How is it that my soon to be ex-husband is having a child with his new
gf who's still married to her husband, but can't afford to pay for the
two he has with me already?!?!?! I'm so frusterated and hurt. My own two
kids never get to see him. He makes no effort to send them b-day cards
or come visit them. I'm so angry!!!! Ugh...

Feel sorry for her, honey! Be grateful to be rid of him, and happy
you've met someone who can appreciate you and your kids. I'm sure the
man you're with now is a much better influence then that clown could
ever be!! Don't worry about the money - we mom's always manage somehow.
Don't let him take away any more of your happiness, I'm sure he's done
enough of that already. And if he's not seeing his children he's the
one who's missing out, not them. And if you don't have a good lawer, get
one. Deadbeat dads deserve to be punished!

All the best from your fellow bartender-

That70sGirl1959 :)

I know just frusterating he should take care of the kids he already has
not have more of them.

There's always the courts to have him begin to pay.

Take it from a man that has stepped into feplace my sons biological
father. I am going through a divorce and Grant was there when I met my
soon to be ex-wife. When she told me she was leaveing, he was the first
thing that came to my mind. I cannot loose my boy. I know she cannot
stop me from seeing my daughter as she is mine (noone can argue about
that). But if your ex does not want to be part of their lives that is
his mistake. You should not be angry, since your BIO clearly says that
you found someone. If he was not good to your children, i am sure that
you would not give him a second glance. That being said embrace the
relationship between him and your children and let it go (as long as you
are sure he will be around for a long time)

My relationship with my son is so strong that there is nothing she could
do to take him away from me (he would not alow it, nor would I). I guess
is what I am saying is to focus on your kids lifes and your yours, and
never let them hear you talk bad about their real father. They will see
what is going on and form their own opinion. It is hard to deal with but
in the end it will always work out.

Just a side note a lot of states have changed their suport laws. In a
couple of states if he does not pay they will revoke his drivers
license. I know that this does not help much now, but if you always let
the courts know that he has not paid they will get him. Not to mention
he will never be able to go anywhere in the US and get a new license
(the reason states started using this technique). LOL

I know how you feel aleacim831 my ex b.f has 4 other kids besides mine
and he doesnt have anything to do with any of his kids not even mine. He
is a loser who doesnt want to work and tells me he wants to take time to
enjoy life. Yeah well you cant do that when you have 5 friggen kids. And
i would like to take time to enjoy life as well but i have a baby to
think about its sad when men and women can just give up and have nothing
to do with thier childern

Thank you. Seeing as he has no DL that wouldn't help lol. I love my kids
and the man I'm with now is an incredible loving person whom we are
lucky to have in our lives.

Sry Autumn that sucks. (((BIG HUG)))

Sorry it was a thought, and I happy that you and your kids have a good
man. Every child deserves to have a good woman and man in their lives.
Helps balance everything about a child. Hope everything works out.

Mac,, I am sorry you are going through this,, I dont
know the laws in your state,,, I can tell you even
without a DL, The courts can put a hold on it if he
ever procedes to get one in the future, In Ca, the
courts can put a hold on his income tax returns and
also garnish his wages,,,and spend time in jail, I
would contact the courts, Children services dept
and see what advice they give you,,, also in the
divorce papers if support was granted to you, then
procede to collect on this,,, I am sure thier agencies
out thier where you live at no cost or low cost to
you in order to collect the support you children
deserve,,, I will say that I am so happy that you and
Lion have each other, and that he is thier for you
and the children,, Smile Sweetie it takes time,, and
determination to get what is rightfully deserved,,,
Karma,, will get him in the end,,, what comes around
goes around,,, He is missing out on the lives of
two Incredible Children... Sorry Sweetie, Wish I
could help you more.

lamom has it right. go to the courts and deal with it, not only can
they work with the drivers license and garnish income etc., they can and
will put the person in jail. Also if you follwow through and he
continues to not pay so the state garnishes, et? it will all go on his
credit report as well A lot of states ar starting to put it in
everything if you ar enot paying support, in the hopes that the more
available the info is that you are not paying, the more likely yhou will
pay.

also like in michigan, in my case. If I choose to hire a pi to track
her down cause she is not paying and wont provide ana ddress, etc? I
can then turn around and have the costs of the pi tacked onto what she
already owes me in back support.

they'll remember that you were the one that was there for them.

in the beginning, i was very angry that my ex could just write off his
children completely. and then i realized...a person that COULD do that
is not someone i want around them in the first place. he did them and
me a favor.

in the end, that's what's important...your gain, his loss.

Amen to it, Lulu




*Huge Grin*