I want this girl who lives in my city, a city which only inhabits 58.000 people. I have seen her so many times. But I always seem to fumble a lot when she’s around, and I can’t find words to say to her. I’m a very quiet guy, it’s just the way I am, I’m not shy, none what-so-ever. I’m more of an observer than a speaker. Yesterday she came to my work place and we shared a smile and a little moment of eye contact. I cannot read women, but I hear when they run a hand through their hair, it means something, right? She was standing 1 meter from me and I started fumbling not knowing how the hell I should act. And today I just can’t seem to get her out of my head.

Does anyone know this feeling? or is it just me who need to get some balls and talk to her?!

Talk to her let her know how you feel.

From a woman’s perspective, I would not advise you to just come right out and tell her you like her. That would be a little to forward, especially since you have never spoken.

Ask her out for coffee. This worst thing that can happen, is that she will say no.

Thats a good point, and I have thought about doing that, but I fall over my tongue just thinking about talking to her.. haha. So I'm a bit of a dilemma..

Well, on the occasions where I used to find myself a little tongue tied when attempting to ask for something like that, try some conversation thats simple and innocent. Once you start going your tongue tends to loosen a little allowing more interesting things to pass it.

Only you can grow balls enough to make the move.

Only you can prevent forest fires.

You should try to focus on the bottom line.

The very worst thing that can happen is that this girl will say no. Is that going to alter the course of your life???? What are you so afraid of?

Hey...are you getting my messages?

Sorry....

Yes. I just sent you one....Did you get mine?

Nah....im not getting them. Seems to be an on-going problem.

Thats cool though....at first there I thought you were ignoring me.

Dude, just pretend you are her and think of something clever to say that doesn't make you sound:

A. Stupid
B. Creepy
C. Ordinary
D. Obvious or
E. Dorky


Pretend you are walking up to yourself...what would get your attention?

Make sure when you talk to her the first time it is about something relevant to the situation at hand.

No pick-up lines please. That falls under A,D, and E on the list.

Witty is nice.

Putting a hand in her hair doesn't mean anything. Even if it does, assume it doesn't. You can't get into trouble by not assuming.


Big words used appropriately and a small accent is a plus

Must have confidence in your voice, can't be nervous or soft spoken

Impossible to ignore Mayhem!

I asked you to send me a link for the band, because I couldn’t find them.

if you're too quiet and shy to approach her and actually say something, keep smiling at her and continue to make eye contact with her.

maybe she'll be bold enough to make the first move.

You might as well do that if you have nothing else, but girls seem to not make the first move very often.

Although everyone who has posted a comment is on track, I see one problem and that is self-confidance, if you walk up to her and she senses that your un-sure of yourself, it'll probably lead to rejection, if she's with another friend, the friend may interupt you and shut you down.
I'd say the best advice is to walk up to her like you've known her for awhile, and ask her a question that you know you can carry on a longer conversation with her while on the same subject. and in the back of your mind, remember your the one who is high value, because if things do work out, your the one who'll be paying for the dates..lol
Also, don't forget the human condition, we all want to be accepted, just be clever when you approach.
better yet, watch the pick-up artist 2 tv show on VH1. even I learned a few secrets from watching it.

haha dude. I usually don't have a problem with women, just with this girl, its a little different. But i gotta say that was fun to read.. i especially liked the ABC.. lol

This was very interesting and very true. And i don't think I'd approach her if she's with a friend. Then I'm just asking to be shut right down.. lol

Listen i got the answer for ya,

walk up to her be like excuse me your tag is sticking out let me get that for ya,

and be like o where was this made,

O made i heaven i had no idea,

I'm playing with my hair now,it's just a habit