There is a guy that im desperately in love with..that asked me to marrying him. but the catch is that he is thousands of miles away in Iraq and won't be back until Christmas of 2010.

I told him that I would think about it and let him know when he gets home, then he calls me up and tells me that there is no guarantee that he will be able to stay home after he returns.

I just don't know what to do. because if i say yes then there is that possibility that i'll be alone again and then if I say no I will miss out on everything that i've ever wanted..

What should I do??

Any Advice would be helpful at this point.

Your 18 whats your hurry ? Don't go through life makeing rash in a hurry decisions , especially about the rest of your life . Slow down and think things through !You can build your relationship when he gets back until then you have nothing but letters and thats nothing to base a marriage on .

I would say.. If you love him... and you think that this guy is the "one"... the one that you could see yourself growing old with, the one that you could see yourself having children with, the one that you think about when no one else is around and the one that you love more deeply and passionately then any other person in the world... then say yes and wait for him. If your not sure you love this man though and are only looking to get married then your not ready to be married anyway and you don't need to say yes to anyone.

I have to agree here... I am a total romantic and all but still there are practical considerations as well
as someone who almost got married at the age of 18 I can say with all honesty that I am glad things didn't work out... what I had thought I wanted then and who I was at that time have changed so very much
I would suggest getting to know both yourself and him better before jumping into things - its easier to build a lasting relationship with someone when you have a really good sense of self

Why is he not going to be back home after his tour? Is he 18 too and has more time on his contract? Is he planning on making the military his career?

If you haven't asked very specific questions, you need to ask very specific questions!

If its the case that he is going to do his 4 or 5 years and got of the military. Then my suggestion would be to plan a marriage after that but support him now.

If he wasn't to make the military a career, you have to make the decision if you want a marriage that will be long distance for a very long time. And you will need a lot of family support.

Most military marriages don't survive, especially if they get married under than 25.

You have your whole life a head of you! Think about the whole situation. If he loves you, he will still love you when he is done with his tours.

Do it.















































or not...

I think it is very important to know the difference between falling in love with love and falling in love with a person.

Many of us in our youth, or at least for me, lol, fell in love with an idea, and that idea was the idea of love. And yes, it is true that a person helped turn on that place in my heart. But as it worked out (surely I am not alone in this), it was not the person I fell in love with in my youth, but love itself.

The love is still there, but the person is gone God Bless her.

It is so difficult to be certain.

Just sharing a thought on such a serious commitment.

Whatever you decide, the very best of fortune is desired towards you both.

How 'bout taking the time, while he's away, to learn english grammer

Plan your life like you will live forever, and live your life like you will die the next day

Eat all of your wheaties

being married to a soldier is very hard and doesn't ever get easy, you will be alone a lot and not everyone can deal with it.

Do you want to spend the rest of your life counting the days until he comes home?

Holy crap, This thread is over a year old!........WTF

in my opinion 18 is WAY to young to be getting married or worrying about these things... Why can't you just date or wait until he gets back and date a bit... Take things one day at a time... Real love will be there after the "tours" and when you're old enough to make a decision that you won't later say "I was young and stupid"....

One thing you may want to consider is the fact that he is in Iraq.

That is a very stressful thing and it may be causing him to not think with as clear a head as he normally would about his feelings for you.

Topic posted 10/26/08 she has deactivated along time ago

I didn't notice.. Ok what jerk found this historic thread? Off with your head!!!

psst...one thing you guys might want to check is the date of the OP

I get amused when old threads are pulled up and people start posting....I know I need help

I think she has 3 kids & is divorced now