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is why people post questions or opinions and then when they don't like the responses they get mad?  Because some of the responders can't attack the question or opinion without attacking the person. Then the person gets defensive and starts attacking back. Anytime I start to feel like I'm about to attack the person who is replying to something I said, because I felt the person took an intellectual discussion and turned it into a personal attack, I leave the thread and don't go back. I don't need to be pulled down to that level of mudslinging and don't want to play that game. And I recognize the pattern and tendency in myself to start defending my point when I'm really defending myself. |
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but then in the political threads, it seems there are a few people who spend all there time surfing the crazy right/left wing hate sates and think they have to wallpaper mingle with all the hate articles. I like to talk about stuff and it's impossible with them Yep, I realized within 2 hours of joining this site to steer clear of the political threads. Saw more couch potatoe c/p posts than I care to mention or engage in. 
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I dunno...I personally post things that will provoke thought and stir up chaos. I like seeing people with their minds in a whirl thinking up a storm. Not that I want to upset people, but I loooove a good debate, ya know? You could be right about this. I don't like to debate at all. I like to hear everyone's view points and then just think about it all, coming to my own conclusions. There's nothing wrong with debating....mabye it's just me. Why don't you like to debate? Do you view it as confrontational? Are you perhaps the one who gets all flustered and pis*sy because folks may oppose your viewpoints? I'm not being confrontational here at all, and not even solicitating a debate.  Just asking again...why does this seem to bother you so much? So much so to post a topic about it? Actually these are two different topics. My initial post was about people who get mad if they don't like your response. Then the topic of debate came up and I was thinking that I don't care to debate. I do not get flustered or pissy with folks who oppose my view point. I am always interested in hearing others views. It's how I learn. |
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they are fishing for answers that reinforce what they already have decided I think this is the crux of the matter. They are not actually questions posed in order to elicit differing view points. I see this the most in the religion threads but more and more in the relationship advice threads. I dunno...I personally post things that will provoke thought and stir up chaos. I like seeing people with their minds in a whirl thinking up a storm. Not that I want to upset people, but I loooove a good debate, ya know? I've done this too. Where an idea or concept works it's way to mind and I post it to see where the discussion goes. I usually just read these and don't comment on them. It can be interesting to see where people take these thoughts. |
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anytime I feel the need to attack someone (and there are several people in here begging to be attacked) I just make fun of them, carefully within the confines of the Terms of Use. It's fun to punch their buttons and see these idjits get all spun up over nothing
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Think more people need to be careful what they ask for. If you don't want to hear opinions don't ask for them. Kind of like if you can't stand the heat stay out of the kitchen.
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is why people post questions or opinions and then when they don't like the responses they get mad? Because some of the responders can't attack the question or opinion without attacking the person. Then the person gets defensive and starts attacking back. Anytime I start to feel like I'm about to attack the person who is replying to something I said, because I felt the person took an intellectual discussion and turned it into a personal attack, I leave the thread and don't go back. I don't need to be pulled down to that level of mudslinging and don't want to play that game. And I recognize the pattern and tendency in myself to start defending my point when I'm really defending myself. Perfectly stated! I understand your response, Ruth. However, I just noticed you appeared frustrated with your initial post with the "beating your head against the wall" icon. No harm, no foul.
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is why people post questions or opinions and then when they don't like the responses they get mad? Because some of the responders can't attack the question or opinion without attacking the person. Then the person gets defensive and starts attacking back. Anytime I start to feel like I'm about to attack the person who is replying to something I said, because I felt the person took an intellectual discussion and turned it into a personal attack, I leave the thread and don't go back. I don't need to be pulled down to that level of mudslinging and don't want to play that game. And I recognize the pattern and tendency in myself to start defending my point when I'm really defending myself. Perfectly stated! I understand your response, Ruth. However, I just noticed you appeared frustrated with your initial post with the "beating your head against the wall" icon. No harm, no foul. Yes, I get frustrated when I state my opinion to a question asking for my opinion and then am told in not so many words that I am an idiot for thinking that. You were right in your first response, I shouldn't let it bother me. |
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I think if you attack the person then you usually loose the debate because the topic has been abandoned. Unfortuneately there are people who have been on the victim end of certain ways of thinking and feel a need to confront it every where they see it rather than just avoid it.
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is why people post questions or opinions and then when they don't like the responses they get mad? Because some of the responders can't attack the question or opinion without attacking the person. Then the person gets defensive and starts attacking back. Anytime I start to feel like I'm about to attack the person who is replying to something I said, because I felt the person took an intellectual discussion and turned it into a personal attack, I leave the thread and don't go back. I don't need to be pulled down to that level of mudslinging and don't want to play that game. And I recognize the pattern and tendency in myself to start defending my point when I'm really defending myself. Perfectly stated! I understand your response, Ruth. However, I just noticed you appeared frustrated with your initial post with the "beating your head against the wall" icon. No harm, no foul. Yes, I get frustrated when I state my opinion to a question asking for my opinion and then am told in not so many words that I am an idiot for thinking that. You were right in your first response, I shouldn't let it bother me. You're right, Ruth - water on a frog's back, so to speak. Next time you feel your blood boiling over something like this, just think to yourself "how much does this internet person really have bearing on my life beyond a computer screen?"
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Cause I'm a little s*it.
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Cause I'm a little s*it. little?
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Cause I'm a little s*it. little? It sounds better than the alternative.
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Goof 
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why ask why ?
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