Last night i came to a realization that stung a little more than i thought it would My best friend and I have been through a lot of really hard times together he'll be the first to tell you without the friendship we have he would've been a sinking ship. because of all we've faced together our bond is very deep and solid not in a romantic sense though awhile back he finally found someone that makes him happy and i was really excited for him early on though she started acting threatened by my involvement in his life I tried to get rod of her fears by telling her he was pretty much my brother he told her the same thing and it does no good. She makes no effort to hide annoyance when im around and when I try to make friends with her for his sake she wont have any of it. She asked me last night if he and I still talked part of me wanted to lie but I hate being dishonest so I said of course we do. Her response was "Oh..." I started to feel uncomfortable so i just left but i ended up with a really nasty message from her this morning. I sent my best friend the usual good morning text he asked what was up and i told him what had happened he said he was only her second boyfriend. I thought about it for a long time and i think the only right answer would be to step out of the picture to make things easier because he has enough stress from training and trying to explain to her that his job with the military has to come first i don't want to add to the chaos and stress. this conclusion really really hurt but i'm willing to do it for him. is it the right solution or is there a better less painful one?

You can step aside for now but, know that you'll alway's be friend's.

I wouldn't. Friends stand by each other no matter what. Sounds like she's got some insecurities to deal with!

I would grab the friend in front of her and lay the biggest wettest kiss on him. Then when you finish, grab her and do the same thing. When you'r finished kissing her throw her to the floor. Tell her to "learn it, live it, love it" then step away with ya bad self.

You may want to ask him if he feels the same way about you stepping back for a bit.Thats what i would do.Good luck!

Or you could do that too!

This girl needs to grow up. You don't separate, or try to separate, friends over your own insecurities. This is HER problem, dear.

LOL i'm not quite that outward but ya made me laugh

How does your friend feel about the situation... Does he think that it would be wise for the two of you not to hang out or text? and my next question would be... have you and your friend given the g/f any reason to be jealous other than you guys are friends? Long walks through the park? private phone conversations? stuff like that... I'm thinking that maybe he is your "1" and she sees it clear as day and the 2 of you just haven't realized it yet...

he really doesn't want me to step aside because of all we've been through and i promised him i wouldn't but now i just dont see any other way there has never been any grounds for her to be worried its not like we're all cuddly and mushy like i said we act like brother and sister she's just insecure and paranoid we try to ignore it but its making him angry and its killin me inside he's ditched her once but she claimed to be lost without him but she's weird last night she got angry at him and assumed he didn't wanna talk to her because he dozed off instead of calling her. he doesn't sleep much because he's worried about his having to go to afghanistan which is understandable i've tried to help her understand but all she thinks about is how it affects her

Ummmmm. I'll say it again. HER PROBLEM.

Well let me ask you this. Why haven't you and him hooked up if you're that close?

I don't know i've just never felt that way about him

be polite to her( i am sure you are )and continue the friendship...she will accept it or not.......you have no control over that.....in other words...what lilith said!!

Tell him to let her go and grow up cause apparently she hasn't yet. He's about to face a life changing event, the last thing he needs is some psychotic, insecure bimbo in his life. I stand by what i said, stick by him!

Well.....that would show her!