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Topic: Delivered!
A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Wed 10/22/08 08:09 PM
I recieved my divorce papers tonight. The end is near and find myself sullen, sad. Is this normal, even if it is what I have wanted for some time?

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Wed 10/22/08 08:10 PM
remember if you dont want to go threw that again dont get married

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Wed 10/22/08 08:10 PM
it's normal just get drunk and you'll feel better

Godschosengirl Joined Fri 09/07/07 Posts: 2491	Wed 10/22/08 08:10 PM
Yeah. There is a normal grieving process comparable to a death. Give yourself time to heal.

nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Wed 10/22/08 08:11 PM
yes- anytime there is a loss, even when you want it i was married for 14 years and wanted the divorce

eunice49508 Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 172	Wed 10/22/08 08:11 PM
It's normal....there is that feeling that one has failed.......

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Wed 10/22/08 08:14 PM
as many of you know, i tried for YEARS to make it work. Now I am feeling i wasted my time and energy and should have just moved on long ago.

purposebuilt Joined Mon 06/16/08 Posts: 770	Wed 10/22/08 08:14 PM
I asked for the divorce then when I saw the papers I had to remind myself it was a positive thing and my first step to a better life.

dia_licious Joined Wed 01/16/08 Posts: 613	Wed 10/22/08 08:15 PM
I recieved my divorce papers tonight. The end is near and find myself sullen, sad. Is this normal, even if it is what I have wanted for some time? i think its mostly just the realization that its really over...

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Wed 10/22/08 08:17 PM
She wants her maiden name back after 20 plus years together. Is this to say she is ashamed to have been with me?

FAK Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 7817	Wed 10/22/08 08:17 PM
it is and it sucks, regardless of anything.

Godschosengirl Joined Fri 09/07/07 Posts: 2491	Wed 10/22/08 08:19 PM
as many of you know, i tried for YEARS to make it work. Now I am feeling i wasted my time and energy and should have just moved on long ago. I know the feeling. I felt the same way after my divorce. However, if I HADN'T had tried EVERYTHING I could have before ending it, I would have regreted it the rest of my life. Loss of time I can live with, regrets & not knowing if I could have fixed it, not so much.

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Wed 10/22/08 08:22 PM
as many of you know, i tried for YEARS to make it work. Now I am feeling i wasted my time and energy and should have just moved on long ago. I know the feeling. I felt the same way after my divorce. However, if I HADN'T had tried EVERYTHING I could have before ending it, I would have regreted it the rest of my life. Loss of time I can live with, regrets & not knowing if I could have fixed it, not so much. I do feel that I tried my best to make the unhappy happy. Time will tell all.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Wed 10/22/08 08:28 PM
I think it's normal, I should be getting mine soon & it's a little sad

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Wed 10/22/08 08:31 PM
I think it's normal, I should be getting mine soon & it's a little sad i hear ya, bud!!

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Wed 10/22/08 08:32 PM
I think it's normal, I should be getting mine soon & it's a little sad i hear ya, bud!! Cheers brother

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Wed 10/22/08 08:33 PM
I've been divorced three times so I've had a little practice. The only thing that makes it better is time. It'll hurt like hell for awhile and then one day you'll notice that it doesnt bother you so much (it'll never go away completely)

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Wed 10/22/08 08:34 PM
I think it's normal, I should be getting mine soon & it's a little sad i hear ya, bud!! Cheers brother

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 10/22/08 08:39 PM
Normal. There a grieving process that you go through.

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Wed 10/22/08 08:42 PM
Yeah it's normal to be sad It's called feelings But you'd be alright Been there too