Hi,


Like anything, this does NOT ALWAYS work, but . . .it's certainly worth a shot if the opportunity pops up and if you've any confidence at all. First a bit of explanation: I've found that tepid dates usually don't elicit hot romance either in the short or the long term. Lukewarm interactions for me, often result in my getting involved with a clingy or overly needy personality, who because of her neediness is afraid to "make waves" or show her true colors. So deeply is she invested in her need to make this encounter turn into something "meaningful" starting right here and now on date one that if that's the way you go, you'll probably wind up with a stalker on your hands. So . . .

If you've enough courage or conviction that when something even semi-controversial arises in the conversation to just speak your mind (like you were talking to a best friend where you know they're not walking away from you regardless of what you say)and then what happens is you'll have more enjoyable talks and about a third of the time you'll actually get into a heated argument over what's discussed: THOSE RELATIONSHIPS TEND TO ENDURE, AND MOST INTERESTINGLY THE ROMANTIC FEELINGS ARE FAR DEEPER. So instead of biting your tongue trying to make a favorable impression, I suggest just saying, "to hell with it," and not being afraid to say whatever outrageous thought is on your mind at the time. It's certainly a lot more fun.

Bob

what ever works for ya

I've met those kinds of guys and they usually leave a bad impression because they come off as being jerks... so a bit of advice for people who take this advice: Speaking your mind doesn't mean you can be completely insensitive to the other person's viewpoints... at least not if you're hoping for a second date.

thanks for sharing

I think I almost tend to agree. My husband and i never fought and rarely if ever had an arguement.
We are no longer together and the woman he is with as far as I am concerned is a real *****!
However she gives him a run for his money and he seems to thrive off of it.

Wish I had known that before. I am sure I can find a ***** somewhere in me and let her come out.

interesting observations

This almost never works out for me...