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Topic: For the Mingle Ladies and/or Men...
Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 11/10/08 04:17 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one?

voxsteven Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 1813	Mon 11/10/08 04:19 PM
That sorta gets into the issue of, if you see your friends spouse cheating, should you tell. I probably wouldn't , just because it's probably better to stay out of it.

ladyliz1417 Joined Wed 12/27/06 Posts: 51463	Mon 11/10/08 04:20 PM
yes, I think you should give a heads up...

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 11/10/08 04:21 PM
That sorta gets into the issue of, if you see your friends spouse cheating, should you tell. I probably wouldn't , just because it's probably better to stay out of it. If they were my "friend" I would definitely tell.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Mon 11/10/08 04:22 PM
Double edged sword there honey....We tend to want to protect those from a predator or psychotic...however it can easily be misinterpreted as petty spite or jealousy by those who don't understand all the details...especially if the jerk/b*tch is feeding them false info. One of those damned if you do...damned if you don't situations.

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 11/10/08 04:25 PM
Double edged sword there honey....We tend to want to protect those from a predator or psychotic...however it can easily be misinterpreted as petty spite or jealousy by those who don't understand all the details...especially if the jerk/b*tch is feeding them false info. One of those damned if you do...damned if you don't situations. This information given would definitely NOT be out of jealousy. But I think it would be great to inform other's of his game.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Mon 11/10/08 04:26 PM
Double edged sword there honey....We tend to want to protect those from a predator or psychotic...however it can easily be misinterpreted as petty spite or jealousy by those who don't understand all the details...especially if the jerk/btch is feeding them false info. One of those damned if you do...damned if you don't situations. Oh so true, what one person may believe was being played the other may not. I would pass on info of Convictions, or any other infor that was proven common knowledge that could be found on the internet for example if he or she was written up in the newspaper for their actions then it isn't my words that is going to condemn him or her but his own actions. I also would find more than one source. I also try to walk a very fine line of spreading gossip. I think I would just caution anyone* to move slowly and carefully getting to know someone anyone whether it is via internet or in person. Other than that I tend to stay out of it. Since people have a habit of killing the messenger.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 11/10/08 04:27 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one? yep cause there out there

feralcatlady Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 35491	Mon 11/10/08 04:28 PM
YES YES AND YES He will get called out eventually anyway...save some hearts...call out players..... also the deal with me....be a player...just make sure all the players know about each other.

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 11/10/08 04:31 PM Edited by Jules0565 on Mon 11/10/08 04:32 PM
YES YES AND YES He will get called out eventually anyway...save some hearts...call out players..... also the deal with me....be a player...just make sure all the players know about each other. save some: time invested, money and hearts.

SolitaryMan52402 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 21147	Mon 11/10/08 04:36 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one? Maybe if it was a friend and you were to tell them to be careful, but then I think most ppl on here are. On the other hand what happens if someone was to make chit up about you?

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Mon 11/10/08 04:36 PM
Yes, I would inform others.........I have in the past.

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 11/10/08 04:37 PM Edited by Jules0565 on Mon 11/10/08 04:38 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one? Maybe if it was a friend and you were to tell them to be careful, but then I think most ppl on here are. On the other hand what happens if someone was to make chit up about you? #1 - telling truth isn't rumor or gossip. For some, they probably wouldn't believe it..the relationship was made to be kept secret..he didn't want anyone knowing that we met or talked on a daily basis.

SolitaryMan52402 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 21147	Mon 11/10/08 04:42 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one? Maybe if it was a friend and you were to tell them to be careful, but then I think most ppl on here are. On the other hand what happens if someone was to make chit up about you? #1 - telling truth isn't rumor or gossip. For some, they probably wouldn't believe it..the relationship was made to be kept secret..he didn't want anyone knowing that we met or talked on a daily basis. That raises a red flag right off, if they don’t want you to tell anyone I would put an end to it right there. If I was talking to a Lady like your self I would want everyone to know.

becca777 Joined Tue 08/05/08 Posts: 2161	Mon 11/10/08 04:45 PM
Double edged sword there honey....We tend to want to protect those from a predator or psychotic...however it can easily be misinterpreted as petty spite or jealousy by those who don't understand all the details...especially if the jerk/b*tch is feeding them false info. One of those damned if you do...damned if you don't situations. This information given would definitely NOT be out of jealousy. But I think it would be great to inform other's of his game. tell that to all of the women that felt like they have been 'played' whether they have or not

