It's not a one shot deal. We have more than one and we may or may not be with them in this lifetime. What we really mean by "soulmate" is that we are looking for someone to have a close, fulfilling relationship with on a deep level. That is possible with more than one person in a lifetime.

The idea that some of us are half heartedly looking, got to admidt I am probably one, sounds like it is more valid than any other. I will say I have done my best to flirt with a couple and they seem stuck on dimlights and don't catch on. It is kind of demoralizeing the number of people who are also stuck on the Perfection model; has to have a perfect body, great job, no distractions, no history, and no opinions about anything.

I know. Just remember, thoughts are things and what you think is what you manifest. Easier said than done, I know.

I don't know about the maifest thing. I just wish when I see a great guy for me and tell him that I like him the way he is I just wish he would take it as a genuine compliment and not tell me that he needs to loose 30 lbs, or get a better job, or apologize for being nice to his mother. I don't want a relationship where I am always streaching to keep up or being put down for my values. I want a nice average Joe that is decent, honest, faithful, and courteous. If I make his motor run all the better. I am not fridgid I just don't want to be the snack of the week.

I've never believed in soul mates. Think it is just a made-up term by folks to express what they think they're looking for and dating sites. Because of events in my own life recently, I do have to say I believe in destiny, that the roads we chose are the ones we're meant to take us to where we need to be...at any given moment we are where we are supposed to be.

it seems, with the changing of the soul, as you speak of, comes new opportunities to meet a soul that has changed, or grown, to relate to, or correspond, to your change! Just like to keep a good thought...

if you believe, the mind will make it so...

Yes, that is exactly it and what I meant by "manifest".

Hmmm. You may very well be right. Actually, though, I don't feel like I have totally given up. I just have a tendency to over think things which works against me in this particular case.

I agree with Ruth. I believe it is possible to have more than one. I used to think there was only one. However if that's the case, my own Mom wouldn't have been lucky enough to find my Dad after her first husband died in a car accident. She would have been destined to live alone for the next 50+ years of her life.

I think it's just a matter of finding someone whom you feel you can connect with on the deepest of levels and feel secure in that connection. It doesn't mean that person fits your every want and is exactly what you've always dreamed a lover/mate to be. That will never happen and your destined to fail in a search for your own view of perfection. I think it means that with that person you are willing to compromise on a few small things because the bigger picture is so appealing.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”
~Richard Bach

I was wondering if that joke was gonna fall completely flat.

Thanks for rescuing a perfectly good joke Woody...lol