One who does not whine or need or demand.

I think I saw some of these guys on a slab down at the morgue the other day... totally didn't need a thing, had no emotion... perfect, huh?

Some of the least needy fellers I've ever met....

I'm an exotic. I'm an out of the normal mainstream character. I'm an old timer on here. Many people do not believe I'm real. Until a few people met me and/or corresponded with me. Then and only then did they realize that "This nutcase is as real as the hype". When I say I live like a modern day forrest gump- I'm not kidding.

I think it's just easier for a lot of people to dismiss those who don't "fit the mold" nicely. That's been my experience anyway.

A lot of people seem to be intimidated by the idea of a person who truly knows what he/she WANTS -- maybe even moreso by the idea of a person who truly knows what he/she DOESN'T want --

Because there's less wiggle room there, less "I can change him/her for the better" -- which is really just another way of saying "I can turn them into someone else."

But some of us are just going to refuse to become that new, more acceptable, more suitable person. Some of us are OK with who we already are. Not to say we can't learn and grow and experience and evolve, but....there's an element of "it is what it is."

Being outside-the-box is hard if you're looking for someone to share your life with. But I'll be damned if I ever let anybody pull me back INTO that box again.

Because there's less wiggle room there, less "I can change him/her for the better" -- which is really just another way of saying "I can turn them into someone else."

But some of us are just going to refuse to become that new, more acceptable, more suitable person. Some of us are OK with who we already are. Not to say we can't learn and grow and experience and evolve, but....there's an element of "it is what it is."

Being outside-the-box is hard if you're looking for someone to share your life with. But I'll be damned if I ever let anybody pull me back INTO that box again.

The declarations and demands and manifestos that people put up in their profiles amuses me also. As do some of the statements people make in threads concerning their expectations on qualities that they seek in others. Most of what they say is because of their past experiences and some of it is a right out defense mechanism. Don't believe me? Ok. Don't you just love people who build the worlds biggest wall to keep everyone out and then wonder why noone comes to visit them? REPEATED CASE IN POINT: The people who opt to use the filters on their profile but go overboard. The computer server filters work. They are not human. They don't falter with emotions and feelings or judgements. They do their job- to block people out. So I find it amusing when someone uses the filter blockers. They set the parameters so tight that they are untouchable/ uncontactable. They set the filters for non smokers/ not married/ sex preference male\ female/ age limitations- within a tight span- 30 to 32 years old/ location within 25 miles. Then they start a thread called "Why won't anyone talk to me?" BECAUSE THEY CAN'T YOU BIG DUMMY! Your filters won't let ANYONE contact you! DUH! You've set your filters so tight the computer keeps everyone out. You've built the perfect fortress. The epitamy of shooting yourself in the foot. Hope you're happy alone. Deep down its what you really want.

Show yourselves.

I think it's just easier for a lot of people to dismiss those who don't "fit the mold" nicely. That's been my experience anyway.

A lot of people seem to be intimidated by the idea of a person who truly knows what he/she WANTS -- maybe even moreso by the idea of a person who truly knows what he/she DOESN'T want --

Because there's less wiggle room there, less "I can change him/her for the better" -- which is really just another way of saying "I can turn them into someone else."

But some of us are just going to refuse to become that new, more acceptable, more suitable person. Some of us are OK with who we already are. Not to say we can't learn and grow and experience and evolve, but....there's an element of "it is what it is."

Being outside-the-box is hard if you're looking for someone to share your life with. But I'll be damned if I ever let anybody pull me back INTO that box again.

and it all comes down to who sets the standards of "real" or "fake"

My favorite profiles? Fake boobs. Fake haircolor. Fake eye color. Fake nails. But looking for a "real man". NEXT!

My favorite profiles? Fake boobs. Fake haircolor. Fake eye color. Fake nails. But looking for a "real man". NEXT!

I tried the opening doors, helping her on with her coat, moving her chair back for her in restaurants, buying flowers unexpectedly for her, paying her compliments thing etc. on my ex wife.
She still cheated on me with my now ex best friend when I was in hospital recovering from a stroke.
I sometimes wonder if it's worth the effort