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| Topic: What's up with the lame comment...??? | |
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im secure enough with myself to tell you im flat broke
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I don't think it's a cop out. Some men feel a real pressure to be able to "take their girl out" and when they can't, they feel like a failure.
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money vs love hmmmmmmmmm.........
what does the magic 8 ball say???   
I'll take love and money for $500 alex!!  
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maybe he's not financially secure enough to even take care of himself, let alone go out on dates. If that's the case then more power to him for taking himself out of the "dating pool" to help himself first. I get what you're saying but then why do they pursue a woman in the first place? If you don't have the means to go out and spend some time with a woman you are interested in, then "why bother getting in the pool if you can't swim " 
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Maybe the idea that you would walk out spooked him. Guys don't like getting dumped so they beat you to the punch? Who knows. The whole Stepdaddy thing is a big issue for some folks. I am not sure it is all money but it is a lot to take on a whole family even if the partner is capeable.
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I am recently divorced. I take care of twin seven year old boys and myself but I don't have a lot of money. I met a woman (not on here). She was nice and everything but 3 months in a relationship she said" You don't have the resources to be with me" and that was her exit gambit. However I thought I let you know . I saw few profiles here specially in California with headings like "Au digger" (for the uninitiated Au is the chemical sign for gold) or "Are you rich enough to be with me?" or the one which says "I have an expensive taste for dinning" I can go on for ever for some of the ladies on this site. Of course not all are the same.
I can see why a man would say that .Though I am not putting a sign of approval.Men you can think it if you wish, but say "thanks but no thanks " is more graceful. I agree. I am not a gold digger...I don't even ask to go out for dinner dates and such because I am a single mom...I am also prior military- leaving me in a state with NO family for support. Some women may be out to drain other men but I am not one of those people. |
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Hey Fett I can loan ya a dollar but you will have to wait until the 32nd of the month. lol
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maybe he's not financially secure enough to even take care of himself, let alone go out on dates. If that's the case then more power to him for taking himself out of the "dating pool" to help himself first. I get what you're saying but then why do they pursue a woman in the first place? If you don't have the means to go out and spend some time with a woman you are interested in, then "why bother getting in the pool if you can't swim "
...NOT if they are using it as an EXCUSE not to pursue a relationship! |
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maybe he's not financially secure enough to even take care of himself, let alone go out on dates. If that's the case then more power to him for taking himself out of the "dating pool" to help himself first. I get what you're saying but then why do they pursue a woman in the first place? If you don't have the means to go out and spend some time with a woman you are interested in, then "why bother getting in the pool if you can't swim "
I get what you're saying...it's not about whether he has the money or not...it's about if HE feels he isn't financially secure, then why should he attempt to pursue a relationship when he doesn't think he can be in one anyway due to his "financial insecurity"...I agree with you...He shouldn't play the game if he doesn't feel ready or willing to deal with things.
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im secure enough with myself to tell you im flat broke
I admire that. I'm broke to but Blessed with enough to pay my bills 
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Edited by
RKISIT
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Tue 10/14/08 11:28 AM
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i think men say it cause they either arent interested or the woman in their eyes,by talkin to them seems money hungry or to high maintenance.
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Heck, money isn't that much of a big deal. Let's go for a walk in the park, or rent a movie....
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I am recently divorced. I take care of twin seven year old boys and myself but I don't have a lot of money. I met a woman (not on here). She was nice and everything but 3 months in a relationship she said" You don't have the resources to be with me" and that was her exit gambit. However I thought I let you know . I saw few profiles here specially in California with headings like "Au digger" (for the uninitiated Au is the chemical sign for gold) or "Are you rich enough to be with me?" or the one which says "I have an expensive taste for dinning" I can go on for ever for some of the ladies on this site. Of course not all are the same.
I can see why a man would say that .Though I am not putting a sign of approval.Men you can think it if you wish, but say "thanks but no thanks " is more graceful. I agree. I am not a gold digger...I don't even ask to go out for dinner dates and such because I am a single mom...I am also prior military- leaving me in a state with NO family for support. Some women may be out to drain other men but I am not one of those people. Shame you are far away we could have enjoyed a low cost date
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How many kids do you have???? Like someone else here said.......maybe he can barely take care of himself let alone you and your children.
And if he wants to date you....then there is the possibility of marriage sometime up the road.....yes>>?>??? a + b = C
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I'm happy with a small coke & 2 for a buck hotdogs if the company is good, Just be honest about it if you can't afford a big night out on the town.
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Heck, money isn't that much of a big deal. Let's go for a walk in the park, or rent a movie....
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maybe he's not financially secure enough to even take care of himself, let alone go out on dates. If that's the case then more power to him for taking himself out of the "dating pool" to help himself first. I get what you're saying but then why do they pursue a woman in the first place? If you don't have the means to go out and spend some time with a woman you are interested in, then "why bother getting in the pool if you can't swim "
...NOT if they are using it as an EXCUSE not to pursue a relationship! NO excuses here!!! |
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Maybe the idea that you would walk out spooked him. Guys don't like getting dumped so they beat you to the punch? Who knows. The whole Stepdaddy thing is a big issue for some folks. I am not sure it is all money but it is a lot to take on a whole family even if the partner is capeable. It was TOO early in the game for my kids to have even been an issue for him. Besides...he claims to have loved me. He wanted me to be his wife but he seriously had issues with the money thing! He was wealthy at one point in his life and lost a lot of it to a partner that embezzled from the company. He seemed frustrated to have met me "unexpectedly". |
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Might be that you are really pretty and at first they are just hoping that you don't come with all that responsibility. When men are looking at a pretty women it kind of affects their hearing even if you are telling them straight up.
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Listen, what I would do if I really wanted him is I would dig into his past and see how long he can hold a job and how long he can hold a buck. I would see if he is one to borrow money without payback or borrow money with payback, but ideally you don't want to be in a relationship with someone that borrows money at all. The frequency of borrowing money really matters here.
How long has he been without a job? Remember this is a recession so it may just be a temporary financial matter. What jobs did he hold? How much income does he make per year? What's his salary? If he is always in debt, you better run your ass off because once he has access to your bank account, it's like poking a large hole in a bucket of water. |
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