Topic: Question about IM or email courtesy
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Sat 11/08/08 01:34 PM
Do you always tell others to NOT message or IM you when you are not interested in them either as a friend or more? Or do you either ignore or string them on when they try to contact you?

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Sat 11/08/08 01:36 PM
Edited by heathersaysgobucks on Sat 11/08/08 01:39 PM
Honesty is the best policy, laced with some kindness.

And oh hey, Welcome to Mingle2!

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Sat 11/08/08 01:40 PM
No, I just say not interested. I might be a little slow in responding to e-mails. As for IM's most women aren't that pushy.

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Sat 11/08/08 01:40 PM

Do you always tell others to NOT message or IM you when you are not interested in them either as a friend or more? Or do you either ignore or string them on when they try to contact you?


I send a short note.. "thank you for your interest.. however, I do not think we would be compatable. I wish you the best of luck in your continued search." - it is the appropriate thing to do, as we all have feelings and should be treated with dignity and respect.

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Sat 11/08/08 01:52 PM
I honestly state that I am only looking for friends...and welcomeflowerforyou

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Sat 11/08/08 02:10 PM
Edited by quiet_2008 on Sat 11/08/08 02:10 PM

Do you always tell others to NOT message or IM you when you are not interested in them either as a friend or more? Or do you either ignore or string them on when they try to contact you?


I tell EVERYONE not to IM me. and when they do it anyway I ignore em

and the same applies to people who send me friends invites when I don't know em

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Sat 11/08/08 02:38 PM
Thanks for the welcome Kim and Heather. I am just trying to understand how the community functions.

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Sat 11/08/08 02:43 PM


Do you always tell others to NOT message or IM you when you are not interested in them either as a friend or more? Or do you either ignore or string them on when they try to contact you?


I tell EVERYONE not to IM me. and when they do it anyway I ignore em

and the same applies to people who send me friends invites when I don't know em




i think exactly the same.

i have written in my profile that i'm not interested in random IM's with people that i don't know.

if someone hasn't bothered to read my profile and sends them anyway, then i'm not really the rude one who ignores them, am i? it's them who are being rude.

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Sat 11/08/08 02:57 PM



Do you always tell others to NOT message or IM you when you are not interested in them either as a friend or more? Or do you either ignore or string them on when they try to contact you?


I tell EVERYONE not to IM me. and when they do it anyway I ignore em

and the same applies to people who send me friends invites when I don't know em




i think exactly the same.

i have written in my profile that i'm not interested in random IM's with people that i don't know.

if someone hasn't bothered to read my profile and sends them anyway, then i'm not really the rude one who ignores them, am i? it's them who are being rude.
I understand not responding to someone when they don't respect your wishes or they send friend invites when you have not had any contact with them previously. I am just feeling around in the dark of the internet looking for the light in the Mingle tunnel.

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Sat 11/08/08 03:05 PM




Do you always tell others to NOT message or IM you when you are not interested in them either as a friend or more? Or do you either ignore or string them on when they try to contact you?


I tell EVERYONE not to IM me. and when they do it anyway I ignore em

and the same applies to people who send me friends invites when I don't know em




i think exactly the same.

i have written in my profile that i'm not interested in random IM's with people that i don't know.

if someone hasn't bothered to read my profile and sends them anyway, then i'm not really the rude one who ignores them, am i? it's them who are being rude.
I understand not responding to someone when they don't respect your wishes or they send friend invites when you have not had any contact with them previously. I am just feeling around in the dark of the internet looking for the light in the Mingle tunnel.


you'll find light in the forums, and humor, and sarcasm, and friends, and maybe just maybe lovers

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Sat 11/08/08 04:28 PM
From your mouth to gods ears. Appreciate the input folks.