In my work I get a peek inside the lives of people struggling with loved ones with a psychiatric condition. The problems seem to arise when the afflicted partner refuses to stay on medication and treatment and their behavior snowballs out of control causing havoc and emotional turmoil, repeatedly, i.e., suicide threats and attempts, aggressive, violent behavior, etc., requiring repeated admissions for stabilization and reinstatement of medication and treatment.

Is there a point when dealing with this kind of situation where you would say, enough is enough? Should folks be expected to stand loyal when one refuses to stay on meds and continue in treatment?

2 rules


go to work

take your meds


if you can't do it...you are out of here...

I actually had to end a relationship because he stopped going to therapy and meetings...could not take my stress and his

Im fine as long as the lavender prairie dogs leave me alone.

Yeah, I think I might give them a couple of chances, but think they have to do their part to keep themselves and those who interact with them safe.

That's a personal choice that each person would have to make on their own...depending on the situation, the person they are dealing with, their own state of mind...and the safety of persons involved directly or indirectly. For instance: If this situation threatened the safety of my children I might not tolerate the situation, whereas....I might make a much different decision if I had no children...or maybe I wouldn't......who knows....

personally..I wouldnt put up with that psht. BUT i see it every day and am halfway decent in diagnosing potentiol mental disorders, lol. problem is I wanna diagnose everyone. with something.

BUT then if people live and can function well in society..this says a lot. its the ones that are nuts and i gotta strap down to da bed that worry me.

If the person does not care enough to care about oneself, how can you?

I believe that is to much and you can not grow yourself.

I personally have had the opposite reaction. I was put on medication because I lost a child. Devastating. No chemical imbalances were found. Plain just for grievance. They kept me drugged up for 4 years and told me I would never get off of them. My whole life. For grieving. So for 4 years I was switched from medication to medication. I had mood swings like you wouldn't believe. I was tired and never wanted to leave my bed. There was nothing stable about me. I started going to school to get my degree in psychology. One day I had a lightbulb moment. I realized, the only way I will ever get through this is if I actually feel the pain. I could not feel that pain because I was all drugged up. So I stopped taking my medication and it was amazing. My moods were now stable. I felt better than ever. I felt my pain, I worked through it and I am so much better off for it. It is my feeling that unless you have an actual chemical imbalance, you should not be on medication. The only way to get through lifes problems is to deal with them. Medicine has a lot of risk factors. One even put me in the emergency room. So sometimes you may find it is the medication that is making you more unstable as in my case. Have you ever noticed some warnings on the medicine? It says something to the effect of you may get suicidal feelings if taking this drug contact your Dr. immediately. Those medicines can be quite scary.

i'm dealing" with this with someone, i love but i gave the person chances but i'm about to say enough is enough.

Well, I do know their are some folks who have not been able to find the right med or the right combination of meds to sufficiently control their disorder so that they can function outside of a structured environment. I think a good many folks, though not curable, are treatable but often it is their own lack of self responsibility that gets them into trouble

IM crazy





why i can't get any dates

I don't know....ask the voices in your head.

yup some of those side effects on psych meds are unbelivable. thats an awesome story!!
i firmly believe that doctors overprescribe many meds...taking a pill should be substitute to actually dealing with why you are taking the pill.

First let me say I am so sorry for your loss.

I agree with you here. I used to have panic attacks, pretty severe, to the point I couldn't walk down the driveway to get the mail. I worked them through, refused medication. I very rarely have them any more, but when I do I know how to get through them. I think medication masks symptoms ya sometimes have to just work through.

However, in the case of brain chemical imbalance, meds are necessary, sometimes it is matter of finding right one or right combination.

My last girlfriend had a case of full blown histrionic personality disorder. She wouldn't do anything about it because she said she was fine and all of the problems that we were having was all my fault. We are no longer together.

Ain't much ya can do if one refuses to admit they have a problem. There's a point where people have to stop enabling.

Sad but true

Thanks guys. When I see posts like this I sometimes have to share my story because meds aren't always the answer. Maybe at first in these cases to help through the initial shock of the situation, but only for a very short time. Had I known it was the medication causing my problem, I would have gone off long ago. I often hear people who say they are depressed and get advised to go to Dr.s and get pills. I tell them go to the Dr. but if you do not have a chemical imbalance dont get caught up in the drugs. Take vitamins, get exercise, go to therapy where you can talk and work out your problems and face them, deal with them, and you will get through it. It often just takes time.