved.

i was taught to be respectful, but know the diffrence between deserving respect and earning respect.

And boy is there a difference

I try to respect everyone until they prove they don't deserve it. And as Thumper says, it doesn't usually take too long before you figure it out. I still try to respect the fact that they are humans, worthy of at least some basic minimum of courtesy but once my respect is gone, it tends to stay that way.

And, I tend to like my man and my friends a little rough around the edges. People that are too smooth tend to be more than a little phony, their smoothness is generally self-serving.

Isn't it all an act anyway? Most people that are prim and proper, all of the time, are not that way behind closed doors. It is all an illusion of what they want the world to perceive them to be! More props to the person who does not give a rats azz what the world thinks of them. Those are the people that are truly content with who they are and are happy to share themselves with others.

I totally agree. I am just rough, the hell with getting dressed up for something.