i was in a relationship a number of yrs ago for a very short time. i didnt know anything about him that much
and he said he had to go to court, he didnt say why, so i went with him, as to find out he had a restraining order on him by a ex gf of his. and in the hearing the judge mention something about asult in battery. i ask him later and he said oh my po just mad at me.. right after his court i belive it was the following moring, he had accused me on cheating which i didnt, and if had how would i sense he wouldnt leave me alone.. he hit me and threaten to give me a black eye which he didnt. i finally mention i had a headache which i did, and i went over to the neighbors to get asprin, and her daughter called the police.. he had enough nerve to call collect that nite and i had to call the police to put a block on the phone so he couldnt call. during the time he was in jail, i contacted his ex and got alot of info.. to find out he cheated on his ex more than once, the first girl he hit her but she didnt press charges, the 2nd girl the hospitol pressed charges for he hit her with a tire iron.
i have no clue where hes now and i dont care..
if i had been stronger enough i probably would had used a bat against him..
i met his mom and boy she had a worse temper than he did.. i dont know how his dad put up with it.. i was told by his ex that his dad was a sweetheart. im wondering why his dad stayed in the marriage

i somehow doubt any man who is on a dating website would admit to ever having hit a woman tho... but my heart goes out to ya for what you had to go through. i know whats its like all too well

poor lady :( i'm glad you got outta that relationship.


i get very aggressive when i see a man strike a woman (especially when i'm with my "crew"). that's just plain wrong.

Physical violence of ANY kind is abhorrent, PERIOD. Speaking as a person who had a violent girlfriend at one point (got the scars to prove it), it's just wrong.

I don't even like thinking about the subject...

I can't stand a man who hits a women and if I ever witness it I will most likely beat him to an inch of his life

Boy I miss the old econoline van.

I will be completely honest and say that I had an ex that got off on pushing my buttons, and I remember two occasions where the thought had crossed my mind even though I knew in my heart it was wrong.
But I never, ever, ever, acted on those feelings no matter how justified she made it seem. And here is why:

I grew up in a house in which my father was occasionally violent with my Mother and with myself. He almost never laid a hand on my younger brothers because one of us was always there to get in the way.

After seeing the emotional demons that drove him over that edge time and time again, I can safely say that I would absolutely never raise a hand in anger or violence to a member of the opposite sex.

I still vividly remember the very last time he ever put his hands on my Mother. I was 15 and I finally stood up to him and ended up putting him through a second story window. He never touched another member of my family again.

I don't speak to him anymore, and to this day, I take a certain pleasure in taking down bullies and a$$holes that think its ok to use violence on someone they perceive as weaker than themselves.

Violence against women is learned. Sometimes it is learned from a woman being abused and sometimes it is deep hatred toward a woman who has bullied her family or friends or lovers and gotten away with it for years. It is equally bad for women to power over men as it is for men to power over women just because one is smarter, stronger, or has more resources.

the what????????

it's a old ford van ...

...we had an old ford econoline van. Painted flat black. Blacked out windows. No license plates. Used it to run over guys who beat up women. Getting hit by a 4000 pound van usually knocked sense into them after they got out of intensive care.

and you actually got away with that..

I grew up around alot of violence. I have absolutely no respect for those that use physical force against any female no matter what. I have not, nor, will EVER hit a female. I ahve other means of taking out my anger then hitting one. On more then one time I have beat the living piss out of guys in public for hitting a female. It's not right in any way no matter how bad she piss's you off. It's something I will never tolerate.

It does work both ways, ive never laid hands on a woman in a violent manner ever but i was in a relationship with a woman for a few years that when she didnt get her way SHE WAS VERY VIOLENT and had a habit of pulling knives and would hit me(her favorite was the remote control)

Violence in any fashion is abhored and not needed.

...no I'm joking. Never admit a crime until you have a noose around your neck and they drop the boards. I know nothing! Let's just say I just miss that old econoline van.

I hurt my GTO real bad!

i never grew up in a family of violence
just some members on my mom side were alcoholics but they wernt around us much. the one uncle that was a alcoholic has been sober for over 19yrs now so hes doing good.
my daughter way before she married her kids dad. he accused her on cheating with his cousin just because she was talking to him.. he beat her up and gave her a black eye.. i have no clue why she even went back to him.. my daughter knew better as she went through a victims abuse class for school and she knew all the signs. but she wasent looking.. she not with him now. she has filed for divorce just waiting for that to go through.

Do you really think anyone would admit to that on a dating site? The point is to attract women, not scare them.

But on the question, no. Never, easy as that. I posted a topic yesterday about people taking action and those that simply do not, in a matter like this I've stepped to the guy on more than one occasion...

No. I don't even remember raising my voice at someone I'm with.

Won't hit, won't take it, either.