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| Topic: Dating OUTSIDE your own race ethnicity... whats the big deal | |
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Don't care who I date as long as they are between the age of "can drink" and "not dead". can drink and not dead infants drink.... 102 is still alive. dude that's a bit broad Do you give infants alcohol? And you are correct, 102 is still alive...problem? |
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I saw a woman in the pharmacy a few years ago with 4 beautiful & well behaved kids. The oldest was quietly reading to the others, They ranged in color from porcelin doll blonde to milk chocolate, all beautiful. A man asked her "Are those all your real kids?" She turned to to kids & asked them "Are you all real?" The man recovered & this gracious lady was conversing with him as I left.
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TelephoneMan.... Very well said.... Very well said indeed
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It's all based in the animalistic past of humans- see, the human race is tribal in it's beginnings, so humanity developed methods to keep the tribe strong, one of which is keeping procreation within the tribe.
Keep in mind, I have no problem with interracial couples, none whatsoever, that's just where it comes from. |
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I normally only date white men. It's who I'm attracted to, so why the hell should it matter?
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Don't care who I date as long as they are between the age of "can drink" and "not dead". LOL 
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Nice to hear all the people saying it doesn't matter but when you have mixed blood you do have to deal with it your whole life and it gets old having the bigots of the world trash one one race or another. My Grand kids look like the united nations and you would be shocked how often that has caused greif for me, or them, or my kids. Hopefully in a few more generations it won't matter at all. Peace all of ya! Mixed blood?? some reason I don't like the way that sounds. sounds like we are talking about blade the vampire or something. and to clarify. sadly in your case the issue is more that they look mixed than they are mixed. in this society everyone needs to be in a category. if someone "looks" like a spicific race or can "pass" for one race then they are ok. this of course is totally wrong and none of this should be an issue. finally how does this cause grief for you other than how they are treated. Dont really get that |
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I normally only date white men. It's who I'm attracted to, so why the hell should it matter? what if the man of your dreams isint white??? anyway the purpose of this post was to understand why.. so why do you only date white men. based on what you are saying you don't find any men other than white attractive??? |
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Edited by
beautifulsoul08
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Sun 10/12/08 08:39 AM
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well i get called racist for not dating black men. but im not my best friend is black. i just dont feel attracted to them. its my personal preferrence. nothing against black guys or anything...
i guess if you want to know why its because most of the black guys ive met and dont get me wrong im just being honest not trying to sterotype or be mean but most ive met are into the thug look. maybe its just alabama guys because enough white boys do it here too. but i want a guy who dresses respectfully white or black. also the slang some of it just seems so disrespectful. like id tap that. theres other things too. and im not saying just black guys do it but white guys do it too. and im not into stuff like that. |
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i don't, or wouldn't, date anyone who defined themselves by their race.
nor would i date someone i wasn't attracted to, just to have other people classify me as non-racist. |
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IM NOT AT ALL OPPOSED TO IT. I CAME FROM A TIME AND PLACE THAT FROWNED ON INTERRACIAL COUPLES. MY FAMILY WOULD HAVE KILLED OR DISOWNED ME FOR IT SO I ONLY EVER DATED CAUCASION WOMEN. PEOPLE PLEASING WAS ONE OF MY HANGUPS AT ONE TIME IN MY LIFE.
ANYMORE I COULD GIVE A SHlI WHAT PEOPLE THINK,AS LONG AS IM HAPPY 
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Lets talk about why this is still a big deal to some ( probably more so than we realize because this is politically incorrect to feel such a way. I consider myself an open minded individual> I feel that i make it known that i am what i like to call " equal opportunity" when it comes to dating. but one day at work i was in the office and they were talking about the type of woman i need in my life. I said " well heads are never setting me up with anyone" my boss replied " well i just don't know that many black women" " i stated " what does that have to do with anything". Lets talk about it my boss replied " well i just don't know that many black women" " i stated " what does that have to do with anything". ^^^It has alot to do with everything as far as how you were brought up. Now i went through this post and read alot of what everyone said and i have to say, most avoided talking how it is still to this day that a black person and white person dating is acceptable in many eyes. It's not and most will look away if they see them walk by. You will never here someone make a remark when a white person is dating any other race. Some tell me why that is? |
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I dont know if I missed anything, but every post I saw that actually mentioned races was only black and white. There are a lot more than that. I dated an Chinese girl for 2 years.