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 11/10/08 04:45 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one? Maybe if it was a friend and you were to tell them to be careful, but then I think most ppl on here are. On the other hand what happens if someone was to make chit up about you? #1 - telling truth isn't rumor or gossip. For some, they probably wouldn't believe it..the relationship was made to be kept secret..he didn't want anyone knowing that we met or talked on a daily basis. That raises a red flag right off, if they don’t want you to tell anyone I would put an end to it right there. If I was talking to a Lady like your self I would want everyone to know. Yes that did raise redflags to me..therefore, I questioned him about it often..in which he would always respond with "it's nobody's business".. I had always said that when people meet, they are excited about telling.

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 11/10/08 04:46 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one? Maybe if it was a friend and you were to tell them to be careful, but then I think most ppl on here are. On the other hand what happens if someone was to make chit up about you? #1 - telling truth isn't rumor or gossip. For some, they probably wouldn't believe it..the relationship was made to be kept secret..he didn't want anyone knowing that we met or talked on a daily basis. That raises a red flag right off, if they don’t want you to tell anyone I would put an end to it right there. If I was talking to a Lady like your self I would want everyone to know. Thank you ..that is very sweet.

SolitaryMan52402 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 21147	Mon 11/10/08 04:50 PM
Do you think information should be shared between us if you know of a player and/or have been played by one? Maybe if it was a friend and you were to tell them to be careful, but then I think most ppl on here are. On the other hand what happens if someone was to make chit up about you? #1 - telling truth isn't rumor or gossip. For some, they probably wouldn't believe it..the relationship was made to be kept secret..he didn't want anyone knowing that we met or talked on a daily basis. That raises a red flag right off, if they don’t want you to tell anyone I would put an end to it right there. If I was talking to a Lady like your self I would want everyone to know. Thank you ..that is very sweet. Awww shucks it aint nothen mam

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Mon 11/10/08 05:00 PM
Yes that did raise redflags to me..therefore, I questioned him about it often..in which he would always respond with "it's nobody's business".. I had always said that when people meet, they are excited about telling. Ok I dont' know what your story is so I am not making a judgement but here is something to ponder. I was talking to the guy last summer I really like him he lived across the states from me. As soon as we let it out on the forums that we were talking the chit started. I mean people went so far as to say I was playing him because I was dating other people at the same time. WE weren't exclusive by his words I got nude pictures sent to me that he was supposedly a stripper in his spare time. The harrassment and bombardment of garbage was horrific. So to me if I was going on a first meet and hadn't met yet I wouldn't advertise it. I have never seen people act more like jackels than people in my life. ONE woman that was supposed to be my friend doctored emails even that I supposedly said crap. So again I would be in agreement with him on this one. I also believe that there are as many women players are there are men. I have to many male friends that cry on my shoulder. Now again I am not sure what happened to you and I want to be clear I do have empathy for your pain.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 11/10/08 05:04 PM
Yes that did raise redflags to me..therefore, I questioned him about it often..in which he would always respond with "it's nobody's business".. I had always said that when people meet, they are excited about telling. Ok I dont' know what your story is so I am not making a judgement but here is something to ponder. I was talking to the guy last summer I really like him he lived across the states from me. As soon as we let it out on the forums that we were talking the chit started. I mean people went so far as to say I was playing him because I was dating other people at the same time. WE weren't exclusive by his words I got nude pictures sent to me that he was supposedly a stripper in his spare time. The harrassment and bombardment of garbage was horrific. So to me if I was going on a first meet and hadn't met yet I wouldn't advertise it. I have never seen people act more like jackels than people in my life. ONE woman that was supposed to be my friend doctored emails even that I supposedly said crap. So again I would be in agreement with him on this one. I also believe that there are as many women players are there are men. I have to many male friends that cry on my shoulder. Now again I am not sure what happened to you and I want to be clear I do have empathy for your pain. WOW! Seriously? I think people do that kind of thing out of jealousy. Sorry that happened to you.