Blondie, look for friends first, talk to/with us & get yourself known, you show us both cleaned up & blue jeans & it all LOOKS GOOD.
Watch out for that "old sage" guy, he is a big tease, just ask Betty.

Mary, know the feeling, it is 12 yrs TODAY, I last held Gwen. 12:02 AM, I laid her down & knew she was gone. Had a weird dream last nite, was looking for her, but kept just missing her.

You don't have to look for her Ron because she IS right there with you, in your heart!!!! (((((((HUGS)))))))) Mary

(((MAry)))

No, look at my pics, she is right there over my heart.

Don

Forgot about that beautiful Tat.
One of my son's have their Dad's picture on their chest, and another has a memorial Tat. Makes them feel closer.
Have a safe trip! Gotta run.

Simple the dream means you miss her. I wasn't there when he past :( yesterday was my sister passing they had her on machines to keep her organs going for donations the last I seen her.

YOU THINK????????????????????????

Think the tat proves that.

I know how the woman feels when she says no one wants her because I have the same feeling. Is it that I am just not ready because my husband treated me like I was the most beautiful woman in the world. I miss him so bad but want to get on with life also. do men look at widows differntly (sorry can't spell) than they do divorced woman? Is it because I am 52 and have a 7 year old at home? We had only been married two and a half years when the accident happened and May 18th would have been our four year anniversary so we were still in the honeymoon stage. I know how hard it is for me, I cant imagine being with someone many years and losing them. Bless us all they say better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I try to remind myself of this every day. Thanks for letting me have a place to write these feelings.

Yeah don't settle you want the next guy to treat you like your the most beautiful girl in the world too :) Hugs Girlie

OK peeps, I found my way to this forum. Read everybody's message and now I'm crying

I was married almost 28 years, Jerry has been in Heaven almost 2 years (July 20). I make it through some days just fine. Then there are the days and nights when I just want to cry my eyes out. I am SSSSSSSSSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO lonely. I need someone in my life. Some people can live by theirselves just fine, but I really NEED someone in my life. Maybe I just need a good old bear hug with a little umph behind it. It would be nice to be held in someones arms again, someone who really cares about me. I'm sorry

OK, I'm somewhat collected now, I forgot the reason that I looked this site up in the first place.

I am having difficulty going through and getting rid of Jerry's things, any suggestion that will make the process easier?

Treasa
I am having the same problem here, I just can't do it. I like you am so lonely and cry almost every day. Sometimes it is the first thing I do when I wake up and the last thing I do before going to sleep. Are you like me and feel like if you get rid of his things that is more of him slipping away? I feel like I have to hold on to all the little pieces of him I can. Good Luck to you hun and if anyone has any suggestions I could sure them also.
Kandy

Boy, do I know that feeling....lost my husband in Mar 07 and we were married 26 yrs in that Feb..

I had to get rid of Richards things early as I was going to move from a 3 bdrm house to an apartment and we had way to much stuff...Gave a lot to his children and then donated a lot of things...

I moved too. I had to give away almost all of Harriets things.
Actually I kept the things I wanted and a neighbor helped me box
the rest in prep for transport. Not an easy task but a little
help can be wonderful.

good morning Rob...

Yes I feel the same way. My son is especially having problems, it makes him mad if I say I'm going to sell a vehicle or a piece of farm equipment. He never comes around so I don't think it should bother him as much. I have kept most of Jerry's shirts, I am going to make memory quilts out of them for me and both of my kids. I was going to make one the Jerry's dad but he has treated me like something he has wiped off the bottom of his shoe lately and I just can't go there I didn't kill my husband Lou Gehrigs Disease did. I took care of him until he took his last breath. I didn't put him away in some home to take care of him, I did it almost all by myself. Up every 1 1/2 hours during the night to check on him and give him his meds. It was a very tasking time in my life, but if I had to do it over again, I would. He was the love of my life and I know that. I am however ready to move on. I don't think GOD expects me to live the rest of my life alone. He will send me someone else to love, I just have to wait for him to come. Gotta take care of the grandson. I hope you can find an easier way of doing things. My son-in-law's last day working on his masters degree is today. I will have a few days to try to make my way over there. If the sun would shine I would feel better. It has rained almost every day for 3 weeks now. I love the rain, but I think the sun makes my mind work better. LOL Later, Teresa

married 4 years, (then cancer took her)now, widowed 27 years. Guess, i have more down days, than good days with-out her. Many do not understand, unless they have been widowed.

I was married less then three years, been a widower for 20 years and I am very lonely as I have no family near me

Old Sage a big tease Whatever do you mean?

I have been married for 30 years and will be a widow for 13 in July. The people on here are fantastic and for all the newbies and the oldies we are always here for each other, even that old Fart Sage

Treasa, I don't know what your going through and you know better then any of us but maybe Jerry’s Dad is grieving in his own way, it's just a thought is all. Maybe if you made him a quilt it would help him, again just a thought. When we lost my brother to cancer my Dad lost his interest in wood working, my brother loved working in Dads shop when he was in town. I hope you find your answers.