itry:
I stop reading on if I am bored

Guys, are you turned off by long profiles?

breathless1:
Interesting you should say..."information not read is useless".
I disagree, Amanda. I tend to use that is a huge filter, if you will, that if someone chooses not to read my profile...then it is a good indicator this is someone I would not be compatible with.

Regarding pics, I don't tend to enjoy the *posed* ones or "hey, look...I'm sooooo drunk" ones too much. Also, I absolutely hate the dreaded "Glamourshot" photos!

Don't state, on any level, what you prefer sexually: HUGE turn-OFF for me!

..... and saw a post of yours stating you "looked at other women's profiles to see what you could steal from their written words..." (or something like that)?? Huge red flag and major NO-NO in my opinion..

Again, I can be forgiving because your profile reads as that of a typical 22 year old girl, and your actions here thus far confirm this. I'm sure you are a lovely gal in your own right...and I wish you much success in your search here.

Guys, are you turned off by long profiles?

hawaiiMuskMan:
No, but I am turned off by women who can't stop talking about themselves.

Then you should avoid me.

s1owhand:
it has nothing to do with profile length. it is all
about who you really are. that is why posting in the
forums is generally a much better way to get to know
people here.

i read your long profile and it was interesting and
it was not boring or in any way irritating to me.

so, as you like it.

I snipped this post here from breathless1 for brevity but it should not be a factor.



I agree


I have them all. Glamor shots. Drunk shots from a friends birthday party, and natural shots. Having many different types shows my personality.



This is the only one from your list of dislikes that I had in my first addition of my profile. I might add it back in. I don't want to hook up with a conservative bedroom guy. I'm a little kinky and I think guys should know that.


That was obviously a joke. If I did steal from others I wouldn't post about it. I like sarcasm and humor. I see you don't really pick up on humor too well.



"your actions here thus far confirm this"

ha ha, There it is. I was wondering if certain people would send in their boyfriends to do their dirty work.

I don't think you have any idea what a typical 22 year old girl is like. ha ha. I


Thanks for your impute. If you had not added that personal insult at the end, which allowed me to see your real motivations and maturity level, I might have given weight to your opinion. As such, your insult made your entire post suspect.

breathless11 (snipped)

I do appreciate and somewhat respect your response, Amanda.

2. I am completely clueless as to your other comment about "sending in their boyfriends for their dirty work"?? I am not attached to anyone at the moment. ........

3. My last input was NOT a personal attack or even an insult, but rather an honest observation from a 40 year old man is more than aware of a 22 year old's mentality and state of being....

"More than aware" ?? Really???? How many times have you been with a 22 year old woman? How many 22 year old women do you talk to everyday and hang out with? How many 22 year old women do you really even know?

I have been a woman all my life and I have been a 22 year old woman since May 1st. How long have YOU been a woman?

How well do you know me? How many 22 year old women of my caliber do you see on dating sites?

You don't know anymore about the typical behavior of a 22 year old woman than I do about the typical behavior of a guy your age. There is no such thing as typical behavior. There is only PERCEIVED typical behavior. We are each our own person.

Should I judge you based on all the mail I get from guys your age? I could then say you're acting like a typical middle aged man. Would that be fair?

hummmmmm?


edited for typo correction.

So, long profile or short one?

Thank you

I agree with the part about getting to know people in the forums. I respond to messages from forum guys quicker than other guys. I get to see how they are, not just with me, but with others. I think a lot of people forget that many potential relationship partners are reading their postings. When people make mean or spiteful remarks they are turning off many people.

I am as I am on my forum post. I'm beautiful, intelligent, impatient, a little controlling, I don't back down, sometimes a little immature, nice, confident, one who takes constructive feedback, an attention seeker, and a few other things that I'm sure you have noticed.

Simply put, I am Amazing.

Now I just need to find an Amazing guy that can handle me.

I personally prefer more information to less. (But my profile is 3390 pages long.)

I should say that 99% of all the women's profiles I see (not just on this site, but everywhere) are not worth the 0.4 seconds it takes to read them. "I don't know what to write here" is not exactly thrill-packed and full of valuable facts and figures.

Ideally, a profile should say something about the person who wrote it, be a reflection of that person's thoughts and dreams and hopes and tell the reader who this person is.

In reality, it's usually slightly less interesting and informative than the UPC code on a bag of potato chips.

Forum posts tell me the most about a person -- they're more "real-time," less static, and more broad-based, if the person posts fairly often in different forums. A profile may sit, unchanged for months, or even years.

Still, some people NEVER post in the forums -- so all you have to work with it the profile. If all it says is "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask," I have no incentive to ask anything in the first place.

As an author, I understand the value of writing well, writing with substance. More importantly, I understand the necessity of saying something, clearly and (hopefully) in a thought-provoking and/or amusing way.

If someone wants their profile to get my attention, there had better be something in it.

Can I hear an *AMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMEN*???

Precisely why I still have YOUR profile bookmarked, Lex...and plundering through page 149 now?

Thank you! Nothing pleases a writer more than having someone notice his work! Well, maybe someone doing my laundry would be good too, but you can't have everything....!