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Topic: advice..
shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Thu 10/30/08 08:00 PM
No, it doesn't look good. He could answer her if he wanted to. He's being selfish and a coward. I don't care what you're going thru... you don't get the right to make your s/o worry themselves half to death wondering what the hell is going on. You don't get to ignore them without telling them why first. He's being a coward. I've been thru that game one to many times. He doesn't have the right to make her worry.......you are so right on with that statement.

brat88 Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 335	Thu 10/30/08 08:00 PM
That's not a good sign hon, I'm sorry to say. I really feel for you. why is that no a good sign??

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 10/30/08 08:01 PM
It's been my experience when people come out of a long term relationship where they got totally screwed over... the next few people they date end up getting the raw end of the deal.

brat88 Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 335	Thu 10/30/08 08:02 PM
the odd thing is he told me even before we met in person that he liked and that he was obilgated to me...

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 10/30/08 08:03 PM
the odd thing is he told me even before we met in person that he liked and that he was obilgated to me... obligated? how??

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Thu 10/30/08 08:03 PM
takes a minute to pick the phone up and say hi...so...hes cheating

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Thu 10/30/08 08:04 PM
Must be like getting back at the ex by doing it to other's? Having their turn. Getting empowerment from the ability to have some sort of "controll" over another.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 10/30/08 08:04 PM
takes a minute to pick the phone up and say hi...so...hes cheating it doesn't mean he's cheating... usually those that are cheating try keeping their lies going. Not just ignoring all together for a week.

brat88 Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 335	Thu 10/30/08 08:04 PM
i dont know. then when we started dateing he said he was still obligated to me . then we were talking about being attached to one another and he said " i guess im attached to bc i have always felt obligated to u"....

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 10/30/08 08:06 PM
i dont know. then when we started dateing he said he was still obligated to me . then we were talking about being attached to one another and he said " i guess im attached to bc i have always felt obligated to u".... That's an odd thing for him to say. He shouldn't feel "obligated" to date you...

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Thu 10/30/08 08:06 PM
takes a minute to pick the phone up and say hi...so...hes cheating it doesn't mean he's cheating... usually those that are cheating try keeping their lies going. Not just ignoring all together for a week. So, what do you think it is?

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Thu 10/30/08 08:06 PM
takes a minute to pick the phone up and say hi...so...hes cheating it doesn't mean he's cheating... usually those that are cheating try keeping their lies going. Not just ignoring all together for a week. sorry...he found something better...thats what it seems like

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 10/30/08 08:07 PM
Honestly? You lot are a negative bunch aren't you? Anyway, I still say give it some time and then let it be...could be cheating, could be lost in the woods, could of left his phone somewhere, could have been abducted by aliens...could...could...could...but no definate.

brat88 Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 335	Thu 10/30/08 08:08 PM
i dont know what it is.. last time he was like this (but we still talked alil) it was bc of his ex. they have a daughter togather. she told him he would never see his lil girl again.

Dan99 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 14941	Thu 10/30/08 08:08 PM
I think you should dump him and then ride the Etrain. You will over him in seconds.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 10/30/08 08:08 PM
takes a minute to pick the phone up and say hi...so...hes cheating it doesn't mean he's cheating... usually those that are cheating try keeping their lies going. Not just ignoring all together for a week. So, what do you think it is? IMO... and of course, it's assuming which I don't like doing, especially when I don't know the whole story... but it sounds to me like he's trying to break free from being "obligated". he probably has a lot of unresolved issues from his last relationship and it's hard for him to keep going in his new relationship. So he's shutting her out altogether. It's easier for him to do that than to actually tell her and listen to her being upset. He doesn't want to deal with it. Coward.

brat88 Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 335	Thu 10/30/08 08:09 PM
i dont find him to be the cheating type. she put him thru hell with that . i just dont see him doing that to someone esle. but i could be wrong

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 10/30/08 08:10 PM
Have you been dating him... in person??? Or just online?

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 10/30/08 08:10 PM
i dont find him to be the cheating type. she put him thru hell with that . i just dont see him doing that to someone esle. but i could be wrong I don't think he's cheating, I think he's more "lost" and doesn't want to deal with the situation.

Jbomb Joined Mon 12/24/07 Posts: 916	Thu 10/30/08 08:10 PM
i know he is alive. maybe something did happen but i do know he has been online.. so i called him to today and he didnt answer so i left a voicemail.. telling him if he didnt want to talk anymore to just let me know.. I think he did let you know. He just took the coward's way out.