What do I do when someone stops talking to you?

Here's the deal. I met someone on Mingle2. We email for several weeks which led to phone calls, IM'ing and text messages.

Throughout this whole process, it became obvious we were about as close as a match as you would expect. There was never anything negative, no quirkiness, nothing. We were destined for blissful happiness.

We finally met this week for coffee. The first two minutes were consumed with hugs and kisses. No kidding, this was expected and it was awesome. Our coffee meet lasted for 3 and an half hours. Nether of us wanted to leave but had to. Tentative activity plans were discussed. Yes, we both agreed that that we were perfect for each other.

I haven't heard from her in several days. I've left 5 voice mails and 2 text messages. I stopped yesterday as I figured she knew I've been trying to reach her.

No clues, answers or anything. I'm not jumping to any conclussions but this has me quite disappointed.

Any thoughts?

sorry but I think she may have had a change of heart, or maybe she is going thru something at the moment. Give her time to respond on her own. good luck.

things like this happen..I know it hurts and now you are lonely cuz you have no one else to spend that time with..like texting and calling...move on it is not the easiest thing in the world but you just gonna have to..if she want to continue she will get in touch if not there are many on here that are worthy of all this attention...

show up at her door naked

Forget about her. You did everything right. Chasing her around any further is a disservice to yourself.

Courteously email her and tell her you just wanna' know she's okay and that you'll then commence to leave her alone once you are assured she's safe.

Her reaction will tell you all you need to know for your own curiosity. Then, move forward with no regret.

Sorry it happened dude, but welcome to the interweb dating clusterf**k.

Then, show up at Tina's naked.

You may be jumping the gun assuming the worst. Two days isn't all that long to not talk to someone ya know? Give her some time. Maybe something serious is going on.

Maybe she's scared because she DID find someone so compatible, or maybe everything was there except for the physical chemistry and she didn't want to hurt your feelings to your face. But, it's pretty chicken of her not to communicate it. And, there is one awful thing to consider as it happened to my ex-husband.... he was to finally meet a gal from online and she REALLY DID pass away in a car wreck during a bad storm. Parents emailed her and there really was an obit in the paper. God forbid!!!
And, maybe she is just mulling stuff over.

Stalk them...they like it

There's your answer.

He asked for the ladies advice

Just send one last email if you haven't already, stating your confusion and asking her where she stands and just leave it at that. If she balked, then you might not ever have answers.


I know it sucks, I went through something similar about had talked for months and months. When we met everthing seemed fine, but I got a negative energy vibe. I pushed for him to give me an answer and it was that he cared but wasn't in love. Hopefully, in your situation it is different, but you may just have to let go.

women are evil




men are stupid

just let it go...if she digs you she will call back..

Only leave one. It's her turn to respond unless 2 or 3 days elapse.

Leave one more message...


wait - 7 days... and leave the final message.


If she doesn't respond after that... move on.

wow........5 voice mails>??????

Youre being a girl geeeeeeeeeez!!! PlaY IT cool and she will respond!!!

Yeh, that is already game over. move on

I sent one last text message Friday...."i'd feel better if i knew what you know. please reply".

Yeah, she knows you're interested. It's possibly something came up, but if she continues not to get back to you for a week or two, you can safely assume that she's no longer interested.

Yeah, it's time to move on. In this day with communication as easy as it is, everyone having a cell attached to their ear or texting like crazy, she's had the opportunity to respond if she wanted to. Sorry hon.