For me it would just be if I liked them or not. My grandmother was mad when she first found out I was dating an asian girl, but then fell in love with her. We have been broken up for 2 years and she still asks me if we will ever get back together. In fact, most my family asks me that lol. |
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I don't care what color or race...
As long as I am attracted to him and we love each other-  
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well i get called racist for not dating black men. but im not my best friend is black. i just dont feel attracted to them. its my personal preferrence. nothing against black guys or anything... i guess if you want to know why its because most of the black guys ive met and dont get me wrong im just being honest not trying to sterotype or be mean but most ive met are into the thug look. maybe its just alabama guys because enough white boys do it here too. but i want a guy who dresses respectfully white or black. also the slang some of it just seems so disrespectful. like id tap that. theres other things too. and im not saying just black guys do it but white guys do it too. and im not into stuff like that. A few things 1 you can have 30 black friends that does not make you an openminded individual or " not racist". In actuality you don't appear to be racist but reading your words one might place you in the ignorant or close minded catagory. Why?? You don't feel attracted to black guys is a pretty big thing since there are so many lack men in the world. No denzel? Tyson beckford? Some random flash of a man on the tv that made you think " he is hot" I guess maybe some people don't find that unusual. Next you REALLY contradict yourself when you say you don't like how they act or dress and then say you know that's not exclusive to black men. Do you know why that is? Its because that is called acting/ personifying a " thug" or a "G" So I'm still confused a bit Also the slang as disrespectful..... Hmm how many male friends do you have? Cause you don't have to use slang do disrespect a woman..... So you are not racist.. You just don't want to date anyone disrespectful , Someone who dresses respectfully, not a thug? And so that's why you dont date black men? I genuinely don't believe you are racist but you seem to have been somewhat caught up in stereotypes And not realize it. You should re-read your post and see how borderline ignorant it sounds. You are better off saying that nonestly you aren't attracted to blaxk guys for some reason that to. Basically say I don't listen to stereotypes but I don't like black men because of stereotypical behavior that I have imprinted on black men as a whole. But that's just my view. |
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Don't care who I date as long as they are between the age of "can drink" and "not dead". can drink and not dead infants drink.... 102 is still alive. dude that's a bit broad Do you give infants alcohol? And you are correct, 102 is still alive...problem? Pardon the sarcasm but to be technical you didn't say drink alcohol you said drink and alive can be any age so I was sarcastically highliting that you are basically stating that you will date anyone... Further more kids are drinking pretty early these days... |
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Lets talk about why this is still a big deal to some ( probably more so than we realize because this is politically incorrect to feel such a way. I consider myself an open minded individual> I feel that i make it known that i am what i like to call " equal opportunity" when it comes to dating. but one day at work i was in the office and they were talking about the type of woman i need in my life. I said " well heads are never setting me up with anyone" my boss replied " well i just don't know that many black women" " i stated " what does that have to do with anything". Lets talk about it my boss replied " well i just don't know that many black women" " i stated " what does that have to do with anything". ^^^It has alot to do with everything as far as how you were brought up. Now i went through this post and read alot of what everyone said and i have to say, most avoided talking how it is still to this day that a black person and white person dating is acceptable in many eyes. It's not and most will look away if they see them walk by. You will never here someone make a remark when a white person is dating any other race. Some tell me why that is? You bring up a good point but I have to somewhat dissagree. First let me say this deff isint a " white or black" thing. I think that white and black is more openly talked about or in the forefront..... But this is deff a human issue |
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 I don't have a drinking problem... I drink, I get drunk, I fall down.No problem.
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I dont know if I missed anything, but every post I saw that actually mentioned races was only black and white. There are a lot more than that. I dated an Chinese girl for 2 years. For me it would just be if I liked them or not. My grandmother was mad when she first found out I was dating an asian girl, but then fell in love with her. We have been broken up for 2 years and she still asks me if we will ever get back together. In fact, most my family asks me that lol. Hi 5 It seems like I Hi 5 a lot of your posts. But you are dead on I never said black or white I just asked why is dating outside you race/ ethnicity can be an issue/ what's the big deal |
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It is only a problem if your friends and family make it a problem. I've dated several women who had a different racial/ethnic then me. It was never a problem. Not to mention it would be hypocritical of me to say otherwise. I have a variety of races in my back ground. And am very proud of my Native American heritage.
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